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No Roundup Because I Thought The Earth Might End

I thought the world was going to end, but it turns out that it probably isn’t.  Wheeew.  Though I was so certain that tomorrow was it for mankind that I stopped rounding up posts.  Didn’t make a lot of sense to highlight great blogs no one would have time to read.

Okay, maybe I just heard about the world ending thing today from the Washington Post, but it sounded like a better excuse than saying Rosh Hashanah derailed my week.  Between the cooking and the cleaning and the services, I didn’t have time to write up the stuff I bookmarked.  So you’re getting a non-post, and we’ll be back to our regularly scheduled program next week.

Provided the world doesn’t end before that.

So… when is the next world ending prediction?

September 22, 2017   11 Comments

661st Friday Blog Roundup

There are some weeks where the only infertility reminders I have come from my own life, and other weeks where it feels like everyone and their mother are talking about uteruses.

This is one of those uterus-heavy weeks.

First Carolyn Hax had advice from someone who is sick of being asked why she doesn’t adopt when she tells people she is going through infertility.  I actually loved it for the answer she suggests the person give when people ask her if she’s planning on having kids, suggesting that she doesn’t share her infertility with everyone:

They: “Are you planning to have kids?”

You: “Ooh, we get asked that a lot.”

If your questioner doesn’t accept that as an answer and presses for more, then you say: “We get asked that a lot.” A little eyebrow-raise says, “Get it?”

Um, I love that.  It fits for everything.

The other was a more touching piece about a dad who pushed an empty stroller during a marathon to raise awareness for loss after his child was born still.  Of course, the reaction proved how desperately that awareness is needed.

“Every time, ‘Hey mate you lost your kid,’ it took a good mate beside me to have a chat so my bottom lip didn’t tremble, as I would try think up quick ways of saying, ‘Yes, I have lost my kid and I am not getting him back,'” he wrote. “As the run continued the onslaught was relentless, crossing over to the second lap I hear on the loud speaker … ‘Here comes old mate and it looks like he lost his kid,’ more giggles from the crowd.”

The post made me cry.  I’m so grateful that he did this and got people thinking.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Road Less Travelled has a post with a title that gave me pause: “Some people get what they want and some don’t.”  The words come from a book she is reading, and she unpacks it by making the point: this is our life-long work.  Not to necessarily be happy with what we don’t have or what didn’t happen, but to at least live in a place of peace with it.  It’s a simple idea but hard to put into practice.

Bent Not Broken has a post about an uncomfortable moment at the gym.  She writes, “Did the man intend to intimidate me? This question is harder to answer. I don’t think there was necessarily intent, but there was definitely an air of superiority and entitlement present in his actions that led to me being intimidated enough to leave.”  I think this post will hit home for a lot of women.

Lastly, Different Shores has a post highlighting a recent infertility piece in the Guardian that didn’t end with a baby.  I love this thought she included: “her experience has allowed her to see life as ‘less of a string of acquisitions (husband, children, real estate, career accolades, objects)’ and find contentment and satisfaction in what she has.”  A nice end-piece to The Road Less Travelled’s post.

The roundup to the Roundup: Good answers and thought-provoking actions.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 8th and 15th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

September 15, 2017   9 Comments

660th Friday Blog Roundup

I was speaking with Morra Aarons-Mele, and I mentioned that I was excited for her book, Hiding in the Bathroom.  My copy would be here in a few weeks.  “Want a copy now?  I can send you one of the galleys.”  Um… YES.

So it arrived in the mail this week.  It is amazing.  I haven’t read Susan Cain’s book, Quiet, though it has been high on my TBR pile for a while.  But this book?  This book speaks to my heart.  I feel like it was written for me.   Have you ever had that happen?  You pick up a book and feel as if the author wrote the book for you and only you?  That’s how I felt starting this book.

It’s first and foremost an enjoyable, raw read, like delving into the best of the old blogging world where people were brutally honest and branding wasn’t a consideration.  And like that old blogging world, her words make me feel less alone.  It is hard to be an introvert worker.  You can pick and choose your social engagements, but you can’t pick and choose parts of your job.  It is hard to stick to your boundaries; to set up the work space you need in order to be productive.  And this book is full of “you’re not alone” moments as well as actual advice.

I’m passing this along in case you are (1) an introvert, (2) didn’t know this book was coming out, and (3) are feeling overwhelmed because you’re an introvert worker needing to function in a extrovert-friendly environment or career.

And yes, reading this has bumped Quiet to the top of my TBR list.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Delayed But Not Denied has a post about Kate Middleton’s third pregnancy announcement.  It came right as she was prepping for surgery, and it makes her think about the three people she wanted to be pregnant before they announced their pregnancy: her sister, a schoolmate, and Kate Middleton.  And now Kate Middleton is on her third child.  She looks back at old journal entries, charting her changing reactions to each announcement and birth.  It’s a great post giving the emotional scope of a journey.

