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Whoa.

So I was surfing the web (remember ye olden days when we jumped from link to link vs. got spoon-fed content from our Facebook feed?) and somehow landed on this 2014 piece about taking a life audit.  I LOVE it.

You take 100 post-it notes and write down 100 wishes/life goals in an hour, stopping when the timer goes off.  If you only have 40 wishes/goals, that’s fine.  The more wishes/goals, the more you actually have to do.  So it may be more manageable to NOT get to 100.

Then you group them and get a birds-eye view of what types of things matter to you.  And then you finally prioritize by time.  And then start to do your first five activities.  It’s actually more complicated than that, and it would probably help if you read the whole thing.

But riffing off this idea, what was the first idea (wish/goal) that popped into your brain as you read this?  In other words, what would go on your first post-it note?

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A few days ago, I wrote about how I front load my week, and people commented that they had no clue what I was doing that required this type of to-do list.  So I thought I would (1) explain my schedule and (2) explain why I think you SHOULD write down things like “cook dinner.”

So the first part: I’m a contractor, which means I do work for a lot of places.  In order to balance all those projects and make sure everything gets done on time, I write it all down.  I never miss a deadline because I can pick up my bullet journal (which is where I write down notes from meeting as well as any tasks that isn’t taking place this week) or this weekly paper to-do list and see what needs to get done by the end of the day.  I’m not great at keeping things in my head.  If it doesn’t get written down, it doesn’t get done.

So there is that: I need this sort of to-do list because I work for many places.  I use this paper to-do list in conjunction with my bullet journal.

I DO write down things like cook dinner, go grocery shopping, clean the house, and see a movie.  And this is why: I don’t want to put off things so I don’t schedule more than what I have time to do in a given day.  I may move things around from time to time when new things pop up, but for the most part, I can look at how full a square looks and judge accordingly before I promise to do something.

So, for instance, I kept last Thursday pretty light because I knew I had tickets to see Hamlet at night, and it’s a four hour play.  I was going to have a hard stop by 6 pm at the latest, and I had to pick up the kids from school, make dinner, and eat dinner before the show.  So, really, a soft stop by 4:30 pm.

Knowing that, I scheduled as much as I could into Wednesday and Friday because I was trying to be realistic about Thursday, and I bumped a few things to the weekend rather than promising them by the end of the week.  If I had just written Hamlet in that square, I probably would have scheduled myself for more things, not thinking about all that goes into getting to the show on time including driving people, making a meal, and consuming it.  So I would have probably felt panicked by Thursday afternoon with my to-do list looming too large.  Instead, I got everything done because I reminded myself of everything big that needs to get done.

Do I put down ridiculous details?  No.  But the stuff that will impact how much I can get done goes on the list.  Every meeting, every project, every task that other people need me to do, every drive to an activity, every cleaning task that will take longer than 10 minutes; it all goes on the list.

I don’t think I’m abnormally busy, though my work situation means I have to organize myself in a way that I didn’t have to do when I worked for a single entity in a single location.  But I think I would still schedule my to-do list like this even if I was still teaching because it means I can visually see how my day will unfold.  It helps me to not overschedule myself but it also helps me to not underschedule myself because I do like to be involved in things.  And now, when I say “yes” or “no,” I do so knowing how much open time I actually have in my day.

Which means I can host holidays or join boards or get involved in supporting a local campaign and know that I have time to get those things done with everything else that I’m already scheduled to do.

So, yeah, write it down.  Write is all down.  It will help you rethink your life.

And yes, writing this blog post was on my to-do list as “write daily blog post.”

Today is Random Act of Kindness Day. It was started years ago by an IF blogger to mark her son’s birthday.  He died one day after his birth, and since he was not going to be able to do all the random acts of kindness he would have completed if he had lived, his parents set up this day for people to do kindness in his name.  So today I will do kind acts and I will let the person know that it was done on Thomas’s behalf.

I found out about this day over 10 years ago, and I’ve participated every year.  It’s for Thomas, but it’s really to tether all of our kids who aren’t here to do their own great acts.  And I love this sentiment: “finding ways to make the world a little nicer, a little sweeter, and a little happier on his birthday. Ripples into eternity, as they say.”  We all could benefit from a nicer, sweeter, happier world.

So in honour of Thomas, please go put something good into the world.

And let his parents know what you’ve done today in his name.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

• “Finding Asa Gray” (Searching for Our Silver Lining)
• “Having it All” (Countingpinklines)
• “That Damned Uterus” (Silent Sorority)
• “I’m Not Special.  I Feel Stupid” (Delayed But Not Denied)
• “Part of the Problem” (Not a Wasted Word)

Okay, now my choices this week.

Inexplicably Missing has a post about bumper stickers for infertiles.  Snickering and cringing over the thought of 70 embryo stickers on the back window.  I love this post for the last line: that idea of making things less invisible.  It’s easy to see what is there; much harder to see the things that are not there.

Pages, Stages, and Rages has a moving post about being out with her friend who learned that her father had been in an accident and had died.  This line gutted me: “This wasn’t the first time we’ve cried together, it won’t be the last.”  The post is an important reminder that it’s okay to not say anything.  To just sit with someone and let them know that they’re not alone.

