My perfect moment came to me around 12:30 am Saturday night (Sunday morning), and no plan hatched in the wee hours of the morning can ever go wrong.

In the event of a power outage from the Frankenstorm, we should move any food out of our second freezer into our first freezer, ensuring that our first freezer is now packed (freezers can retain their temperature up to 48 hours in a power outage as long as said freezer is somewhat full) and we’ll fill the second freezer with water bottles.  Then, when the power inevitably goes out, we’ll race down to our refrigerator and move some of the freezable items — such as the milk or half-and-half — to the second freezer.  Which will keep them colder and safe to consume for days, and we won’t need to open our main freezer door at all.  Please don’t tell me if there are any holes in this plan because by the time you are reading this, we have likely already lost power and my plan is in motion.  Please only congratulate me on its brilliance.

Unlike the derecho this summer when we only got a two hour warning at best (and I ignored all two hours of warnings), we’ve had days to prepare for this storm, creating an almost festive atmosphere.  We went out shopping on Friday night for supplies and the store was packed with people, randomly grabbing bags of Doritos and ice.  Though the stores were cleaned out of things such as batteries and water, everyone sort of had a bemused attitude towards preparations.  To get us through multiple days without power, we’ve amassed a feast of peanut butter, peanuts, wasabi peas, apples, bananas, vegan marshmallows, and granola bars.  I prepped a blanket I want to finish for the ChickieNob since I can hand-sew sans power.  I printed out parts of the new book so I can continue to work on it on paper (what a novel concept) during the power outage.  We are going to trick-or-treat in the house on Wednesday, Josh and I going from room to room ahead of the twins so they can knock on each door and collect the candy we would have handed out to neighbours.  We have games, we have books, we have art projects, AND WE HAVE NO SCHOOL!

It feels very strange to go into this storm in this mindset, as if it’s just one big, fun adventure.  There will be people who will lose their lives.  There will be people who will lose their homes or vehicles.  WE could be in that group, and I’ve spent a lot of time worrying about the trees around our house.  It feels wrong to go into the storm like this, and yet, how else can you react when you are facing down a natural disaster?  There is nothing we can do to stop this, nothing we can do to change what will happen.  There’s nothing to do but hope for the best and send out constant communications with everyone we know and love: Are you alright?  Are you alright?  Are you alright?

It’s sobering.  It’s quieting.  And yet, like violinists playing madly on the deck of the Titanic, we’ve downloaded Psy’s “Gangnam Style” and finished off a party playlist to get us through the storm.  See you on the other side.

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There are dozens of book and film sites for Harry Potter in and around London.  This post is how to visit all the film sites in the area (designated as HPFL for Harry Potter Film Location) as well as places such as Charing Cross Road to look for the real Diagon Alley (designated as HPBS for Harry Potter Book Site).  The majority of these sites are in London proper, though we also traveled out to Oxford and Windsor.

Before we get started, here are some tips specifically related to Harry Potter sites in London.  Make sure you also read some general tips on traveling in London:

• If you have some type of portable e-reader, it’s worth investing in the e-book versions of the series in order to have all of them with you while you’re walking around.  I can’t tell you how many times we had to quickly look something up in a book in order to make sure we had a fact correct, or times when we wanted to read a passage while we were standing in a certain location.  It was the easiest way to carry 7 massive books with us at all times.  We kept copies on the iPhone.
• We also brought with us the movies on the iPhone.  Again, there is nothing like telling them you’re standing in the space where Harry stood before he was sorted in the movie, and then whip out the iPhone to prove it.  We watched snippets of the films in every location.
• We cannot recommend enough getting the Harry Potter walking tour PDF.  Go to that site and request it, and the creator of the PDF will email it to you.  It is an amazing resource and the only reason we didn’t follow it to a T is that the kids haven’t read past book three.

Searching for the Real Diagon Alley (HPBS)

Diagon Alley is supposed to be somewhere off of Charing Cross Road, with the Leaky Cauldron nestled between a bookshop and a record shop.  We started at Leicester Square and wandered around that Charing Cross area.  We went into Hardy’s Original Sweet Shop, pretending it was Honeydukes.

We walked down Goodwin’s Court, which felt quieter and more magical than the surrounding streets.

We came to Cecil Court, which looks like Diagon Alley.  There are a lot of antique and specialty stores there including Watkins Books, the oldest occultist and mystical bookshop in the world.  Colin Narbeth and Sons had Gringotts bank notes in their window.

Across from Charing Cross Station is Davenport’s, a magic shop.  We went down there hoping the employees would know how to get into Diagon Alley, but instead ended up seeing a few magic tricks.

The Leaky Cauldron in the Movies (HPML)

While we never found the real Diagon Alley, we did go to Leadenhall Market, which Harry and Hagrid walked through on their way to the Leaky Cauldron in the first film.

The door of this store (Glass House) was painted black and it was used in the movie as the doorway to the pub.

