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666th Friday Blog Roundup

Facebook has been killing me softly with its memories feature. Every morning, I open Facebook, and every morning Facebook tells me that it bets I would like to see a memory from last year. No, Facebook, I would not. We’re currently living the outcome of the election and our country is a mess. I would not like to relive the experience again and again and again.

No like.

Particularly painful is that I know an update is coming up in the next week or so where I told the ChickieNob this was the last time she would go to bed in a country that never had a woman president. Sorry, kid, not only did you wake up to another 365 days with that glass ceiling, but instead we’re in yet another cycle of #metoo.

Last year I went to speak to the students at the middle school for Career Day right after the election. Everyone was still shell-shocked, and we spent more time talking about the election results vs. my job. I’ve been asked to return and speak for Career Day again, and like a bad Facebook memory, all I can think about is how the world felt this time last year.  How it still feels the same.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

A Separate Life has a post about friends she made via the Internet through a blogging challenge back in 2006. She writes, “These links around the world, born on the ether and solidified over the years, or born in real life and maintained on the ether, make me happy and sad, they educate me and delight me and sustain me, and add to the richness of my life. Our hugs may only be virtual, but our love is real.”  So true.  It’s a gorgeous post; go read the whole thing.

Jewish IVF is returning for her seventh IVF cycle. She talks one of the lesser discussed aspects of IVF — that the patient has to be on top of every aspect of the cycle or be possibly affected physically, emotionally, or financially. She explains, “It’s a challenge to constantly be on the ball and know that if I miss something then we lose out.” It’s scary when you consider that thin line. While it’s true in so many places in life, the stakes feel high when we’re talking about something so expensive and so invasive that is completely dictated by time.

Author* brings light to a very serious topic: domestic abuse. She explains how it can happen even to the most outspoken woman; even the strongest self-advocates. It’s a post about the rational meeting the emotional; what the head knows and the heart suspects. It’s an important post for every woman to read. *Because this is about domestic abuse, I’m not going to post the blog name.  Please don’t put it in the comments, too.

Lastly, Bent Not Broken has a post about her sister announcing her pregnancy on social media before she has told her. While she knew about the pregnancy from their mother, her sister hadn’t told her directly because she worried about hurting her feelings. Though, of course, posting on social media meant she still found out about the pregnancy, but she did so without the personal touch that comes from a direct discussion. It’s food for thought for anyone struggling to talk about something.

The roundup to the Roundup: No, thanks, Facebook.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 20th and 27th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

9 comments

1 Beth { 10.27.17 at 7:11 am }

Ugh. My daughters and I were just looking at the school calendar, excited to make plans for a day off coming up – Election Day. They started trying to remember how we spent last year. I don’t remember a lot of details (I’m sure we went out to lunch and played at a park) but I do so clearly remember walking out of our polling location and, filled with emotion, whispering to them both that we had all just voted for our first woman president. That there truly is no limit to what they can achieve if they work hard and are good people. That memory – which now feels filled with lies – is a gut punch.

2 loribeth { 10.27.17 at 10:33 am }

Generally, I enjoy the “On This Day” feature & the memories it brings up. But yeah, there’s that to look forward to soon (not). 🙁 Still so hard to believe sometimes. 🙁

3 Jenny { 10.27.17 at 11:11 am }

I was also going to recommend the powerful post about domestic abuse. Thank you for including it.

4 Lori Lavender Luz { 10.27.17 at 11:31 am }
5 Lori Lavender Luz { 10.27.17 at 11:33 am }
6 Cristy { 10.27.17 at 3:49 pm }

Yeah, the past. . . . Apparently there’s a tweet going around that has been quite the lightening rod about this. It’s hard not to be angry.

On that note, thank you for the post from *author. I read it too and felt it was a brave post. Bravo to this author.
My second helpings:
https://bentnotbrokenblog.blogspot.com/2017/10/me-too.html
http://amgreavu.blogspot.com/2017/10/dont-stop-believing.html
https://www.stirrup-queens.com/2017/10/time-famine/

7 Mali { 10.28.17 at 12:38 am }

I actually love the Memories feature of Fb, and funnily enough on Friday even wrote a post there noting that Fb had reminded me of a day at the beach with my mother three years earlier, and that now she is gone I appreciated the reminder. Most of my posts are happy memories – even the ones where I am bemoaning a return to normal life after a trip – so I don’t mind being reminded of previous years.

Though I am with you on feeling depressed about #me too and the fact that one year on … or decades on, sexual harassment, abuse and assault continues.

8 Mali { 10.28.17 at 12:40 am }

PS. Thanks so much for including my A Separate Life post in this. For the record, I could have written a similar one about the friends met through ALI blogging, and internet relationships around ectopic pregnancy. Actually, I think I have already done so on No Kidding. Just because I didn’t specifically mention them in the latest post, doesn’t mean the sentiments don’t equally apply.

9 katherinea12 { 11.02.17 at 9:00 am }

My pick for the week: http://theroadlesstravelledlb.blogspot.com/2017/10/microblogmondays-misery-filter.html.

Really thought provoking post on how we prepare (or don’t prepare) people for suffering. Because it will happen to all of us, and there’s a very real way in which many people are taken totally off guard.

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