561st Friday Blog Roundup
It’s impossible to get to this date and not comment on its significance, even though I have nothing new to say. There are certain dates that beg everyone to speak up; that tug on you until you do. This is one of them.
It demands that you sit with it, think about it, remember it.
I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing. So I’m sitting with it. I’m thinking about it and remembering.
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Stop procrastinating. Go make your backups. Don’t have regrets.
Seriously. Stop what you’re doing for a moment. It will take you fifteen minutes, tops. But you will have peace of mind for days and days. It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.
As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.
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And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “The Last First Day” (Stirrup Queens) — thank you, Northern Star and Illustr8d
- “Hard is Hard” (Bent Not Broken)
- “Embracing Life Without Children to Raise” (Still Mothers)
- “Microblog Mondays: Things I Wish I Had Known” (A Woman My Age)
Okay, now my choices this week.
The Road Less Travelled has a post remembering her daughter on what should have been her first day of 12th grade. She writes so eloquently about the far-reaching hand of loss: “People often don’t realize that when you lost a baby, you don’t just lose a baby. You lose the toddler, and the first grader, and the tweener and the teenager, and the high school graduate and the college frosh, and the bride (or groom) and the young employee and the young parent he or she would have become. The children they might have had, too.” Please go over and read the whole post.
Bent Not Broken has her take on a bit of advice about grief that has recently gone viral on social media. I first read this advice on Facebook and thought it was very good, especially because when I first read it, it was paired with a quote from Joe Biden’s speech: “There will come a day, I promise you and your parents, as well, when the thought of your son or daughter or your husband or wife brings a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eye. It will happen. My prayer for you is that day will come sooner or later.” Bent Not Broken discusses this idea of waves in regards to infertility, and I love her ability to look at her situation with a clear heart and understanding that she needs to feel what she is going to feel, and one day the waves won’t batter as hard.
I will end on a funny note. My Pathway to Motherhood has a post titled “Guinea Pig.” As you can imagine, I was so excited to click over from my feed reader and check out the cuteness. What I got was something so much better than an actual guinea pig. I am not going to ruin it for you with a description. You will need to click over and check out what her daughter did.
The roundup to the Roundup: Thinking about September 11th. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 4th and September 11th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.
11 comments
I’m traveling and I came down to the hotel breakfast to find that one of the 24-hr news stations was replaying footage from 9/11. While I agree with remembering and sitting with it, I wonder about the usefulness of flogging ourselves with the actual footage of the day. I had to change the channel to a different news station which is talking about it but not replaying it for our national consciousness.
Thanks for highlighting Bent Not Broken’s post. Today that was the post I needed to read.
I was asleep and my husband woke me up and told me to turn on the news – I saw the tower fall and I broke down crying. It was surreal. I’ve always loved NYC, I went to school there for a while. I didn’t know anyone who died that day but you know 6 degrees of separation and all, I knew people that did.
We got married in Bali in November that year. We had already paid our deposit in early September, so we were going to go. We had invited two friends to be our witnesses but they hemmed and hawed and ultimately refused to fly that far. One of them knew a person who died that day. We didn’t blame them but we couldn’t change their minds. Indonesia is a Muslim country but Bali is a Hindu island and relies on tourism and probably the only place that no one wanted to talk about that day and the weeks that followed.
I agree with Geochick. They’ve done studies about how traumatizing multiple viewings of a disaster is. I’d like the day to move toward working toward peace & understanding at this point.
I needed Bent Not Broken’s post badly. Going to savor the rest over the weekend when I need them.
It’s a day to feel all the feels.
This is long, but such an important post.
http://infertilityhonesty.com/2015/09/11/pain-in-progress-part-2/
Yes, going to read all those blogs your mentioned, the first one about the loss of child really was touching… goodday
My pick: http://searchingforoursilverlining.blogspot.ca/2015/09/microblogmondays-back-alleys.html?m=1
Not IF-related, but relevant in light of recent news:http://carlyfindlay.blogspot.ie/2015/09/on-othering-dismissing-people-as-being.html?m=1
Such a great list of blogs this week – and in the comments too.
Thanks for the mention!