And I didn’t get to post these from last week:

Inexplicably Missing has a post about belonging, or feeling like you’re a part of something.  The post takes a deep look at our community; whether we are set up for people to belong.  Certainly, there are people whose situation is different from mine, and I don’t belong to their subgroup.  But individually, we belong to each other, if that makes sense.  I look at it in terms of the individuals making bridges between the subgroups of the ALI community, holding all the various situations together.  At the end of the day, I belong because I can say something and all of you get it without needing to explain it.  We see the world through a similar lens, and I can say, “X makes me sad,” and you know exactly why X makes me sad.  So that’s my take.  What is yours?

Lastly, Different Shores has a post about the right to have a child (or, really, why people bristle at that idea).  She writes: “But in the back of my head I’ve always thought: surely deciding to have a baby IS, actually, clearly defined as a basic human right? Anyone can have as many children as they like, when they like, however wretched their condition in life. Can’t they?”  And yet, people argue about whether a person should have a right if the action doesn’t happen without assistance.  It’s an interesting look at the argument.

The roundup to the Roundup: A book for introverts in the workplace.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 1st and 8th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

September 8, 2017   7 Comments

659th Friday Blog Roundup

We took in the eclipse from the beach.  We were going to watch from NASA, but it sounded like they were using their field and not their beach, so we headed down the road to the public beach because the kids wanted to see the waves.

It was a strange low tide.  The water pulled back far into the ocean, leaving behind shells and scurrying crabs.  You could walk far into the ocean with the water only covering your ankles.  The ChickieNob and I made our way out to a sandbar, fully dressed, by walking haphazardly on the edge of tide pools.

When the eclipse started, the beach felt like a giant party.  There was a family with eight teenagers behind us, and they didn’t have glasses, so they were using paper plates to cast shadows.  We passed our glasses back and forth with them for the three hours.  It never got dark — we were only in the 88% zone — but it got cold.

I worried that I would regret not going to the totality zone, but it was the right amount of eclipse for me.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Twangy Pearl has a moving post about her father, who died this week at the hospital.  It is the quietest post; a daughter trying to process her loss.  I am telling you about it, not only because I sense that the elastic girl could use support in this moment, but because we should bear witness in these moments.  The world changes every single time someone leaves it.

Look No Tubes is in that hard zone between positive beta and first scan, worried because she needs to go on faith that everything is okay.  She explains that much of her anxiety stems from an early loss.  There is nothing she can do except keep putting one foot in front of the other, but we can circle the wagons and make sure she has company as she walks through these next few weeks.

Lastly, My Path to Mommyhood has a post about breaking up with her therapist and finding a new one.  It’s a good reminder that therapy is a relationship, and not every relationship will be perfect.  You wouldn’t keep dating someone who was a terrible fit, right?  She writes, “I felt misunderstood, I felt like the last thing I need is someone who is encouraging me to keep a door open that it took a shitload of strength and presence of mind (with the health of my mind and body in the balance) to close.”  Luckily the story has a happy ending (with two f-bombs).

The roundup to the Roundup: We had a good eclipse.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between August 18th and 25h) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

August 25, 2017   6 Comments

658th Friday Blog Roundup

ChickieNob started a blog a few months ago, giving commentary on royal family news.

Any time I see something interesting about a royal family, I pass it her way.  (And she usually rolls her eyes and says, “I already knew that.”)  One morning this week, I saw a picture of Denmark’s Prince Vincent, clearly upset on his first day of school, and I sent it her way.  She had already written about the Danish royal twins going to school the day before, but I told her that it was worth writing a second post; a public letter to Prince Vincent.  Maybe he would read it.  I was sure she had some advice to pass his way as an elementary school graduate and fellow worrier about going to school.

When I read it, my heart exploded.  Not just because she told him about our necklace trick (we’ve since graduated to matching typewriter key necklaces), but because kids comforting kids makes my heart melt.  She knocked it out of the park with the post.

So if you know someone who is struggling with a new beginning, maybe her words would help.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Jewish IVF has a post that moves like a roller coaster, ultimately moving through the heart dropping, is-the-world-going-to-hell moments to the soft hush of the ride coming to a stop.  Yes, it’s tied up in her next IVF cycle, but I love this ending: “I said I literally live a few houses down but thanked her for stopping. It was such a nice gesture. Maybe the world isn’t all complete garbage. Kindness goes a long way – she didn’t even do anything, just the offer was enough to cheer me up.”

Pages, Stages, and Rages said what I have been saying since news broke about Charlottesville: no one should be surprised.  This did not come out of nowhere.  As she writes: “Now look, I’m for blaming Trump for anything but people aren’t getting this. Trump is now in the Oval Office because of people like this.”  It is a wonderful post about not shutting people out or shutting down.  Just moving forward because it’s the only direction to go.

Lastly, Lavender Luz has a post about adoption called “Everybody Owns a Scar.”  She turned her blog over to a guest writer who told a story about her relationship with her children’s birthmother.  I’ll admit that I cried reading this.  But make your way all the way to the end.  You’ll be glad you did.

The roundup to the Roundup: ChickieNob wrote a great post.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between August 11th and 18th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

August 18, 2017   5 Comments

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