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How Do You Know Your Patronus?

Last week, JK Rowling revealed the form her Patronus takes —  a pine marten.  Which is so adorable that I’ve stopped coveting the rabbit that lives in our backyard, and now I’m coveting my very own pine marten friend who will chillax with me while I write.  Nerdist also reviewed several characters’ Patronuses, and you can see the complete list on the Harry Potter wiki.

Of course, it makes you wonder what your Patronus would be.  Pottermore is getting a Patronus quiz soon, though I imagine that it has a limited number of options, so we’ll all end up with the same Patronuses.  Whereas the animal world is large and varied, and our real Patronus may not be included in that algorithm.

You know, our real real Patronus.

I realized that I have no idea what my Patronus would be.  No clue.  No animal pops to mind.  I mean, there are animals I like, and animals that mirror my personality, behaviour-wise.  But still, I don’t even have a short list of possibilities.  Whenever I get my Hogwarts letter and finally learn how to create a corporal Patronus, I will be shocked to discover my animal.

Whereas I wasn’t surprised at all to learn that I was sorted into Ravenclaw.  I imagine most kids aren’t that shocked by their House placement when they come to Hogwarts.  The four Houses are all associated with certain personality types, and you generally know yourself.  While I’m sure there were disappointments from time to time, there was no one who continued to sit on the chair and say to the Sorting Hat, “Wait, are you sure?  Because that doesn’t make any sense.  I thought I’d be in Gryffindor, but you put me in Hufflepuff.  And I’m actually kind of a bitch.  I mean, brave and all of that, but I’m really a mean girl.  Are you sure you meant Hufflepuff?”

Which begs the question: are people surprised when they discover their Patronus form?  Or is everyone just thrilled to see their little protector running around in front of them?  Does anyone express disappointment: “Really?  I’m a seal?  I kinda sorta hate seals.  I thought I’d be a fox.  Or a goat.  Or something other than a seal.”

Do you have an inkling of your Patronus form?  And do you think anyone knows that sort of thing beforehand, or do you just get what you get and you don’t get upset?

September 16, 2014   8 Comments

#MicroblogMondays 3: Makes Me Happy

Not sure what #MicroblogMondays is? Read the inaugural post which explains the idea and how you can participate too.


We watch Doctor Who every Saturday night, and Sunday morning, I go on the blogs and see what other people thought of the episode.  I tend to read other people who love the show as much as I do.

Last week, I ventured into the comments on a post, which was a mistake.  The people were tearing apart the episode, pointing out what they thought were unrealistic aspects of the plot.  (Uh… do these people realize that Time Lords don’t exist?  And the Tardis isn’t real?  Fiiiiiiiiiiiction.)

I don’t want to pick Doctor Who apart.  For me, the show is successful simply because it makes me happy.  Doctor Who makes me happy for a full hour.  To me, that is the mark of success: did you change one person’s mood for the better?  Yes?  Then your creation is a success.

So rather than complain about something, tell me what makes you happy?


Are you also doing #MicroblogMondays? Add your link below. The list will be open until Tuesday morning. Link to the post itself, not your blog URL. (Don’t know what that means? Please read the three rules on this post to understand the difference between a permalink to a post and a blog’s main URL.) Only personal blogs can be added to the list. I will remove any posts that are connected to businesses or are sponsored posts.

This week’s list is closed.  But come back next Monday for a new list:

