Category — Microblog Mondays

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When you send someone an email asking for advice, would you rather get a super quick response to a question, or would you rather wait and get a long, thoughtful, perfect response? For instance, if you wrote Carolyn Hax, would you rather have her write you back a completely sufficient, usable answer the same day, or would you rather have her send back an insightful, mind-changing response a week later? As in, not so late that you don’t need the answer anymore, but a longer wait time than perhaps one wants when they’re on pins-and-needles in the middle of a problem.

No one writes me for advice, but they often write me with questions. Sometimes I am super quick in returning the answer. Other times, I have good intentions to be super quick, but I’m slow AND don’t return an amazing answer. Which is sort of the worst way to be.

I think the two ways above are equally good, but I would take quick response over amazing response. What about you?

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Are you also doing #MicroblogMondays? Add your link below. The list will be open until Tuesday morning. Link to the post itself, not your blog URL. (Don’t know what that means? Please read the three rules on this post to understand the difference between a permalink to a post and a blog’s main URL.) Only personal blogs can be added to the list. I will remove any posts that are connected to businesses or are sponsored post.

Not sure what #MicroblogMondays is? Read the inaugural post which explains the idea and how you can participate too.

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A friend posted a link to an article about the four stages of comfort that correspond to the four states of distress. In other words, the best way to give comfort changes on where the person is in their processing of grief.

So people start out feeling shocked and confused, move to feeling bad (and not ready to feel better), then enter feeling bad AND wanting to feel better, and finally, open to solutions.

While it’s helpful in early days to encourage them to talk things through to wrap their brain around what happened, it’s not helpful to jump to fixing things when they’re still reeling from grief. Whereas validating feelings needs to come after the person understands what they’re feeling.

What do you think of their theory?

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Not sure what #MicroblogMondays is? Read the inaugural post which explains the idea and how you can participate too.

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I got deeply lost in this Reddit thread. I don’t usually frequent Reddit, but everyone was talking about this thread, so I hopped on and started traveling down the rabbit hole. People were sharing “secrets” of their field of work.

Some were common knowledge—there is more butter than you think in restaurant food—others were a surprise, such as the vodka inside being cheaper than the bottle. I feel bummed about foaming soaps, happy to know that discontinued scents get recycled with new names, and I’m not sure I’ll buy bulk nuts again.

It also made me realize that I have zero big reveals in my work.

What about you?

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There is a meme going around saying something like if you (a woman) has a credit card in your name or your own credit history or rented an apartment, etc, thank Ruth Bader Ginsburg. And all these things are true—her work during her career (before and during the Supreme Court) greatly impacted our lives.

But the point is… the woman who worked to get us these rights just died. Meaning, this is super recent history. 1974. As in, when my mother was single, she couldn’t get her own credit card. Older rights feel stable—if they haven’t changed in 100+ years, why would they change now? Younger rights feel tenuous, like they could be snatched away at any point.

I was trying to put into words why the loss of Ruth Bader Ginsburg feels so much larger than the loss of a single person. Anne Helen Peterson said it well: “If someone has only been granted rights in recent memory, it’s easy and understandable that a lot of us are imagining just how readily those rights could be taken away.”

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This is a very weird site. And you will likely get addicted to watching these videos.

The premise is that you are an astronaut, floating above earth, looking down at these moments. The site pulls in unwatched videos: “These videos come from YouTube. They were uploaded in the last week and have titles like DSC 1234 and IMG 4321. They have almost zero previous views. They are unnamed, unedited, and unseen (by anyone but you).”

Literally unseen. I tested a few, clicking in the top left corner to go to YouTube, and most had one view.

Go enjoy. (P.S. The site states: “The video switches periodically. Click the button below the video to prevent the video from switching.” In case you want to watch the whole video.)

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