Moving at Your Decision-Making Pace

This essay was like a lightbulb for me, and you can replace workplace clockspeed with any influencing clockspeed. Your family has a clockspeed. Your partnership has a clockspeed. Whatever you allow to influence you has a clockspeed.

So if you have been working for a company that moves at X pace, and you’ve been laid off, your brain tells you that you need to have everything figured out within X pace. Even if you could figure it out at a different pace. Your brain has been wired to think that you need to move faster or slower than you technically need to move. Part of your job, once that job is done, is to uncouple your brain from that job and remember your pace.

The same goes for marriage or any breakup. You don’t have to figure out your next move at the relationship’s speed. You need to move at your own speed. If you’ve been making family-building decisions quickly to be ready for the next cycle, when you take a step back, you also need to take a step back from that decision-making pace.

See if it resonates with you.