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581st Friday Blog Roundup

I was a little shocked by the number of people who said they would let their friend order. Some people talked about receiving suggestions from friends or waitstaff.  Of course, I take suggestions all the time.  A waitress’s suggestion just led me to a delicious sandwich at a vegan restaurant, and my cousin told me to try her buffalo hot sauce cauliflower thing and I did and loved it.  So, sure, I can roll with suggestions.

What gave me pause was the idea of going to a restaurant, sitting there with the menu closed, and telling the other person, “Surprise me!”  You would have to be a fairly trusting person and an adventurous eater — both of which I am not.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

No Kidding in NZ explains that there are many reasons to withdraw after a loss and that self-care is just as important as reaching out.  I love that this brief post points out the positive sides of cocooning and hopefully emerging stronger and calmer.  A small change in perspective makes all the difference.

Pages, Stages, and Rages has a note she wrote to her daughter’s former caregiver back in China that made me cry, especially this exchange: “…She saw a picture of you.  She stared at it for a while. and I asked her what she remembered.  ‘She smelled good.’ Our daughter said. ‘She was warm.’  I knew she was loved.”  Go read the whole letter.

Infertile Girl in a Fertile World has a post about a Facebook meme making the rounds.  She has been tagged and doesn’t want to participate; at least, not in the way the meme dictates.  She writes: “But being infertile is like walking through a door and locking it behind you. No matter the outcome, you can’t go backwards.”

Inconceivable! has a post about the monsters in our lives.  This post resonated with me because I spend a lot of time worrying, which makes the monsters much larger and scarier than they actually are.  She explains: “I’ve spent years ‘seeing’ monsters such as illness, job loss and unexpected tragedies, trying to dodge them, afraid of their presence in an outsize way, far beyond simply doing the best I can to plan and minimize the impact in real ways – then moving on.”  Me too.

Battlefish has a great post about matching the “me” on the inside to the “me” on the outside.  She dismisses the thought as silly, but it made complete sense to me: this idea that your inside being and your outside being may not match, visually.  I loved this post.  It’s for every punk rock girl sporting a sensible haircut.

Lastly, No Baby Ruth wrote a post I needed to read this week about the Tale of the Porcupine.  If you don’t know this parable, click over to read the post.  You’ll suddenly remember why you can’t cut yourself off from the rest of the world and why you sometimes may be pricked as you brush up against your fellow travelers.

The roundup to the Roundup: Tipping my hat to more adventurous eaters.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 29th and February 5th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

February 5, 2016   7 Comments

580th Friday Blog Roundup

I did not put on real pants from Thursday to Thursday.  That probably wasn’t necessary, but how often in life are you healthy but get to wear pyjamas for 7 straight days?  I mean, I changed them each day.  I showered.  But then I’d slip into a fresh pair of pyjamas and start anew.

It felt really odd to put on real pants on Thursday and leave the house.  I’m not really a fan of leaving the house on a normal day, but when you’ve been inside for 7 straight days, it makes everything sound too loud and look too bright.  On the other hand, I got confirmation that if we had to live underground, we could totally manage.  We’d even thrive.  The twins and I are indoor door kids.  We’re stay-at-home kids.  We’re don’t go anywhere for many days or breathe fresh air kids.

We had a good time being off of school this week.  It was like summer.  Except it was winter.  So not really like summer at all.

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If you haven’t yet signed up for the Random Act of Kindness Day, it’s creeping up on March 9th.  You can head over and sign up on Facebook.  Last year over 11,000 joined along, many of them fellow bloggers from the ALI community.  It would rock to do this together again.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

I usually shy away from featuring huge sites, but Huffington Post had a beautiful piece about infertility this week.  Colleen Berge writes, “What have we really lost? What words can we use to do justice to this thing that knocks the air from our lungs?”  I love her unpacking of the “at leasts.”  It’s a really good read.

The Road Less Travelled has a post about suddenly realizing a connection between Katie and Malia Obama within the timing of the two daughters.  It’s a beautiful piece about two families in two different places feeling two huge waves of emotion as a milestone is reached and unreached at the same time.

Searching for Our Silver Lining realizes that she often waits for other bloggers to say what she is thinking, and decided this time to step forward with an article she read and express her feelings.  It’s a brief post, just introducing an idea tied to an article, but the post itself speaks volumes: do you wait for other people to say things, or do you start typing your thoughts as they come into your brain?

Lastly, Anabegins has a post about turning 40 that spoke to me.  If you remember that I was dragged kicking and screaming into my 40s, you will understand why I loved this line so much: “A birthday is just a date, not a magic gateway into a more enlightened state.”  I love the energy she is putting into getting over her can’ts.  And I’m cheering her on as she meets the milestone and sprints past it, changing her life and becoming better and better.

The roundup to the Roundup: We had a snow week instead of a snow day.  Do a random act of kindness?  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 22nd and 29th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

January 29, 2016   10 Comments

579th Friday Blog Roundup

Well now I’m glad that I kept my spelunking suit because we are about to get 6 million feet of snow.  For the first time ever, I received a weather alert warning of an impending blizzard.  Impending blizzard!  That sounds like something that happens in Antarctica, not Washington, D.C.  But I dutifully went to the food store and bought up staples like clementines and bread flour (if I’m going to be snowed in, all I’m eating is citrus and hot pretzels).  And now we wait.

The only thing I’m sad about is that I intended to buy myself a decent pair of boots this winter.  I wear a pair of Docs most days, but they’re not actually waterproof so they leak in the snow.  I was going to buy myself actual snow boots, but I didn’t.  And now I’m sort of screwed on the shoe-front despite my waterproof pants.  How was I to know that we were going to have a historic snow event where we get 28 billion feet of snow?