1. Archana 24. Isabelle 47. Lexy @ Crazy Cass Life
2. Serenity 25. Sadie 48. A.
3. Karen (River Run Dry) 26. Jamie @ Sticky Feet 49. LAM
4. Just Heather 27. Buttermilk 50. Hot Mess of Chaos
5. My New Normal 28. Aislinn @ Baby Makin’ 51. Gypsy Mama
6. Persnickety 29. gradual changes 52. Dubliner in Deutschland
7. Turia 30. Tara 53. Are You Kidding Me?
8. Kate 31. Geochick 54. Mali (A Separate Life)
9. Arwen 32. Non Sequitur Chica 55. Aditi@ makeitbea YOUtiful
10. lostintranslation 33. Running Nekkid 56. Dennasus
11. Inconceivable! 34. Stacie 57. Old Lady and No Baby
12. Middle Girl 35. Katie 58. dspence
13. Heather 36. Anita 59. Daryl
14. Lizzy 37. S 60. Queenie
15. Petunia 38. earth & ink 61. Climbing the Pomegranate Tree
16. Lori Lavender aluz 39. Corinne@ Everyday Gyaan 62. Mali (No Kidding)
17. JB 40. Mossing Noah 63. Kimberly
18. Bio Girl 41. Laurel Regan 64. createdfamily
19. Rachel 42. Baby, Are You Coming? 65. Vidya Sury, Collecting Smiles
20. sharah 43. Northern Star 66. articulation
21. Mrs T 44. Kelly 67. Ke Anne
22. Obsessivemom 45. Kasey 68. Cindy
23. Mina 46. Muddy Boots & Diamonds

September 15, 2014   46 Comments

Three Times Forms a Habit

I recently downloaded an app that gives me 17 options for wave sounds.  I can listen to water slapping against stones or waves crashing on the sand.  I prefer one called “waves and froth” partially because it’s the most relaxing, beach-y sound and partially because of the commentary Josh makes about froth.

So, I’ve been playing this app sometimes to help me fall asleep.  It definitely works.  The nights I use it, I fall asleep within a half hour or so.  On nights I don’t use it, I can be up for hours.

Still, I don’t use it every night.

You may question the intelligence in that last statement.  I mean, I found something that works.  Why don’t I use it all the time?  And I guess I’m trying to not form a habit and use the waves like a crutch, because I could see myself inadvertently training myself to not be able to sleep sans waves.  And that just isn’t an option — there are too many times I’m sharing a hotel room or camping with other people or not in the privacy of my room.  And I want to be able to sleep during those times, and I fear that I will set myself up to not be able to sleep without white noise and make myself miserable on those occasions.

So I never let myself go three days in a row listening to the waves because I’ve read in multiple places that three times creates a habit.

On the other hand, tomorrow marks the third #MicroblogMonday, and for some people who have done it twice, this third time will hopefully cement a habit.  A weekly Monday appointment for yourself where you kick off the week by giving us a tiny glimpse into your world.  Even if you don’t accomplish another post this week, you at least know that you got up one.  And you did it before the week really began.

This is likely the final reminder you’ll get for the project (three times is a charm?) so go make an appointment on your calendar and set it to run weekly.  Or make a mysterious little “P” every Monday on your wall calendar and leave people guessing as to whether you’re reminding yourself to write a post or noting that you have your period all.the.time.

So, tomorrow is  #MicroblogMonday. At some point between Monday morning and Tuesday morning, post a brief update. It can be as short as 1 word (“blech!”) or as long as 8 sentences.

Actually don’t get hung up on the length. Micro just means small. Anything you’d post on Twitter or Facebook, or an image you’d post on Instagram… that’s all this is.

So… see you tomorrow with your mini post.  And in the meantime, think of other things you want to start and go do them three times.

September 14, 2014   7 Comments

511th Friday Blog Roundup

I can’t even…

Fine, I will.

The most offensive quotes from Time magazine’s “Why Not Having Kids Makes Some People Crazy” (beyond the title itself) are thankfully all crowded in the beginning of the article, such as, “So it’s not just whether they had kids that made people depressed or content, it’s how badly they wanted them.” [Additionally offensive emphasis is actually theirs and not mine.]  So just skip the first few paragraphs.

If you can get past the assumption drawn by the media reporting on the study that the depression that follows infertility is somehow tied to how badly you wanted to be a parent, you will get to a valid, important point made by the study itself: “The paper, which was published online on Sept. 10 in Human Reproduction, recommends sustained psychological counseling for people who did not conceive after fertility treatments and a lot of frank talk about the possibility of failure during the treatments.”

