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IComLeavWe: October

A direct link to the latest U.T.E.R.U.S. project is near the top of my right sidebar. Just in case you were looking for it…

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

  • The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
  • Add yourself to the list by leaving in the comment section your blog name, blog url, and three words that describe what you blog about most often.
Stirrup Queens (please capitalize your title)
http://stirrup-queens.blogspot.com (please use http:// at the beginning of your url)
(infertility, twins, books) (please leave all three words in lowercase and place parentheses around your three words)
  • I move the information from the comment section into the post (usually within 24 hours).
  • Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one).
  • Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…). Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
  • Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commentors.
  • The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch out breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.
The October List
  1. Stirrup Queens (infertility, twins, books)
  2. Cupcakes & Conundrums (adoption, infertility, cupcakes)
  3. Mrs Spock (parenting, infertility, health care)
  4. The New Life of Nancy (pregnancy, infertility, sarcasm)
  5. This is my Truth, Tell me Yours (personal, current affairs, randomness)
  6. The Unfair Struggle (mfi, life, friendship)
  7. Jenn’s Journal (twins, secondary infertility, life)
  8. The Great Big If (formerly known as ‘What I Did for Love’) (infertility, loss, life)
  9. Life, Liberty And The Pursuit Of Pregnancy (infertility, military life, ramblings)
  10. My Little Drummer Boys (parenting, loss, IVF twins)
  11. Just Me (infertility & life)
  12. The Baby Blog (infertility, PGD, IVF)
  13. My Life Crazy As It May Seem (everyday life, grief, loss of a child)
  14. The Fertile Infertile (family, infertility, life)
  15. Portraits In Sepia (adoption, life, whatnot)
  16. The Egg, or am I too Chicken? (surrogacy, pregnancy, parenting)
  17. Baby Smiling In Back Seat (infertility, IVF, pottery)
  18. My Infertility Story (infertility, ovulation, miscarriage)
  19. Our Surrogacy Adventure (surrogacy, life, weight loss)
  20. BagMomma (secondary infertility, parenting, RPL)
  21. Sticky Feet (parenting, baking, life)
  22. Who Shot My Stork? (infertility, life, politicsnextmonth)
  23. Kicking You From The Inside (parenting, life, infertility)
  24. Bee In The Bonnet (acts of defiance against the patriarchy, infertility, general discontent)
  25. Maybe it’s Just Me… (life, marriage, PCOS)
  26. Unquestionable Love (infertility, life’s adventures, 10K training/weight loss)
  27. The Binky Diaries (pregnancy, infertility, parenting)
  28. The Saga of Becoming Fruitful (infertility, IVF, finances)
  29. Waiting on Life (adoption, infertility, life)
  30. Meepit on Parade (infertility, randomness, life)
  31. Out on Good Behavior (pregnancy, parenting, life)
  32. Building Heavenly Bridges (stillborn loss, writing, parenting through grief)
  33. The Not So Secret Life Of Us (RPL, infertility, emigration)
  34. Managing my Unmanageable Life (TTC, infertility, my 3 year old)
  35. Musings of a Teacher (ttc, life, random)
  36. Bella And Her Fella (donor eggs, POF, high FSH)
  37. Our Life in a Nutchell (FET, waiting, general IF)
  38. Hello Jello (college, family, animals)
  39. My Life (life, infertility, random)
  40. To Baby and Beyond (infertility, miscarriage, PCOS)
  41. Ronda’s Rants (faith, family, rants)
  42. Helping Make Sense (IVF, infertility, acceptance)
  43. Conceive This! (MFI, cynicism, ICSI?)
  44. Heeeeeeeeere Storkey Storkey (twins, ttc #3, life)
  45. Elana’s Musings (infertility, pregnancy, twins)
  46. Offmymind.but From My Heart (open and closed domestic infant adoption)
  47. It Is Tuesday, right? (new motherhood, life, breastfeeding)
  48. Wheresmy2lines (PCOS, IVF/ICSI, varicocele)
  49. Blogfight (none)
  50. Awake On the Night Shift (work, infertility, family)
  51. Loving Thee… and more (parenting, politics, randomness)
  52. Our Way To Happily Ever After (life, new house, random)
  53. Life In A Holding Pattern (miscarriage, ttc, life)
  54. Lifeslurper (IF after 40, depression, weight)
  55. Mom of 2 Dancers (daughters, product reviews, holidays)
  56. Not The Path I Chose (secondary IF, RPL, life)
  57. In Pursuit of Parenthood (infertility, depression, waiting)
  58. Blissful Body Yoga Blog (yoga, meditation, conscious living)
  59. I’m a Smart One (surrogacy, infertility, parenting)
  60. All About V. (infertility, life, the coop)
  61. The Daily Gratitude Blog (gratitude, mindfulness, giving)
  62. Teal Designs Art Studio Blog (art, artists, creativity)
  63. Maybe I Will Have a Glass (IUI, infertility, life)
  64. I’d Blog That! (daily life, humor, kids)
  65. Musings, Musings, Musings (parenting and conceiving again after prenatal and post-partum depression, spirituality, life)
  66. La Chambre d’Orchidee (donating eggs, marriage, family)
  67. Broken Bits (IVF, molar pregnancy/cancer, life)
  68. Woman Anyone? (infertility, depression, related musings)
  69. Nervous Breakdowns Are Highly Underrated (parenting after IF, WAHM, life)
  70. The Spohrs Are Multiplying (prematurity, health, parenting)
  71. Sayers Journey through Infertility and Pregnancy (infertility, pregnancy, happiness)
  72. Mustard Seed Baby (IVF #1, endo, faith)
  73. Communique (infertility, life)
  74. That’s My Answer (daily questions, about you, fun)
  75. Naturally Knocked Up (nutrition, pcos, infertility)
  76. Be Still and Know (endometriosis, infertility, adoption)
  77. Elusive BFP (IVF, infertility, life)
  78. Life in the White House (donor sperm, infertility, life)
  79. Gas Passer aka UUer (IVF, unicornuate uterus pregnancy complications, puppies)
  80. Mommy Confessions (ranting, raving, children)
  81. Lee’s Things (doodles, crafts, fun)
  82. Getting There (infertility, FET, life)
  83. Junebug’s Musings (infertility, personal musings, doggie drama)
  84. Inconceivable (IF, NOA, life)
  85. Along Life’s Little Journey (infertility, life, endometriosis)
  86. Our Box of Rain (parenting, life, miscarriage)
  87. Peachy (IVF, infertility, life)
  88. Tales from Kiddyland (mothering, triplets, special needs)
  89. The Maniacal Mommy (infertility, IVF, life)
  90. Seriously? (life, pregnancy, airedales)
  91. ISO the Golden Egg (TTC over 40, embryo donation, SMC)
  92. The Daily Doings of Mr Silly and Little Miss Trouble (parenting, infertility, gestational carrier-to-be)
  93. Something to Blog About (life, foster parenting, cooking)
  94. The Angry Infertile (infertility, depression, life lessons)
  95. Hope Springs Infertile (IVF, donor egg, pets)
  96. Here We Go Again (random stuff, cooking, pregnancy)
  97. In Due Time (infertility, pcos, life)
  98. Mommy Needs Therapy (family, special needs, raising kids)
  99. Stop the Train, I Wanna Get Off (infertility, school, my bean)
  100. Add Yourself…

