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673rd Friday Blog Roundup

As hard as it is to talk about my own books, I’m finding it ten times harder to talk about the twins’ book.  It is slowly making its way to people’s homes and bookstores, and we’ve been getting excited messages from people telling us that it arrived.

It is a gorgeous book; thick pages and densely packed information.  Sometimes when they’re at school, I take one of the author copies off the stack in the living room and thumb through it and think, “Holy shit.  My kids wrote this.”

Hello Scratch

If you are currently stressing about a gift to give a child between the ages of… oh… let’s say 8 and 16 (you probably couldn’t be younger and read it, but you could certainly be older and still get a lot out of it), may I suggest Hello Scratch?  It’s smart and clever and you’ll make fun games PLUS you will actually understand computer science once you’re finished reading it.

But wait!  What if you don’t have anyone in your life who likes computers?  What if everyone you’re buying a gift for is a computer hater?  You can still support the twins.  Tweet about their book, Facebook about it, recommend it to a friend, tell your local school library they should get a copy.  Scream about it on a street corner.  It all works.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Look No Tubes is writing about pregnancy after infertility.  The little things that many women never think about, like how scar tissue can affect ultrasounds.  The research skills that got her through infertility are still serving her well through pregnancy.  We really do end up knowing our bodies like old frenemies.

My Path to Mommyhood has a heartbreaking post about her donated embryos.  They did not survive the thaw.  She writes, “And just like that, the last dream of hope has died.”  It is a post where she peels back many layers of grief.  Her words made me wish I could be in the same room, holding her hand while she cries it out.

Bent Not Broken has a moving post about decorating the tree.  As she unwraps the ornaments, she is flooded with memories.  She writes, “I had a good cry as I hung them all on the tree. I let all of the hopes and dreams and changes in plans from the last ten years wash over me.”  If you are having a hard time this holiday season, go sit with her next to her Christmas tree.  There are people out there who get it.

Lastly, Today’s the Day had great results with last year’s defining word, and she has set forth her new word for 2018: balance.  I especially love the last thought because balance is something that you only have if you create it.  I took some steps recently to regain some balance in my own life, so I may join her and share the word.

The roundup to the Roundup: Support the twins!  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between December 8th and 15th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

December 15, 2017   3 Comments

672nd Friday Blog Roundup

I got a winter coat.  I’ve been getting by with a Polartec pullover for the last 20+ years.  When I say “getting by,” I mean, not going outside because it’s too cold.  But here’s the thing: I also didn’t believe that a coat would make a big difference.  You see those pictures of scientists working at the South Pole and they are all wearing coats but look very cold.  Like ice-crystals-in-their-beard cold.  Even with a coat AND a hat.

But I’ve had my mind changed by currently-nameless-but-you-know-I’m-going-to-name-it coat.  It’s ultralight and silky.  Like I’ll be talking to people and the Wolvog will point out that I am mindlessly rubbing my hand up and down my arm because it deliciously feels like I’m wrapped up in a wearable sleeping bag.  And it’s warm!  I guess I forgot that DC isn’t as cold as the South Pole so the average coat probably does keep a person warm in this climate.

The best part about my coat?  It has this zipper that you open on the inside of the coat, and that pocket turns into a little pouch.  When you enter a building, you can stuff your coat into the attached pouch and the whole thing becomes small enough to throw into your purse.

I’d like to apologize to my mother for agitating her for the past 20 years by showing up in a Polartec pullover.  I’ve been converted.  I’m a coat-wearer now.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

If you only read one thing this week, please let it be this essay in the Washington Post about the loss of a child from an accidental overdose.  Did you know that time-release pills will slowly continue to affect a person even if she throws them up?  I didn’t.  That due to the nature of the pills, the person could look fine for hours and no one would suspect what happened?  I am a careful person — an overly careful person — but not when it comes to medication.  Until now.

Not a Wasted Word has a post about the weight of words unsaid.  She writes, “I cried, and I felt ashamed for the tears I shed. I hadn’t realized the weight of so many things left unarticulated. There is much I don’t say, for fear… of what exactly I do not know.  The fear you cannot name is the most terrifying of all.”  It’s a well-said statement of words released.

Lastly, No Kidding in NZ was interviewed last Saturday in a newspaper magazine feature as well as an online copy.  It’s a fantastic magazine cover, and if you click over, you get to hear Mali’s accent.  What?  Is that shallow that I relished the important message of the piece AND her accent?  In any case, it’s a very well-written article.

The roundup to the Roundup: Coats really work!  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between December 1st and 8th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

December 8, 2017   12 Comments

671st Friday Blog Roundup

Meghan Markle, I feel like I know you.  The ChickieNob delivers dozens of little tidbits about your upcoming nuptials throughout the day, including commentary on your ring, choice of church, and how Prince Harry proposed.  My brain used to be filled with other information, but now I only have room for royal wedding facts.

The one nice thing about her engagement is that the ChickieNob is jumping out of bed in the morning to (1) check the news and (2) sometimes write a blog post.  The ChickieNob is not a morning person and usually requires much cajoling and a few threats to move from her bed, so this has been a welcomed change.  I want to ride this new morning routine straight to that May wedding date.