Yes, that would be very helpful, and certainly, with the cost of services, clinics should be able to employ more therapists in order to serve their patients and make sure they feel emotionally cared for while they treat their infertility.

You know… take care of people’s brains instead of just their ovaries.


Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.


And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

  • Uh… there were none.  People found zero posts worthy of being noticed?

Okay, now my choices this week.

MissConception has a post about where she tells us a secret.  She admits, “I don’t think we will ever have another child.  With no more frozen embryos, no plans for another IVF, and no plans to adopt, we are dealing with trying to conceive all on our own again.”  It’s about listening to your gut feelings and acknowledging them, even when you don’t want them to be true.  A really good, thought-provoking post.

A tiny post from Hapa Hopes about the embryologist’s storage bill.  So tiny that I fear writing about it will lessen the punch of the post.  Click over to read because it’s almost poetry.

So Dear and Yet So Far has a quiet post about the last time she was pregnant, seven years ago.  The post is like a boat bobbing in the harbour before heading into the storm.  She needs to keep writing the story, but of course you wish it had a different ending, too.  Holding her in my heart.

Lastly, I Can Do This has a post about the distance she feels with certain friendships.  After years of remaining supportive of friends once they became pregnant, she is finding that she is not getting to enjoy the same thing back from her current friends who are still trying.  She writes, “I often wonder if these woman that turn off the support once you get pregnant will expect support during their pregnancies? I will support a friend regardless, like I always have, but I feel it is very unfair to have support and then to get pregnant and be treated like you have a transmittable disease. I want people to know that once you get pregnant, we still have feelings also. ”  I think it’s important post to read, not because the situation has a simple answer but because we sometimes need to hear hard words and think about them.

The roundup to the Roundup: This study sounds interesting, the coverage less so.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 5th and 12th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

September 12, 2014   9 Comments

Things Biz Stone Told Me (Part Three)

This is that sandwich effect you always read about.  In the first post about Biz Stone’s book, Things a Little Bird Told Me, I gave you something I really liked that I chewed on a bit.  In the second post, I gave you something that made my eyes widen in disbelief.  And now, in the third post, I once again tell you something interesting I read in the book that made me think.

See, it all amounts to a vote for others to read the book.  Especially if you use his site, but even if you don’t.  It’s a lot of very happy, very optimistic advice.


Image: Twitter via Flickr

On page 211, Stone writes,

For almost a decade now, we’ve been ‘friending,’ ‘following,’ liking,’ and in other ways amassing a prodigious network of virtual connections, but without a long term goal.  What’s it all for?

Uh… that’s a good question.  What is it for?  What is the purpose of social media?

I mean, yes, it connects us, it keeps us in touch, it allows us to disseminate information… but to what end?  Where is all of this leading?  We’re gathering up all these people to do… what?  I mean, is this all it is?  Are we just going to be friending and following each other until we’re in our graves?

I guess I never really thought about it until I saw a site comment on Facebook this week that they just needed one more like to hit 500.  And I instantly thought, “and then what?”  What happens when they hit 500?  Does the goal simply reset and now they strive for 1000 likes?  And what happens when they hit 1000 likes?  When we gather as hunter-gatherers, it’s to feed ourselves, to eat.  But social media sometimes feels a little like hoarding.  Gathering for gathering’s sake.

On page 218, Stone points readers towards a possible end goal: “The true promise of a connected society is people helping one another.”

I love that idea.  I really hope that his vision comes true.  On a day like today, September 11th, when the events of history weigh so heavily on our hearts, it’s a nice balloon of hope: that the world could be a better place tomorrow, next week, a few months from now.  At the very least, within our lifetime.

What do you think?  What is the point of connectivity?  Do you think it will ultimately be used to help one another?

September 11, 2014   5 Comments

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