“The architecture of social media exploits our sense of right and wrong, reaping profit from the pleasure we feel in expressing righteous outrage.”

–“How Social Media Exploits Our Moral Emotions”

That was going to be the whole post, full stop.  But I suppose I should unpack the fact that if someone is deriving pleasure in expressing their righteous outrage, someone else is feeling drained from that very same exchange.  It’s not that I want people to stop.  I think the outrage, many times, is justified and necessary.  But it affects us.  Sometimes the emotional cost is the equivalent to a nickel and other times it’s equivalent to a dollar, but there are always emotional costs.  Twitter may be free to access, but it still costs you something.

But.

I don’t feel that way about blogs.  I go on blogs and read opinions, and I don’t walk away drained.  I walk away sometimes Googling for more information or disagreeing or nodding my head.  Posts stay with me for hours, but they don’t gnaw at me.

I wonder if I’d feel the same way if Facebook just let everything flow past me.  If I didn’t feel like my feed was being manipulated to see more (and more and more) of one thing.  If it didn’t feel so curated.  Blogs, at least the ones I read, still feel raw, like they did at the beginning.  We may have gotten a little fancier with our layouts, but the general content still veers towards understanding how someone is processing the world as opposed to absorbing the world.

I miss my feed reader being as full as my Facebook feed.

My cousin talked me into my second audio book.  I don’t normally do audio books because I have a terrible attention span.  I get through about five minutes of concentrating on the story.  Then I start daydreaming, and a few minutes pass and I realize I haven’t been listening at all.  Books — unlike news podcasts — require you to listen closely and keep details in your head.  The only audio book I’ve ever gotten through was Barrel Fever by David Sedaris, and Josh and I listened to it as we drove through Canada.  That was 18 years ago.

But she told me that I would love Alan Cumming’s book as an audio book, and she’s totally correct.  He’s a great storyteller, and hearing the book aloud is similar to hearing a Spaulding Gray monologue.  Plus it’s a great story; a heartbreaking one, but I’m riveted listening to him talk about his father.

Especially close to Father’s Day.

It has made me reconsider audio books.  Not all the time, but I think I’ll check out another one when I finish this one.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

• “What I Learned — Microblog Monday” (Pages, Stages, and Rages)

Okay, now my choices this week.

NotMyLinesYet has a moving post containing a letter to her children who aren’t here.  She writes, “When we cremated the girls, DH and I wrote each one a letter that was cremated with her. I realized today while I was taking a walk that I wanted to do the same for the six babies we didn’t even get to cremate.”  It’s a beautiful letter and a moving way of honouring those lives.

Much Ado About Nothing has a post about friendships told in tiny vignettes.  The friends who slip out of our lives and realizing that she has been living with her best friend all along… It’s just a really good post.

Lastly, Dubliner in Deutschland has a post about her transversary (her transfer anniversary).  It’s a great post because we rarely know at the time that we’re living the most monumental moments of our lives.  And this ordinary transfer plus the row over where to eat and the emotion of the day resulted in her daughter.  I smiled through the whole post knowing the end of the story.

The roundup to the Roundup: Trying audio books.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between June 8th and 15th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

We went to the beach.  The first day was perfect.  Blue skies, no clouds despite a weather report that promised rain, constant breeze to keep the beach from getting too warm.  We read books and napped in the sun.  It was really perfect.

The second day was grey and overcast.  It drizzled on and off, drops here and there that made you wonder if you should continue to sit or make a run for the car.  But we were trying to stick it out and end on a high note when a group set up next to us.

As in, right next to us.  On an enormous, semi-empty beach, they set up a few feet away.  There were seven people, all in their mid-twenties.  The first thing I noticed were the Trump bumper stickers covering their cooler.  Then I saw the speaker they brought for blasting music on the quiet beach.  Then the stockpile of alcohol they brought to the alcohol-free beach.  The anti-gun control t-shirts.  And finally, when one took off his t-shirt, the neo-Nazi tattoo.

Josh and I looked at each other, and then I stood up and started packing our things, telling the kids that we were getting going.  It was an hour before we were planning on leaving, but it’s almost as if our minds all arrived in the same place at the same time.  We didn’t talk about it until we got in the car.

We did the right thing for ourselves in the moment, though we talked through the rest of the options in the car.  We could have ignored the group.  We could have confronted the group.  We could have moved down the beach.  But something told us to get out of there.  Call it Gavin de Becker’s “gift of fear,” but something in our subconscious told us to take our kids and go.  So I have zero regrets over leaving the beach.

But I’m curious over what others would have done.  You?

I have a daily habit of reading books, so I’m feeling pretty damn smug right about now.  SCIENCE — you know that little thing that is so important that they gave it its own class at school — says that reading makes you… like… perfect.  So I have that going for me.

When do I read?  Thank you for asking because I was dying to tell you.  I read every 25 minutes.  I work using a modified Pomodoro Technique (I skip the long break because it’s not helpful for me), so every time the buzzer goes off, I stand up and grab my book and walk around in a circle reading for five minutes.  When the buzzer goes off again, I sit down and get back to work.

I also read at night before bed, but that isn’t as interesting as slipping it into Pomodoro breaks.

Is it annoying to jump in and out of the story?  No.  I mean, yes, when you first start doing it, it’s a little annoying.  But I’m now so accustomed to reading this way that my brain has adjusted.  And I keep hyper focused during my 25 minute work slots because I know there’s five minutes of read-walking at the end.  Plus I’ve been on a horror-mystery-science fiction tear, so it’s not as if I’m jumping in and out of Kierkegaard.

Regardless, grab a book.  Today.  Science says so.

Not sure what #MicroblogMondays is? Read the inaugural post which explains the idea and how you can participate too.

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“Time is a fascinating topic because it touches our deepest emotions. Time opens up life and takes everything away.”  And it doesn’t even exist according to physicist Carlo Rovelli who said that quote.

The whole article will blow your mind, especially when he starts pointing out how milliseconds pass between words spoken and words heard.  Or how we’re not experiencing the same minute right now if you’re not living in the Eastern Time Zone.  Or how “on a mountaintop, time passes faster than at sea level. Similarly, the hands of a clock on the floor will move slightly slower than the hands of a clock on a tabletop.”

So why do I allow this thing — time — to control my life if it’s this flimsy and unformed?

Do you feel anxious about time, too?

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