The Ministry of Magic (HPML and HPBS)

Near Great Scotland Yard (Embankment stop on the tube) is the location for the visitor’s entrance to the Ministry of Magic as seen in movies five and seven.

While you stand there, imagine the Ministry underneath the streets.  There is even a square in the ground that looks as if it may have once housed the visitor’s entrance phone booth.  The Westminster tube station was used for the internal shots of the Ministry of Magic.  It’s easy to stand on the platform and imagine witches and wizards tumbling out of the fires as they travel by Floo powder.

Gringotts (HPML)

Australia House was used for the internal shots of Gringotts bank.  While you can’t go inside, you can stand in the vestibule and peek through the window at the gorgeous black and white floor.  Right outside Australia House is St. Clement Danes, so totally worth the trip out there.

Kings Cross Station (HPML and HPBS)

While all the Harry Potter locations were exciting, none were as emotional as being at Kings Cross.  If you go back towards Platform 9, you’ll see that someone has put up a sign saying Platform 9 3/4 and embedded a trolley halfway into the wall.  You can take your cute, kitschy picture there.

But we lucked out and spoke to a kind guard who whispered to the kids that Rowling put down the wrong platform in the book in order to throw Muggles off the scent.  The real platform is #4 (a side note: it’s free to walk onto Platform 4.  You need a ticket in order to access Platform 9).  Sure enough, when we ran over there, we saw the familiar curved barrier that Harry walks through to board the Hogwarts Express.

As well as the bridge that Hagrid disappears from in the first movie and Harry appears on in the seventh movie.

Down with Death Eaters (HPML)

We walked across Millennium bridge which appears at the beginning of the sixth film and was decimated by the Death Eaters.

Eton College (er… not really a Harry Potter per se, but gives the kids a good sense of a boarding school)

While you can’t go to the actual Hogwarts (and anyway, the real Hogwarts is in Scotland), you can go to Eton College and see a proper British boarding school.  The boys are always dressed as if they’re about to go to the Yule Ball.

And the classrooms have so much history.

Oxford Locations (HPML)

Scenes from the first Harry Potter movie were filmed at Christ Church in Oxford, including the stairs to reach the Great Hall.

The talk with Professor McGonagall before the sorting.

And the Great Hall itself.

There is so much we didn’t do, such as go out to the London Zoo and see the reptile house.  And there are dozens of sites we didn’t hit from the great walking tour PDF.

And, of course, if you truly want to complete the Harry Potter experience, you need to head out to Watford Junction outside the city to the Warner Brothers studio so you can walk on the actual film sets!  Which will be the subject of the next post.

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

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4. Life With Roozle (parenting, writing, food)
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6. Survive and Thrive (baby after infertility)
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8. Waiting For Baby (IUI, vasectomy reversal, PCOS)
9. Carneyexploits (IVF, life, blessed)
10. Patience is Not My Virtue (ttc, infertility, gluten-free)
11. The Barreness (art infertility contemplation)
12. The 2 Week Wait (infertility motherhood humor)
13. Life of an Army Wife (infertility, army, crafting)
14. Dear Finley (neonatal death, grief, life after loss)
15. Breathe Gently (1st-pregnancy, IVF, PCOS)
16. 1000 Oceans (ivf vet, baby loss, rpl)
17. Growing Griswolds (IVF #2 better work)
18. It Is What It Is (Or Is It?) (pg w donated embryos, short cervix, pg @ 46)
19. the misadventures of missohkay (adoption, parenting, miscarriage)
20. Genuine Greavu (infertility, miscarriage, faith)
21. Thought Provoking Moments (IVF, loss, life lessons)
22. Stupid Stork (infertility, ivf, shenanigans)
23. Tesseract (life, humour, philosophy)
24. Team Harries Beats Infertility (hiatus, faith, waiting)
25. Follow Every Rainbow (unexplained infertility UK)
26. Bébé Suisse (pregnancy after loss)
27. Crazycatladywantsbaby (ttc, fertility, funny)
28. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings (parenting after RPL, books, cooking)
29. (Still) Trying to Conceive (faith, IUI, unexplained)
30. Ready For My Bundle (pregnant after ivf, family, smc)
31. Our Journey Through This Lovely Life (ttc adventures life)
32. Arete Aspirations (divorce, motherhood, prepping)
33. Pollination Chronicles (IVF abroad, FET for baby #2)
34. Three Quarters Full (parenting after IF, life, diet)
35. Our Work of A.R.T. (pregnancy, IVF, infertility)
36. Life in Little Hispaniola (life, faith, social justice)
37. Dreaming of Dimples (inspiration, IVF, infertility)
38. Believing in June (infertility, marriage, TTC #2)
39. Gonna Do it for Baby (pregnancy, infertility)
40. Simple|South (simplicity, lagniappe, mindfulness)
41. A Daily Miracle (infertility, pregnancy, blessings)
42. Waffle-Wednesday (kids, art, poetry)
43. for all the things we hope for (endometriosis, infertility, doula-ing)
44. Home Grown Love (infertility, iui, home)
45. Pepibebe | nurturing by nature (TTC, lesbian, miscarriage)
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47. Wandering Wonderment (family, politics, local news)
48. A Bliss Filled Life (infertility, adoption,  motherhood)
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50. Unexplained Rantings (loss, infertility, adoption)
51. A Virtual Hobby Store and Coffee Haus (life, news, food)
52. Life is Simple, It’s Just Not Easy (preemies, twins, life)
53. IUI to Roux-en-Y (pregnant after WLS)
54. We Three Crabs (life, love, adventure)
55. What Am I? (adoption, openness, babies)
56. Sweet Dreams are Made of This (adoption, recipes, life)
57. My (In)fertile Confessions (twins, treating pcos naturally, clean eating)
58. Comatised (life, love, family)
59. The Buggy List (bucketlist, humor, pregnancy after loss)
60. One day at a time (male factor, adoption, IUI)
61. Who Is This Fertile Myrtle (unexplained secondary infertilty, loss)
62. It’s The Journey (infertility, TTC, fur babies)
63. Emma in Mommyland (ppd, life, parenting)
64. Frozenoj’s Concentrated Life (ttc, infertility, life)
65. Gypsy Mama’s Misconceptions (Cancun, infertility, IVF/ICSI)
66. If You Don’t Stand For Something (MFI, geekiness, general life ramblings)
67. Upper Middle Mom (parenting after IVF, twins, travel)
68. Old Lady and No Baby (infertility, decisions, ivf)
69. Journey to the Finishline (twin pregnancy, IVF/infertility, humor)
70. Life As I Know It (twins, toddler, life)
71. InDueTime (life, infertility, grief)
72. Scrambled Eggs (infertility, miscarriage, pregnancy)
73. finding the peace to the puzzle (infertility, love, hope)
74. The Quest for the Golden Egg (infertility, IVF, emotions)
75. Compromised Fertility (FET, reproductive immunology, PCOS)
76. Things Couldn’t Be Better (donor embryo, FET, humor)
77. Enjoying the Course (running, life, health)
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Where do you stand on reading someone’s private journal after they’re gone?  Will you read your loved one’s journals if you find them upon going through their personal possessions after death?  Would you be okay (once you’re gone) of someone finding your old journals and reading them?  Not the words of your public blog, but the words that you’ve written in private paper journals, only known by you.

