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556th Friday Blog Roundup

Daily Dot killed their comment section. I’ve read their post about it twice, and I still don’t really have a clear picture of why. It seems to be some sort of amalgamation of troll-like comments meets people don’t want to leave comments meets why leave multiple places for people to discuss when they’re talking about the posts on Facebook meets… something else?

All I know is that this fundamental part of blogging — in fact, what made blogging a discussion vs. having someone talk at you — is disappearing.  I don’t just mean the conversation itself; that’s been obviously on a decline as people read from mobile devices.  But this sense of closing the door to conversation.  It would be like someone saying, “Fine, you’re not going to talk?  Then I’m going to stick ear plugs in.”

Whether or not people left comments, it was nice to know the door was open.  Now I just have to write posts about their posts.  Or hunt down the discussion elsewhere.  Or not talk about it at all.

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It’s Harry Potter’s birthday.  Happy birthday, Boy Who Lived.  You’re now 35.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Life and Love in the Petri Dish is doing treatments again, and specifically worrying about her reaction to lupron.  She dreaded taking it, but she isn’t having the same depression this time around.  She writes, “I keep wondering – why is this time so different than my prior two experiences with depot lupron? And all I can guess is that having Magpie means I am so very happy, that plunging me into a chemically-induced menopause can’t shake it.”  It’s an interesting post on how infertility thwarts all of our expectations.

Non Sequitur Chica has a string of random thoughts, and I’m willing to bet that if you click over, you will connect with at least one (though likely more).  For me, it was the piece about playing the pregnancy game.  I do that and didn’t even realize how it’s different between summer and winter.

Lastly, A Woman My Age has a post about her son’s fictive kin cousins, the children of her husband’s best friend.  Seeing her son play with them, she reflects on how much she wanted another child and how much her child wanted a sibling.  It’s a post about an unfulfilled heart.

The roundup to the Roundup: Another comment section closes.  It’s Harry Potter’s birthday.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between July 24th and 31st) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

July 31, 2015   4 Comments

555th Friday Blog Roundup

This is it.  Last day to get Life from Scratch for 99 cents.  Measure of Love is also on sale.  (I believe on all platforms.)  Please help me spread word.

Please Tweet about it. Or throw up the announcement on Facebook. Or email a friend about the sale. Or buy a copy for a friend and send it to them. Or Pin the book cover. Or… Instagram yourself reading the book… I will be eternally grateful.

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How am I wasting time now? With the app WordBubbles. I am really not digging this new trend to offer the removal of ads as an in-app purchase (vs. offering a free and paid version of the same app with ads or no ads), so I haven’t yet removed the ads.  But I am on level 111.  And I like that you get a daily puzzle, to boot.

The game makes me feel smarter than I actually am.

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I found this explanation from author Robert Munsch of Love You Forever to be very moving.

I made that up after my wife and I had two babies born dead. The song was my song to my dead babies. For a long time I had it in my head and I couldn’t even sing it because every time I tried to sing it I cried. It was very strange having a song in my head that I couldn’t sing.

I’ll never read the story the same way again, and I’m so grateful that he shared that story.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Lavender Luz has another installment of her adoption advice column, and I thought addressing the adopt-a-baby-fast mentality was of utmost importance.  Without shaming the asker, she points out the problems inherent in this mindset, especially in doing what is best for the child.  I especially loved the wedding/marriage analogy.

It Is What It Is has a picture post that packs a punch.  (So much so that I need to write with alliteration.)  With a single image, she speaks volumes.

Inconceivable has a gorgeous post about parenting after a loss, marking the moment of a first unbirthday.  I started to highlight the sentences that made me catch my breath, but really, it’s the whole thing.  It’s the whole, brief, beautiful post.

Lastly, Mom, Eventually has a post about fighting to find happiness.  I love when she explains, “My happiness is like a house of cards – so hard to build and yet so fragile and quick to fall down.”  I think this post will resonate with a lot of people.

The roundup to the Roundup: Please help me promote the Life from Scratch sale.  Waste time with WordBubble.  The real story behind Love You Forever.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between July 17th and 24th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

July 24, 2015   9 Comments

554th Friday Blog Roundup

There is a huge sale this week for Life from Scratch. Starting July 18th (tomorrow) and running until July 24th, Life from Scratch will be on sale for 99 cents. 99 cents! A small cup of Starbucks coffee is more than double that amount. It’s on sale on Amazon, Nook, Kobo, Google, and Apple — yes, everywhere. I would love your help in spreading the word.

So please Tweet about it. Or throw up the announcement on Facebook. Or email a friend about the sale. Or buy a copy for a friend and send it to them. Or Pin the book cover. Or… Instagram yourself reading the book… I will be eternally grateful.

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I’m here at BlogHer, but I wrote this Roundup yesterday before I got on the road. So… while I want to tell you about all that is happening at the conference, it is slow-going typing it on the iPad. Expect an update on Sunday.

