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5 Years of the Creme de la Creme

Updated: the Creme de la Creme of 2010 was posted on January 1st, but read below to see how you can become part of the list.

Believe it or not, this is the fifth anniversary of the little Creme de la Creme.  If you’re unfamiliar with the project, read on to understand. If you’ve participated in years past, you know how much fun the list is when its revealed on January 1st. So, I hereby declare the Creme de la Creme list open.

I know this is loooooong, but please read this whole post before submitting your entry. Every year, the rules change slightly in order to streamline the process.

If you didn’t read or participate in this list in 2006 or in 2007 or in 2008 or in 2009, the impulse behind this list are the ubiquitous award ceremonies that crawl out of their hiding spaces usually around December or January. Awards are nice — it’s good to honour someone and mark big accomplishments. But we all have a best post tucked into our archives. We all have words that have moved another person or ideas that have kicked off a series of musings. Bloggers are writers, and all of us deserve to be celebrated.

And we’re doing just that.

This is the way it works. If you want to participate, read through your archives and choose a favourite post. You can leave all sorts of comments below telling me how fantastic I am, but fill out the form to send in your submission (do not leave it in the comments section–the point of this list is also the surprise of seeing the choices revealed on a single day). If you post your link below, I will delete it. Again, feel free to leave love comments below — in fact, please do leave love comments below — but not your submission for the list. Let’s keep it a surprise until the list is ready to go up.

You can only choose one entry. You cannot be modest. Everyone has a best post. There is no such thing as a boring blog. Even if you don’t think you have any readers because you’ve never received a comment, you have a best post. The one that you felt really good about when you hit publish. The one that would be the post you’d put forward if an editor called you tomorrow and said, “I have this great writing job for you that will pay a million dollars an hour. You just need to submit one blog entry to get this job so we can check your writing style.”

Even if you just found my blog because you read about the Creme de la Creme on another person’s blog, you are not only welcome to submit; you are encouraged. It is the best posts of 2010 for the ALI community and that community includes anyone who writes about infertility, adoption, pregnancy loss, stillbirth, neonatal death, assisted reproduction, pregnancy after infertility or loss, and every related topic — from living child-free after infertility to parenting after infertility. Everyone on the blogroll (or could be on the blogroll) is welcome to participate. Really, you don’t need to be a regular reader of my blog to join in. It’s open to everyone in the ALI blogosphere. I can’t say this in more ways than that. Which means you don’t need to write me a note asking if it’s okay to participate. The answer is yes. Okay?

Actually, it’s not only “yes;” it’s “please do.”

The list will be posted January 1st and I promise that you will use up a good portion of the beginning of the year reading through the most stunning posts you’ve ever seen. We had 288 posts last year, and I’d really like to top that this year. My goal is all 2500+ blogs currently on the blogroll, but barring that, let’s aim for over 400. Which means that not only do you have to participate if you’re reading this, but you need to spread the word and get other bloggers to participate (more on that below). Link to this post, send out a note to other bloggers you like, and suggest favourite posts to bloggers from this past year.

Um…other FAQ-like things:

How many posts can I submit?

You can only submit one. Please don’t submit two and ask me to choose. Submit one.

How will I know that you received my entry?

When you hit submit on the form, you should get a screen telling you that I have my entry.  If you don’t see that screen, I don’t have your entry.

I sent in a post last week but I just wrote one that I love more! Can I switch my submission?

The short answer is no. The reason is that I write up the blurbs that appear next to each entry. This takes a lot of time. When you change your post, I have to write another blurb. Therefore, think carefully. But get your post in early so it’s high up on the list. But take your time picking it so you’re positive it’s the one you want on the list. But don’t give this too much thought…

If you just submitted it an hour earlier and realized you sent the wrong link, email me quickly so I can change it. Once I write the blurb, it’s set. I mean, you can pull your blog from the list, but you can’t submit a different link.

How do I know which one is my best?

Think of this list in sort of the same vein as those “Best American Short Story”-type collections except that it’s blog entries and everyone in the blogosphere should be represented with a link. The idea of the creme de la creme is not to put out there “the best” by someone else’s definition of “best.” It’s to put out the entry that means the most to you. Everyone has a best entry from 2010. It’s the one you would cry about if it was ever eaten by your computer. Even if it’s only meaningful to you.

I’m having a lot of trouble choosing my best one.

Why don’t you give a few choices to a friend and get their opinion? Don’t get hung up on the word “best.” It’s more about presenting a small taste of your blog. A lot of people read the list each January and it’s a chance for them to get to know your blog in one post. The goal, of course, is not only to honour every blog, but to also introduce everyone. Think of it like a cocktail party. You certainly think about what you wear, but everything doesn’t hinge on this one outfit.

I want to submit a post about my dog/favourite recipe/vacation in Hawaii. So … er … it’s not about adoption/infertility/loss. Can I? Or I want to submit a post but it has pictures of my baby in it. Do you think this is okay for an IF list?