We have books.  We have video games.  We actually have a pile of work to do.  And we now have an open weekend since everything is going to be closed due to the 97 trillion feet of snow.  I feel like I shouldn’t squander these last few minutes before the snow comes, but I have no clue where to go except perhaps the food store to replace the container of peanuts I spilled across the kitchen floor.  Ha — as if there are peanuts left on the shelf.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Infertile Fantasies blows my mind once again with the questions she asked this week about her donated embryos.  The other woman’s pregnancy didn’t go well and she has lost her fallopian tube.  The questions are so thought-provoking, though I suspect the answers will be different from person to person.  Still, these are the sorts of posts the general public needs to read to fully grasp IVF and frozen embryos and donation, et al.

Project Progeny is back with a post about the end of 2015 and the beginning of 2016.  My favourite line: “This job is not my own personal salvation and I think my biggest mistake has been thinking that it was.”  What incredible insight, and I wonder where else this applies in life.  The things we take to heart that we could also look at with this perspective.

Lastly, River Run Dry’s post this week is especially apt due to the name of her blog.  She has run dry, but she does a wonderful job of boiling down a familiar situation into its separate components and discussing how to get over the guilt and shoulds.  For anyone feeling stretched thin, go over and read this post.

The roundup to the Roundup: We are getting 400 quadrillion feet of snow.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 15th and 22nd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

January 22, 2016   18 Comments

578th Friday Blog Roundup

I started logging my meals again.  Sigh.  I lost a decent amount of weight a few years ago and maintained it by writing down everything I ate.  I wasn’t precise about it; I didn’t keep track of every stray crumb.  But I measured out my portions and when I hit my caloric budget for the day, I put down the fork.  I’m a rules follower.

I got more and more lax about writing stuff down and measuring things out, and over the years, the weight has crept back on.  Not all of it but maybe half of it.  And I can feel it.  I remember how I felt when I wasn’t carrying this extra weight, and I know how I feel now.  So it’s back to writing everything down.

It is amazing how small amounts of food contain so many calories.

I don’t want to do anything unsustainable since weight creeps back on once you stop doing the unsustainable thing.  But I also don’t know any other way to hold myself accountable.  To set some limits.  To remind myself that I really don’t need that cookie.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. (Well, two weeks ago.)  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Notes from the Ninth Circle has a post about trying to connect with other people and falling short.  She captures that mood so well, when you want to talk to someone and yet no one feels right.  She explains her lack of impulse to reach out comes from a belief that,  “I don’t have to risk bothering anyone, nor do I have to find other things to talk about to avoid bothering them with what’s really upsetting me.”  And it circles back to needing your blog.  It’s a great post.

Twangy Pearl the Elastic Girl has a post about waiting to hear the thoughts of a birth mother.  The words feel like pacing, like waiting, like double checking that everything is sort of in place in case the call comes.  Again, I think she captured a moment so well.

Anabegins has a totally fascinating post about frugality.  She writes: “The people spending $400/month to feed their family may have some mad skillz (and probably a lot of time to coupon/shop around), but they are not inherently better people than the ones spending $1200.”  I like her whole argument about the level in which we value things.  It’s not only an interesting post, but there is a good conversation taking place in the comment section.

Lastly, Persnickety Chickadee has a post about the habits of unhappy people.  I looked down the list and realized I did a few of these things, especially the one that she highlighted: waiting for the future.  It’s an interesting idea: that you could change your happiness level by remaining in the same situation but changing the way you view it.  Not sure, but it’s food for thought.

The roundup to the Roundup: Tracking what I eat.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 8th and 15th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

January 15, 2016   10 Comments

577th Friday Blog Roundup

When Page, Stages, and Rages wrote to let me know that the Hamilton lottery would be going digital for a few months, I ran around the room in excitement. Until I read this tweet:

Um… 50,000 entries? I guess we’re back to having zero chance.

I am not smitten with Hamilton, but the ChickieNob is obsessed. She loves American history. This is a great thing because I know next to nothing about American history, and so without having to do any work, I now have a satellite brain that knows all the facts and can spit them out at the appropriate moment when asked. I have always called the ChickieNob the “brain for my brain” because she is this wonderful sponge that remembers everything. And since I take her everywhere with me, it’s like carting around a little extra brain that I can use as external storage.

So she is obsessed with Hamilton, which means that I am obsessed with trying to get her to the play. Though this is looking less and less likely. Sniff.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. (Well, two weeks ago.)  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

A lot of people talk about what they’re reading, but I haven’t seen as many posts talk about how they’re squeezing reading into a day.  So I loved Anabegins post about where and when she is reading.  If nothing else, it will make you realize that everyone has times in life where they don’t get a page read and other times when they devour books.  If nothing else, she has bumped Max Barry’s Lexicon towards the top of my to-read list.

Non Sequitur Chica leaves her husband to spread news about her pregnancy.  And what happens is… well… a lot of confusion.  It’s a very funny post.

Something Remarkable has a post about setting goals for the new year.  Without a large goal in front of her, she writes, “Nothing is urgent, which makes everything feel urgent.”  What happens when you enter the happily ever after?  I like her idea of keeping the goals small rather than setting them for a year, especially because she’s right: how do you know what life will look like next fall?  This post is a nice take on grand resolutions, and how at some points in life, smaller goals work better than larger ones.

Lastly, please hold Torthúil in your thoughts. Her father died this week, and she memorializes the moment with an achingly beautiful post about loss and love and what life looks like when boiled down to its core elements.

The roundup to the Roundup: My brain for my brain is never going to get to see Hamilton.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 1st and 8th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

January 8, 2016   5 Comments

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