You have questions…I have answers:

Q: What if I miss a day?
A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What is an Iron Commentor?
A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commentor and be entered on the Iron Commentor honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commentor status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn iron commentor status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?
A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is orange, the next month it will be purple, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog!
I want to join the list–why can’t I?
A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?
A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours).

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?
A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?
A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.


1 Sassy { 09.30.08 at 9:11 pm }

I'm back in this month –

Cupcakes & Conundrums

(adoption, infertility, cupcakes)

2 Jen { 09.30.08 at 10:56 pm }

CRAPOLA! I messed up my URL. OK let me redo this..


(infertility, ovulation, miscarriage)

3 MrsSpock { 09.30.08 at 9:11 pm }

Add me!
Mrs Spock
(parenting,infertility, health care)

4 Keri { 09.30.08 at 9:17 pm }

Count me in again!

This is my Truth, Tell me Yours
(Personal, current affairs, randomness)

5 Liddy { 09.30.08 at 9:22 pm }

count me in!

The unfair struggle
(mfi, life, friendship)

6 Jenn { 09.30.08 at 10:08 pm }

Jenn’s Journal
(twins, secondary infertility, life)

7 Shelby { 09.30.08 at 10:23 pm }

Jumping on the comment train. All aboard!

The Great Big If (formerly known as ‘What I Did for Love’)

(infertility, loss, life)

8 Cassandra { 09.30.08 at 10:41 pm }

@Shelby: Choo-chooooo!

Baby Smiling In Back Seat
(infertility, IVF, pottery)

9 nancy { 09.30.08 at 11:20 pm }

Sign me up!

The New Life of Nancy
(pregnancy, infertility, sarcasm)

10 nancy { 09.30.08 at 11:21 pm }

And … Where is the “wall of honour” for the iron commentors? I know you put me on it, but I can’t find it.

11 ak_sapphire { 09.30.08 at 11:49 pm }

Life, Liberty And The Pursuit Of Pregnancy
(infertility, military life, ramblings)

12 Trish { 09.30.08 at 11:55 pm }

Trish @My little drummer boys
(parenting,loss and IVF twins)

13 Jaymee { 10.01.08 at 12:58 am }

Our Surrogacy Adventure
(surrogacy, life, weight loss)

14 Just Me. { 10.01.08 at 1:16 am }

Wow, can't believe that October's here!

I'm in.

Just Me
(infertility & life)

15 Dawn's Recipes / The Baby Blog { 10.01.08 at 3:59 am }

I finally got to join on time!

The Baby Blog

(infertility, PGD, IVF)

16 Dawn's Recipes / The Baby Blog { 10.01.08 at 4:01 am }

By the way, the link for the code brings up September’s code.