Well, this list is sort of a pu-pu platter of the ALI community. Therefore, if your post is about your ski trip last winter, it doesn’t really show any emotion, thought, or event flitting through the community. Still, people have submitted off-topic posts in the past. If you have any part of the post that if ALI-related, all the better though.

The second question is a sensitivity one. Personally, I think that babies are part of the community and territory. The reality is that we’re all working towards parenthood or were once working towards parenthood. And children are included in that. I try to always mention in my blurb if it’s about a baby or if there are photos so people are given a heads up before they click over. So, yes, send posts that have photos in it and I will make sure that people know the gist of the post before they click over if they’re in a sensitive space.

I’m a man. Can I participate?

Are you part of the ALI community? Then didn’t you read above? EVERYONE is invited to participate. Male, female, young, old, married, single, gay, straight, everyone everyone everyone.

I’m a tree shrew. Can I participate?

Er … a tree shrew with a blog? An infertile tree shrew with a blog? I guess … I mean … I did say everyone …

I just started my blog in October. Can I participate?

As long as you’ve had one post in 2010, you can participate. Even if you didn’t start your blog until October 2010. Just choose your best from the last two months.

My blog is password protected. Can I participate?

If your blog is password protected and you want to participate, choose your blog entry and create a free blog at Blogger or WordPress and post that single entry. Then send me the link so I can place it on the list. I can’t link to password protected blogs.

When is the deadline for getting in my submission (and this has changed since last year so pay attention)?

To ensure that you’re on the list on January 1st, please fill out the form by December 15th. If you submit after December 15, you will be on the list, but you will probably go up after people have started reading on January 1st.

The 2010 list doesn’t technically close until January 31, 2011.  Therefore, if it is after January 1st and the list is already up, you can still submit as long as it is before 11 pm EST on January 31, 2011.  After that point, the list will be close to new entries and I’ll be working to get up the last remaining few.

So, just to reiterate — (1) if you submit before December 15th, you will be on the list on January 1st. (2) If you submit between December 16th and 31st, you may be on the list January 1st, but more likely, you’ll be on some point after January 1st. (3) If you submit between January 1st and 31st, you’ll go up on the list as soon as possible. And then the list is closed until next year when the new one opens.

Can you post another link to the form right now because I’ve decided to submit.

Sure, here’s another link to the form. Just fill it out and hit send and it will go into the Creme de la Creme spreadsheet.

If you don’t want to participate, do nothing. With the Creme de la Creme List, I never add a blog or highlight a post unless the author has sent it to me. Therefore, no hurt feelings. If your post isn’t on the list, it’s because you haven’t sent one. If you see someone missing from the list after it is posted, go bug them and tell them to submit a post. But don’t send me a note asking me to add them without their permission. I really would like this post to be what the author believes is their best post, but if you are feeling shy and can’t choose, enlist a friend to help you narrow it down and choose your best work.

Lastly, there is another section of the list that needs your help: blogs that closed in 2010. These are blogs that closed entirely — the person stopped blogging and said specifically that they were not going to post any longer — not blogs that went password protected or the person moved their blog to a new space. If you read a blog that closed during 2010, please send me the title of the blog. It doesn’t matter if it was read by one person or read by 5000 people, all blogs should be honoured and recognized. And all blogs stand on the same plateau here.

Spread the word with the following button on a post or your sidebar to encourage others to send a link:

The code for adding the link to your blog can be found here.

Everyone has a best post. It is your personal best. It is not best by any other standard. Stop comparing yourself. Stop feeling shy. Stop thinking it’s immodest to toot your own horn when I’ve told you to toot your own horn. Start reading through your archives. Reflect on the year. And then send me a link for the list.

Wheew. Sorry about that last part. But everyone in the blogosphere should be represented and honoured.


1 Mic @ IF Crossroads { 11.01.10 at 10:20 am }

I’m looking forward to a new list of fantastic blogs to read in 2011! Thanks Mel!!!

2 loribeth { 11.01.10 at 11:00 am }

My firewall at work is preventing me from accessing the form (which is also why I haven’t been able to send much stuff to LFCA lately)(boo, hiss….). But I will do it when I get home tonight — I already have a post in mind! : )

Thanks, Mel — I always look forward to the list each Jan. 1st!

3 Katie { 11.01.10 at 12:50 pm }

I just wanted to tell you how awesome you are, Mel, for doing stuff like this for our community. I can’t wait to read the blog posts from 2010!

4 Calliope { 11.01.10 at 1:41 pm }

silly Mel! Tree shrews can’t blog- they don’t have opposable thumbs.

5 Kathy { 11.01.10 at 2:55 pm }

Yay! I can’t believe it is time for the Creme already… But so excited to see/read the list in the new year! Thanks for doing this again! YOU ROCK! 🙂

P.S. I just submitted mine and added the button to my blog!

