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#Microblog Monday 395: Grief as Love

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I saw a quote from Ocean Vuong from NPR’s Fresh Air: “You realize that grief is perhaps the last and final translation of love. And I think, you know, this is the last act of loving someone. And you realize that it will never end. You get to do this to translate this last act of love for the rest of your life.”

What a profound thought: that grief is love. It’s an expression of love after a loss, when you can no longer express your love to that person, place, or thing in another way. And that you express your love in this way (and perhaps in other ways that you discover down the road) for the rest of your life.

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8 comments

1 Turia { 06.12.22 at 8:19 am }

I don’t know the circumstances but that sounds an awful lot like riffing off of WandaVision and Vision’s heart-breaking line of “What is grief if not love persevering” which reduced me to piles of tears the first time I watched it.

2 Beth { 06.12.22 at 4:14 pm }

This really is true. When our cats passed away, this was sort of how I explained that feeling of sadness to my daughters. You still have so much love for them, and you always will. Eventually it will hurt less but we grieve because of love. We don’t miss things or people or animals we didn’t care about.

3 Mali { 06.13.22 at 1:33 am }

Well, that post got me thinking – and I’m back an hour or three (I got distracted) later with a comment. My comment is my post this week on No Kidding! lol So whilst I might have disagreed a little about the details, both our posts are all about love, and that’s beautiful! Thanks for the inspiration, Mel.

4 Corinne Rodrigues { 06.13.22 at 10:44 am }

That is a great way of looking at grief. Makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing, Mel.

5 Phoenix { 06.13.22 at 12:46 pm }

Yes! Grief is love!!

6 Virgínia { 06.13.22 at 5:19 pm }

I had never looked at it like this before but it makes perfect sense

7 Chris { 06.14.22 at 4:12 pm }

Oh Mel, thank you for this. I’ll have to finish reading it later because…work and tears don’t really mix. But, it was perfect timing. I don’t think I’ve commented in a while. My husband died recently and every little thing has been an effort. And, I needed a better way to look at his death because he was too young, and it was so unexpected and yet here I am, alone. And yet, this makes sense to me- I gireve becuase I love him so much. So, thank you. Maybe another day I can say something more eloquent, but I wouldn’t count on it any time soon.

8 a { 06.15.22 at 7:57 am }

Same, Chris.

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