IVF Money
Josh and I have been doing some major adulting, organizing our estate, which is just a fancy way of checking that we have everything set up properly and people know what to do after we’re gone. We’ve been filling out the worksheets and making a to-do list (and sometimes even taking tasks off the to-do list!). I like feeling organized.
But one thing I realized in the middle of all this was that I had savings bonds I needed to cash. We had been about to cash them many years ago to put towards a cycle, but when we stopped treatments, I put them in a drawer, and over the years, they had grown in emotional size to be the equivalent of my old sharps box.
But they were also under my maiden name, so I knew it would be an enormous headache down the road for someone else to cash them. And maybe completely impossible. So I went down to the bank, and my favourite teller carefully cashed them out and deposited the total into my account.
I wrote down the number in my notebook because I didn’t want it to go toward something like my mortgage or college tuition. It was supposed to be something big: adding to our family. And if we weren’t doing that, I wanted it to fulfill a childhood wish.
I think we’re going to go hiking in Cornwall. It feels like a good use of the money. Though a little bittersweet.
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Oh, Mel. Hugs. I hope you go hiking in Cornwall (or whatever you decide) and that the trip is wonderful.
I hope whatever you do with the money, it ends up being an experience that helps you take care of yourself. Those moments when past hopes/hurts/dreams come up can be a lot.
That’s tough, hugs. And a big kudos and bag of candy for doing some hard adulting!
Oh wow — it’s like, one the one hand bonus money, but the original reason for the money and how it’s still in the drawer is so heavy. Backpacking in Cornwall sounds like an amazing use! I love that you earmarked it for something special. Sending love!
I loved this post. I too have been adulting and your idea for filling a childhood dream is perfect <3 I agree with Susan, whatever it ends up being self soothing is top on the list
That sounds like an excellent use for that money. And walking always helps me feel better…