Just because it is the oldest request in the world, and we have been talking about this on blogs for at least 18 years and on bulletin boards before that (so… no… People magazine. This isn’t an original idea), it’s still worth talking about: separate waiting rooms at the OB/GYN for pregnant vs. non-pregnant patients.

I was trying to come up with other situations where separating people would be compassionate (as opposed to the pediatrician’s office, which separates sick kids from wellness visits to lessen the spread of germs), where the reason for the visit would be common enough that many people would be impacted daily vs. an individual situation.

Would it be equally awful to be shunted to a different waiting room? To watch some people go into one room and feel even more left out, knowing that this is your waiting room for the time being, with the desire to be in the other waiting room? In protecting people’s feelings, would we inadvertently create different, equally terrible ones?

Those were my thoughts over the last 18 years of thinking about this.

Remember this post from back in January? I thought that idea was freakin’ brilliant.

But we were watching One Day, and Emma says the same thing when she is reading a page from Thomas Hardy’s Tess of the d’Urbervilles :

“She suddenly thought one afternoon, when looking in the glass at her fairness, that there was yet another date, of greater importance to her than those; that of her own death, when all these charms would have disappeared; a day which lay sly and unseen among all the other days of the year, giving no sign or sound when she annually passed over it; but not the less surely there. When was it?”

The ChickieNob and I paused the show to look it up because I didn’t remember it in the book. (It turns out it is in there as a quote before a chapter.) But they made it a scene in the television show, so it stood out, whereas my eye passed over someone else’s words in the book. Was this brilliant idea from 1891 the first time it was said? Was it a copy then, too? Did my brain partially remember reading it, even though I sometimes skip over those quotes that begin chapters?

And did Dann McDorman, the author of West Heart Kill, know it had already been said? Did he read it himself or pick it up from a conversation with someone else? The transfer of ideas or the same thought popping up in two different worlds over a century apart?

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Every year elevates me to a new level of crankiness about April Fools Day. Yes, the fake pregnancy announcements were worse ten years ago when it was possible for the vast majority of my Facebook feed to possibly get pregnant, whereas by now, it sounds so far-fetched that I scroll on by without pause, but it doesn’t make the holiday any less annoying.

It’s hard enough to figure out reality without adding a fake holiday into the mix for the sole purpose of creating more confusion.

Bah humbug, or whatever the equivalent is for April Fools Day.

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I’m not sure why CafeMom needed to do a roundup last week of all the times Anne Hathaway spoke about infertility and loss, but I did think the first situation sounded hellacious.

She was in a play about “an F16 fighter pilot whose career stalls after she unexpectedly becomes pregnant,” and every night after her miscarriage, she had to get on stage and pretend to be pregnant and give birth.

Night after night after night.

While it’s not a competition, having to go to work and teach kids when I couldn’t have kids myself was pretty awful, too. Still, at least I wasn’t the only person in a one-woman show, up on a stage with every eye in the theater only watching me, living out my otherwise for other people’s entertainment.

I first saw the news about the Baltimore bridge as a headline when I woke up at 6 a.m. I rolled over in bed, checked my phone, and clicked on the news alert. It sounded like the boat damaged part of the bridge, and I wondered if everyone was okay and whether it would impact traffic.

When I Googled the bridge, the first hit was its Wikipedia article, and I realized that it was written in past tense — as in, the bridge was no more. Someone had updated the article, already declaring it gone. It took more clicking to find a news article with the whole story and the bridge’s complete collapse. It’s unfathomable.

My heart goes out to the crew members who were on the bridge that night.

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Stop procrastinating. Go make your backups. Don’t have regrets.

Seriously. Stop what you’re doing for a moment. It will take you fifteen minutes, tops. But you will have peace of mind for days and days. It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second, helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. To read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

• None… sniff.

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Barreness has a post about her father’s fall that changed all of their lives. She writes: “My life has forever been altered and spun out of control.” It is about how a traumatic event can change your life in a second, and my heart is with her as her family navigates this situation.

Lastly, No Kidding in NZ has miscellaneous thoughts about aging without children. One interesting idea: Does having a younger generation in the house help you adjust to new technology (or, before computers, adjust to the new butter churn)? And what happens when a younger generation has taken you down the technology road and then moves out while things are still in flux? It’s an interesting topic.

The roundup to the Roundup: Bridge collapse. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between March 22 – 29) and not the blog’s main URL. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week. Read the original open thread post here.