What about the journals of a celebrity?  If the family chose to publish them upon someone’s death, would you read them, or would you eschew the entries unless the publication of the diary was the expressed wishes of the deceased?  If you were a celebrity, do you think the public would have a right — especially if you influenced popular culture — to understand you better after you’re gone and read your private thoughts?

Where do you stand on journals post death?

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

• “Screw You” (Hakuna Matata)

Okay, now my choices this week.

Journey to the Finish Line has a post about graduating from her fertility clinic.  It is bittersweet, saying goodbye to a place she never wanted to be and yet a place that has changed her completely.  She writes: “Today was my final ultrasound at the RE’s office. I walked in to a half full waiting room wondering where all of these couples were on their quest for parenthood, how long they have been on this path. I wished them all luck, silently. Then we waited.”  I smiled reading this post.

The Road Less Travelled has a response to the Huffington Post piece about mothers being in photographs, namely that it applies to a lot of women, whether parenting or not.  That some people have a tendency to always be taking pictures of others but don’t step up to have their picture taken, admitting they don’t want how they look at the moment documented.  She implores adult women to step in front of the camera, allow themselves to be seen, especially if they are other child-free women.  She asks at the end of the post an important question: “If you disappeared tomorrow, what sort of photographic record would remain of your life?“

Two posts looking back on a series of years caught my brain this week.  No Kidding in NZ has a post documenting ten year jumps to her 50th birthday.  Patience is Not My Virtue has a post on her anniversary looking back at a relationship.  I loved the rhythm of both these posts.

Lastly, Child Bearing Hips has a beautiful post about a family she knows who is moving from their home because it holds too many difficult memories.  She looks back at what has occurred in her house, how her daughter died in that house and her ashes are buried in the yard, and yet it is also the home where she can mark where she lived out favourite memories from her marriage.  It is the saddest days and the happiest days all mixed into one space, and she cannot imagine ever not living in that space despite understanding the need some people have to leave places behind.

The roundup to the Roundup: How do you feel about reading someone’s diary (or having yours read) after a death?  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 19th and 26th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

It circles through the ALI blogosphere, after a pregnancy is achieved, after a child is adopted, after a person decides to stop treatment and live child-free, after a surrogate gives birth, after and after and after all of the afters that follow wherever place your journey began.  Every blogger has a start, a place that is comfortable, a place that they know and others know them, and their blog fits snug around them.

Then the story continues, and you step away from the beginning into the next turn in the journey, and you fear that others will not be able to find you because you are no longer where you used to be.  Where you started.

You ask where you fit now.

You fit into the You-sized space you always fit into.

The one only you can fill.