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My favourite piece of art that Max made was a photograph called Reserved which featured an empty red chair.  It spoke of so many possibilities.  We had a large red wall in our living room, completely empty.  Max and Vee sent me the photograph as a surprise to fill that space.

Max died yesterday and there is a huge, gaping hole in the blogosphere right now.  Writing this feels unreal.  Vee and Max are two long time members of the ALI community, both bloggers for over five years, and the blogosphere is not the same without his voice and art.  Please go over and give Vee your love if you have access to her blog (it’s password protected).  Feel free to leave her any good thoughts here if you don’t have access and I will make sure she gets them.


1 Heather { 05.11.10 at 11:00 pm }

Please send my love to Vee. I read her blog for years and when she went password protected, I got lost along the way. I emailed but never heard from her. I knew her life was busy with the baby so figured I got lost in the shuffle…I’m so sorry to hear about Max. I’m thinking about them and praying for them.

2 Orodemniades { 05.11.10 at 11:18 pm }

Oh dear. My love to Vee.

3 L. { 05.12.10 at 2:19 am }

I am so sorry Vee. I read your blog before it was private as well, and was always very touched by your posts. My deepest condolences to you and your boy.

4 Rach { 05.12.10 at 3:57 am }

I’m lucky enough to still be a reader of the wonderfully courageous, brave and loving Vee and I sit here in shock (so soon?) and mentally filing my problems away as completely insignificant in light of this news

I am upset that Vee and Doudou no longer have Alex in the physical sense, relieved that Alex is no longer in pain, saddened that he had to pass over to no longer be in pain and comforted by the fact that even though Alex is no longer here in the physical sense, he is not far away and will live on in the hearts of many….


5 Betty M { 05.12.10 at 5:19 am }

Like many I read part of Vee and Max’s blogs but had lost them when Vee went pwp. Please send Vee and her family all my sympathies.

6 N { 05.12.10 at 6:04 am }

Sending my love to Vee in this hard, hard time.

7 serenity { 05.12.10 at 9:05 am }

I literally haven’t stopped thinking about them since I heard the news.

I have never felt so strongly the distance between countries before now; the emptiness of only being able to offer words to her in comfort.


8 WiseGuy { 05.12.10 at 9:09 am }

Dear Vee,

I am very sorry to hear that. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

May his soul be in peace, and may you find the strength to carry on.

9 loribeth { 05.12.10 at 9:33 am }

I also read Vee’s blog pre-pwp… meant to ask for the password but never got around to it. I read about Max/Alex on Gil’s blog yesterday (for some reason, I am having problems leaving a comment there??) & was so sorry 🙁 — but am so glad they were able to enjoy some precious months together as a family.

10 mrs spock { 05.12.10 at 10:10 am }

So very sad for Vee and Doudou, and hugging my husband closer today….

11 Caro { 05.12.10 at 12:29 pm }

Please pass on my love and thoughts to Vee, I lost access when she went pwp as I was away and didn’t note down her email address. I am so sorry for her and Doudou’s loss.

12 Battynurse { 05.12.10 at 2:21 pm }

Thinking of Vee and sending many hugs and thoughts her way. I’m so sorry for your loss.

13 luna { 05.12.10 at 2:42 pm }

what a lovely piece of art.
gaping hole indeed.
sent my love already and shedding some tears from across the ocean.

14 beagle { 05.12.10 at 8:56 pm }

Dear Vee . . . my heart breaks to read this news . . . may Max live on in his art, his writings, your love, your family . . . my deepest sympathies xo beagle

15 edenland { 05.12.10 at 8:58 pm }

Thank you for writing this Mel. Vee is such a beautiful woman, my heart aches for her xo

16 Baby Smiling In Back Seat { 05.13.10 at 3:21 am }

I’m so sorry. Thinking of Vee and Doudou.

17 Kristin { 05.13.10 at 1:32 pm }

Please send my love and prayers to Vee. My heart aches for her when I think about the loss of Max.

18 Tara { 05.14.10 at 1:04 pm }

Sorry to hear about this loss.

19 Bumble { 05.15.10 at 6:29 am }

I am so so very sorry to hear this sad news Vee.
You and Doudou are in my thoughts and prayers.
Lots of love xxx

20 Terry Elisabeth { 05.15.10 at 11:29 am }

I don’t know who they are but I’m sorry for your loss, Mel. And if Vee see this whoever she is, wherever she is, I’m sorry for her loss.

21 Bec { 05.16.10 at 1:08 am }

I am so terribly sorry to hear the news. I used to read Vee’s blog before it went password-protected. They are in my prayers now and in the difficult weeks to come xx

22 Kami { 05.21.10 at 1:18 pm }

My thoughts are with Vee. I read her blog occasionally before Max got sick and just couldn’t believe their bad luck. I stopped by a few times afterwards and was lucky enough to land on a post about how happy Max was to get to meet his child. What an amazing thing – to see the good so close to death.

23 Portia P { 05.23.10 at 4:43 pm }

I’m so very sad. I also followed Vee and mailed for her password when she went password protected but got lost along the way somewhere.
I never stopped thinking about them both and have an ache in my heart for Vee having read that sad news.
I hope Vee reads this as I want her to know my heart goes out to her and I send her a huge hug – not that will in any way help heal her heart. I can’t imagine how she must be feeling.

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