Lastly, Res Cogitatae has a post about mentally traveling back to the clinic when she tastes a breakfast sandwich she’d get herself years ago on IUI days.  She explains, “They’ll never be ‘just’ breakfast sandwiches for me … Those sandwiches for me will always taste of the waiting room, the early mornings, and our quiet, mounting despair that we might not ever get to be parents.” For me, it’s the scent of a certain soap.  It’s amazing how our senses can emotionally bring us right back into a moment.

The roundup to the Roundup: It’s Random Act of Kindness Day.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between March 2nd and 9th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

I was listening to the Science of Happiness podcast — the episode with the director of Inside Out — and Dacher Keltner mentioned that humans experience 21 or 22 distinct emotions.  So my first question:

Is that more or less than you thought there would be?

I assumed that there were many more emotions, but when I tried to list them in my head, I didn’t come close to hitting 22 (so I’m not sure why I thought there would be more).  I looked it up when I got home, and it turns out that Keltner has a piece on Greater Good stating that there are 27 emotions.

[I put the list below because while that last link is fine to click on (it takes you to the study), the study contains a link to an emotional hypermap that shows the videos people watched to chart their emotional response and arrive at the list.  And I really really really wish I hadn’t clicked on the hypermap because I saw some disturbing images/videos.  So, just a warning that if you do read the study, don’t click willy-nilly on the hypermap link embedded in the article.  It seems a little irresponsible that the study didn’t give this warning, so I’m giving it to you.]

• Admiration
• Adoration
• Aesthetic Appreciation
• Amusement
• Anxiety
• Awe
• Awkwardness
• Boredom
• Calmness
• Confusion
• Craving
• Disgust
• Empathetic pain
• Entrancement
• Envy
• Excitement
• Fear
• Horror
• Interest
• Joy
• Nostalgia
• Romance
• Sadness
• Satisfaction
• Sexual desire
• Sympathy
• Triumph

So those are the emotions.

THEN I listened to Guy Winch as a guest on Note to Self, and he had this great point about how people only list one emotion/sensation when people ask them how they are.  They don’t say that they’re joyful with a little bit of envy mixed in and a sprinkle of excitement as they think ahead to weekend plans.

They say they’re sad.  Or they’re happy.  Or everything is fine.  I realized that I often answer that I’m tired — mostly because I am tired — but tired isn’t an emotion.  Though I don’t know why it isn’t an emotion if calmness is an emotion (and… if calmness is an emotion, why isn’t impatient or agitated?).  But anyway… I just thought it was an interesting idea to state two or more things the next time you’re asked how you’re feeling.

As I’m writing this, I feel anxious and content with a bit of satisfaction thrown into the mix.

How are you feeling?

I read a list of productivity ideas, and I put one into practice about a month ago: Planning the next week on Friday.  I actually took it a step further and plan my weeks Friday to Friday, which means that I’m actually planning my week on Thursday.  But… let me explain what happened.

Every Thursday, I take a piece of paper and fold it three times so I end up with 8 sections when I unfold it.  Then I write the days of the week at the top of each box, EXCEPT I slip an extra title called “Open Dump” after Sunday.  So if you’re looking at the paper, write Friday in the first box on the top left, then Saturday to the right, then Sunday in the box below Friday, then Open Dump to the right of Sunday, then Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday.  There’s a point to this.

So I write everything that either must get done or I think can get done on Friday, being realistic.  I mix work and personal in the same box because it’s all the same 24 hour period.  So, I create a tiny to-do list of meetings and cooking dinner and remembering to send an email and all of that.  Then I do the same for Saturday and Sunday, adding in things that we are going to do as well as maybe one or two tasks I would normally put off to the next week.

Then I get to the Open Dump box and I write down things that I need to do in the future.  So, for instance, I have a work project coming up that I’m not going to work on this week.  But I put it in there so I remember to schedule it in next week.  That square is a dumping ground for future thoughts.  Then I continue, Monday through Thursday with the rest of the squares.

I try to finish everything in the daily square and put a big slash across the square when it’s done, but if I don’t get to a task, I schedule it two days from that point (unless it is so urgent that it needs to get done the next day).

This is what tends to happen.  I look at my week and think, “Okay, I need to get all these things done on Friday.”  If I have any time, I look ahead and grab something off the Saturday list and do that, too.  So usually, when I wake up Saturday morning, one task is already done and I feel like I’m ahead instead of behind.

This snowballs through the week, making me feel like I’ve already gotten huge tasks out of the way before Monday is really underway.  And this feeling continues every day because let’s say I don’t get to something on Monday.  It goes on the list for Wednesday, right?  But I usually can get to it on Tuesday, so I start my Wednesday feeling like something big is off my plate.

My days are still the same, but my experience of looking at my to-do list feels different.  Things aren’t pooling on Thursday and Friday, making me feel like I’m dragging towards the weekend.  In fact, the list feels lighter and lighter as the week goes on.

It’s all just an illusion, but I’ll take it.