17 siscaboo { 10.01.08 at 4:44 am }

I loved doing this last month. It was my first time. Please add me again.

My Life Crazy As It May Seem
(everyday life, grief, loss of a child)

18 Kristin { 10.01.08 at 4:56 am }

I’m in again…

The Fertile Infertile
(family, infertility, life)

19 Shelli { 10.01.08 at 4:56 am }

I’m in again.

(secondary infertility, parenting, RPL)

20 Portraits In Sepia { 10.01.08 at 5:07 am }

Portraits In Sepia
(Adoption, Life, and Whatnot)

21 eggorchicken { 10.01.08 at 6:08 am }

Ooooh yes, would love to join! Still working on getting the link working on my site though – followed the instructions and it’s not entirely right, but getting there 🙂

The Egg, or am I too Chicken?


(surrogacy, pregnancy, parenting)

22 Jamie { 10.01.08 at 6:14 am }

Count me in!

Sticky Feet
(parenting, baking, life)

23 Io { 10.01.08 at 7:22 am }

Who Shot My Stork?
(infertility, life, politicsnextmonth)

24 Christina { 10.01.08 at 7:40 am }

Unquestionable Love
(infertility, life’s adventures, 10K training/weight loss)

25 Kate { 10.01.08 at 7:43 am }

Kicking You From The Inside
(parenting, life, infertility)

26 sharonvw { 10.01.08 at 9:47 am }

Please add me!
The Not So Secret Life Of Us

(RPL, Infertility, TTC, Emigration)

27 Rebecca { 10.01.08 at 8:13 am }

The Binky Diaries
(pregnancy, infertility, parenting)

28 kate { 10.01.08 at 8:21 am }

Add me please- time to jump back in to the pool and see if I can make it for a week!

Bee In The Bonnet
(acts of defiance against the patriarchy, infertility, general discontent/malcontentery)

29 Arpee { 10.01.08 at 8:42 am }

The Saga of Becoming Fruitful
(infertility, ivf, finances)

30 Deborah { 10.01.08 at 8:56 am }

Count me in this time, sorry to have flaked out in September.

Waiting on Life

(adoption, infertility, life)

31 Mary { 10.01.08 at 9:02 am }

I want to do it too! http://meepitonparade.blogspot.com/ (infertility, randomness, life)

32 Tina { 10.01.08 at 9:14 am }

Me too! Me too!

Out on Good Behavior
(pregnancy, parenting, life)

33 Tina { 10.01.08 at 9:22 am }

Ok, I am maybe a little sleep-deprived here… I can’t get the code to work this month. Is it just me?

34 Cara { 10.01.08 at 9:27 am }

Wow! Many eager commentators this month, eh? Right on…I’m ready!


(stillborn loss, writing, parenting through grief)

35 Infertile Myrtle! { 10.01.08 at 11:49 am }

Managing my Unmanagable Life

(TTC, Infertility, and my 3 year old)

36 Jill { 10.01.08 at 11:10 am }

I was sad that I missed last month- but I was kinda out of touch.

Maybe it’s just me…
(life, marriage, PCOS)

37 Amy { 10.01.08 at 1:11 pm }

musings of a teacher
(ttc, life, random)

38 Christina { 10.01.08 at 1:57 pm }

My Life

(life, infertility, random)

39 nancy { 10.01.08 at 1:57 pm }

lol. I wanted to be high up on the list this time instead of the middle, so i was hyped when I was one of the first dozen to “enter”. And using you as #1, I counted the ones above me and thought I’d be #10 and thought being a “10” was perfect. And I ended up as #18.

Okay, it ~totally~ doesn’t matter but I thought you’d get a laugh out of my obsession last night.

40 Michelle { 10.01.08 at 2:35 pm }

I’m in…

To Baby and Beyond

(infertility, miscarriage, PCOS)

41 Andrea { 10.01.08 at 3:03 pm }

Bella And Her Fella


(donor eggs, POF, high FSH)

42 Ronda's Rants { 10.01.08 at 3:10 pm }

Me Too!
Ronda’s Rants
(faith,family, rants)

43 Chelle { 10.01.08 at 3:23 pm }

I’m in! (Missed last month)

Our Life in a Nutchell


(FET, Waiting, General IF)

44 zandor { 10.01.08 at 7:08 pm }

This sounds fun.

Hello Jello:

(college, family, animals)

45 Lisa { 10.01.08 at 5:29 pm }

I’m back in this month!

Helping Make Sense
(IVF, Infertility, Acceptance)

46 Murgdan { 10.01.08 at 8:23 pm }

I’m in again…

Conceive This!
(MFI, cynicism, ICSI?)

47 Elana Kahn { 10.01.08 at 8:43 pm }

Elana’s Musings
(infertility, pregnancy, twins)

48 Mama Bear { 10.01.08 at 9:28 pm }


(open and closed domestic infant adoption)

49 kateypie35 { 10.01.08 at 10:05 pm }

It Is Tuesday, right?
(new motherhood, life, breastfeeding)

50 Stacie { 10.01.08 at 10:59 pm }

Please add me, Mel.

(twins, ttc #3, life)

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