My world is full of exclamation marks right now because this! is! so! exciting!

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

My Path to Mommyhood has a post about a truly baffling phrase and a question: “Is your death sadder if you have children?  Is your life worth more because of it?”  Yes, I’m going to make you read the whole post to understand the questions because I’m sneaky like that.  But the answer is no.  (Though I totally wish she had delivered the snarky response at the end.  Mwaaaah ha ha.  That was my typed of version of the laughter.)

Countingpinklines has a post about friendship.  She writes, “the only people I’m capable of maintaining a friendship with these days are those who listen to me” but she also unpacks an interesting situation with a friend that she has pulled away from after the friend’s pregnancy.  Plus there is plenty of food for thought on pausing friendships.

Lastly, The Road Less Travelled made ME cry with her post about crying over the royal engagement.  There is a little hop of the heart when you think about how far we’ve come.  But it’s also that other side of watching a young couple come together and hope that they get to have a lifetime of happiness with each other.  Sniff.

The roundup to the Roundup: An American is marrying into the royal family.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between November 24th and December 1st) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

December 1, 2017   8 Comments

670th Friday Blog Roundup

Last week, we went to the movies and the woman behind the counter seemed familiar.  I asked her if she had ever worked at a shop in town, and she immediately said, “Was I rude to you?”

I was taken aback, and I said, “No, absolutely not.”

But she kept repeating, “I probably was rude.  That’s just how I was back then.”  I kept reassuring her that I only had fond memories of interactions with her at the shop.  She wouldn’t look at me; she just kept smiling tensely at the counter between us and repeating her assertion that she had probably been rude.

I was thrown off because I couldn’t tell if she had been fired over interactions with customers and she still carried baggage from that situation, or if she had left by her own volition and was in a constant state of inwardly cringing at her past.  All I know is that my subconsciousness associates her with kindness and good times and happiness.  So clearly the way she remembers herself is very different from how I viewed her as an outsider.

I guess I’m saying this because I’m still thinking about it, and that it goes both ways.  That outsiders may judge us harshly without knowing our story.  And, at the same time, we may judge ourselves harshly whereas strangers view us as a source of kindness.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

An Engineer Becomes a Mom has a post about the universe working in strange ways to bring the right thing at the right moment.  In this case, it was a telephone call last spring, and this old draft-post-pushed-live gives the backstory of the moment when someone from her biological father’s family reached out.  I found it incredibly moving.

NotMyLinesYet has a post about all the things missing: from her period to her willingness to interact with her own body.  It’s one of those important, must-read posts that give you insight into the world of infertility.  What we go through physically and emotionally.

Lastly, Anabegins has an eye-opening post about the FOMO that is built into Thanksgiving (and, frankly, every other holiday, too).  Either you feel the pressure to travel to be with people, even with the stress of traffic or high airfare costs, or you make something closer to home and deal with that stress.  Either way, it’s like the upside down of holidays: the part that Hallmark probably doesn’t want us to think about too deeply, but a really interesting question about how we set our stress and emotional-tugging limits.

The roundup to the Roundup: Sometimes we’re better than we think.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between November 17th and 24th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

November 24, 2017   5 Comments

669th Friday Blog Roundup

This week I went into my settings to discover what Facebook knows about me.  90% of it is wrong.  I really felt like I was being trolled by Facebook; like it was showing me wrong information to tease me.  But it did figure out that I like video games.  I do.  I like video games very very very much.

Which is why it has hurt my heart that I’ve been playing fewer video games over the last few months.  I took on too many work contracts, which is excellent for our budget and terrible for my video game time.  I’m trying to be a grown up about it, but it’s hard because I’m not very mature.

Mostly I’m saving up all of my energy and video gaming time for Wizards Unite.  I refused to play Pokemon Go because I hated their terms of service, but I’m totally willing to hand over all my personal information to pretend to be a wizard.  I am so excited for this game.  Are you going to play?

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

  • None… sniff.

Okay, now my choices this week.

Baby Smiling in Back Seat has a post about being too scared to speak up about her infertility in the past.  She writes, “An opportunity had presented itself to educate a large group of people about infertility. The whys, the hows, the whos, all of it. A topic I knew better than almost any other. But it was too raw for me and I didn’t.”  There is more to this story than contained in the post, but it’s still food for thought: about expiration dates for talking about infertility (is there one?) and the topics we find we can’t speak about despite being experts due to life experience.

I adore The Road Less Travelled’s post about what she has learned from 10 years of blogging, which also inversely contains thoughts on getting through 10 years of living childless/childfree after loss and infertility without blogging.  It is a fantastic list, and it made my heart swell thinking about how much I love our little corner of the blogosphere.

Lastly, Something Out of Nothing has a post about her second pregnancy — another hard-fought pregnancy — and how it is different from the first time around.  It was interesting how it mirrors many of the statements made by women pregnant without assistance, but also the difference between how pregnancies are monitored in different parts of the world.

The roundup to the Roundup: Harry Potter augmented reality!  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between November 10th and 17th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

November 17, 2017   4 Comments

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