6 TasIVFer { 11.01.10 at 6:25 pm }

No idea if it was my best post or even a creamy enough post, but I’ve just gone and submitted one now so I don’t have to think about it! 🙂

7 TasIVFer { 11.01.10 at 6:28 pm }

And don’t think I haven’t noticed how much you love signing yourself up for pain! Not that I don’t appreciate it, but you’re crazy! (In a great way, of course.)

8 Tara { 11.01.10 at 6:41 pm }

Very interesting…the humble self depricating side of me says, “no way, I’m not worthy of the Creme de la Creme” but since you said everyone, I’m going to have to look into my archives.

Thanks for doing this. You’re awesome!!

9 Manapan { 11.02.10 at 2:27 am }

Squee! It’s Creme de la Creme time again! I met so many great people through this last year, and I can’t wait for the new list. Thanks Mel!

10 Kir { 11.02.10 at 9:34 am }

You are amazing, and wonderful, and tireless and cute…..pretty actually…beautiful really.

is that enough fawning of you my regal friend???? I love you LOTS


11 Dora { 11.02.10 at 12:49 pm }

Thank you so much for doing this. I love reading through the Creme de la Creme list. And your blurbs are so great! This year was easy. I haven’t really written much, and many post have been picture posts, since I’m either running around like a chicken with its head cut off or I’m just exhausted. But I wrote a post a few months ago that 2 TTC SMC bloggers have linked to on their own blogs. One blogger actually makes her living (and a very good one at that) as a writer, so I’m flattered that my writing struck such a chord for her.

12 HereWeGoAJen { 11.02.10 at 2:42 pm }

Okay, I submitted! Seriously, I’ve had this post saved for you for like a YEAR. No, really, I wrote it like a week after the last Creme.

13 WiseGuy { 11.03.10 at 3:41 am }

Yep, you are pretty awesome, Mel!

14 Bree { 11.03.10 at 7:46 pm }

You are, as some people would say, full of the awesome.

You are, as I would say, a port in the storm for so many of us.

Thanks for all that you do.

I participated.

15 thalia { 11.05.10 at 5:57 am }


As the resident “we’re not all americans” police, wanted to point out one tiny niggle on the form – outside of the US we don’t capitalise all the words in a title, just the first word and any proper nouns.

But other than that, thanks for doing this.

16 Georgie { 11.08.10 at 10:47 pm }

oooh scrap my entry – got excited and posted before finishing reading the guidelines and it’s way too offtopic 🙂

17 Kristin { 11.09.10 at 10:12 pm }

I am SO excited for this! I just posted on Faces of Loss about it too! 🙂

18 Rachel { 11.10.10 at 10:42 am }

Well…you said everyone, so even if I feel unworthy, I’ve submitted an entry 🙂


19 Annette { 11.11.10 at 6:04 pm }

This will be my first year participating and I cannot wait to read! 😀 <3

20 Maddy { 11.16.10 at 2:29 pm }

I shall have a little think about that. Certainly have some powerful emotions around here, but ‘best’ might be a bit of a challenge. It’s still a great idea.

21 Anla { 11.18.10 at 1:01 am }

Mel as always you rock!

22 Lilly { 11.21.10 at 2:53 pm }

I just wish it was more than once a year… I am inpatient, as you can see.

23 Lut C. { 12.08.10 at 3:34 pm }

“The code for adding the link to your blog can be found here.”
There appears to be a problem there. The link in the code is broken.


Possibly, you copied and pasted a ‘condensed’ url from your wordpress page?

That should be

24 It is what it is { 12.15.10 at 8:23 pm }

Nothing like leaving it down to the wire as I am sometimes wan to do. I submitted an entry and am glad that the process gave me an excuse to read through a myriad of posts from the last year and discover just how far I’ve come.

25 caitsmom { 12.19.10 at 11:58 am }

I almost MISSED this!!! I’ve been off the blogopshere for the fall mostly, but started reading my e-friends posts and catching up on commenting and saw the Creme de la Creme tag. So, I came right over. Can’t wait to read everyone’s posts again this year. Love that you do this.

26 Mash { 12.31.10 at 3:43 am }

I’m sitting at work, not much to do… and WISHING the list was already up! How much longer… I’m so impatient… are we there yet…

27 Kristin (kekis) { 01.02.11 at 9:33 pm }


28 Kristin (kekis) { 01.02.11 at 9:36 pm }

What an AWESOME list! Thank you, Mel, for all of the time and work you put into compiling it all. I have a lot of reading (and commenting!) ahead of me. Your efforts for the IF community are appreciated. We love ya!

29 mash { 01.03.11 at 1:15 pm }

I’m confused, where is the list… I clicked on my icon and came here instead!

30 Betsy { 01.05.11 at 9:45 pm }

I just found this through a friend’s blog, and am enjoying reading the blogs that are listed. Thank you!

31 sparklythings { 01.08.11 at 3:09 am }


the best post on my blog was a comment! i think we need awards for best COMMENT!!

i know you don’t have enough to do, so i thought i would throw this at you.


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