In the meantime, the twins went to the White House and reported on the Kids’ State Dinner last week. I’m aware that I am biased and an insanely proud, emotional mother (especially when I think about their beginning months of life and everything it took to get to this age), but I think it’s a great article.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

It was a week for beautiful stories and confessions.  Inconceivable! has a post about the embroidered towels she received in a moment when they thought their baby would die, and how she felt when she saw her mother using them recently.  She writes, “It occurred to me how I’d referred to E since the day she’d been conceived, more so once the bleeding started and especially after my water broke. If the baby lived, if she came home, if, if, if. I’d been saving these for that disaster.”  It’s about the if being confirmed and shifting the mind to follow.

Searching for Our Silver Lining has a gorgeous post about being the daughter of a mother with scars, and now being a mother with scars herself.  It is about not repeating what she experienced from the older generation.  She explains: “I was faced with the reality that I needed to find a way to begin healing from infertility in order to save my sanity. Since learning about the existence of the Beats, there’s been even more of an urgency as I’ve worried about repeating the cycle I learned from my mother’s trauma; tainting their lives with the demons that haunt me.”  Weaving in the practice of Kintsugi, she explains her path forward to healing.

So… I’m reading the Listserve this week, and AN IF BLOGGER WAS THE WINNER.  I had already decided to write the person before I got to the end, and then I looked at the name and email address and was like… is it?  AND IT WAS.  I am so happy that R. Sativus won.

Lastly, another post about healing comes from Family Rocks about feeling disconnected.  I think the most eye-opening part of the post was comparing the time she took off after the birth of her sons to the lack of time she took off after incorporating her sibling’s children into her family.  The difference between how we honour the life change of parenthood and how we don’t build that into other situations as people struggle to find their new normal.

The roundup to the Roundup: Please help me promote the Life from Scratch sale.  Twins reported from the White House.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between July 10th and 17th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

July 17, 2015   10 Comments

553rd Friday Blog Roundup

Remember last summer when I wrote about the librarian refusing to renew my book?  This week, I had to speak to her about a book I was trying to return that wasn’t on my account.  When we originally checked out the book, the system didn’t scan it into our account.  The computer said we only had 5 books out, but we were clearly holding 6 books to return.

She fixed the barcode on the book while she looked at my account.  “You have one more book out that is due in a few days,” she informed me.

“I know,” I told her.  “I’ll be back later this week.”

“Want me to renew it?” she asked.  What the hell?  Last summer she wouldn’t renew a book I wanted renewed, and now she was offering to renew a book that I said I would be returning on time.

“I don’t think you can.  It has holds on it.”

“I can,” she said.  And she renewed the book.

I brought back the book on its original due date because the book had holds.  Meaning, someone else was waiting for the book.  But really, she couldn’t renew a book when I desperately needed someone to be kind, but she could renew it when I didn’t need it renewed?

I love my library.  I love the librarians in my library.  But sometimes they just don’t make sense.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Not a Wasted Word weaves a metaphor between herself as a parent and an operating system.  It’s a post about feeling over-burdened and recognizing the role she has played in finding herself in that space, but also feeling that it’s a space she was led to.  She writes, “I know I created this dynamic, or at the very least enabled it. I made conscious choices to take on all of this because the alternative was worse.”  It’s a thought-provoking read.

The Empress and the Fool has a post about finding a connection with the book Goldfinch.  I haven’t read the book yet, but this post made me want to run to my library to pick up a copy.  She writes so gorgeously: “With my hand on an empty womb and skin electrified with both hope and terror, my feet shuffle in the general direction of forward.”  Click over to read the whole post.

My Lady of the Lantern has a moving post about losing her aunt.  She writes, “There is a difference between the dying and the dead. The dead are dead and the dying are dying, and hence still alive.”  It is a post about not knowing someone’s last day.  My heart went out to her reading it.

Anabegins has an interesting post about finding the key that fits in your lock; in other words, finding which type of personality you have and using it to your advantage.  A cool idea.  And yes, she does find the answer to her personality conundrum.

Lastly, Torthúil has a post about the pictures she has taken with her phone.  She doesn’t have a phone with a fantastic camera, therefore, she takes very few pictures with it.  And the pictures she takes tell a story.  The stories are wonderful even if the photos are grainy.  It’s their graininess that makes them all the more poignant that the moment was captured.

The roundup to the Roundup: Uh, thanks for the renewal?  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between July 3rd and 10th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

July 10, 2015   6 Comments

552nd Friday Blog Roundup

Tomorrow is the 4th of July in the US.  We’re going to two firework displays this weekend.  That feels incredibly indulgent: two firework displays?  What can I say?  Washingtonians love their fireworks.  What are you doing this weekend?

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Truman took his last dose of medication about a week ago.  He seemed mostly better.  He (mostly) wasn’t wheezing, and he (mostly) stopped sneezing.  But not entirely.  So I decided to change his bedding after an exhaustive Google search informed me that guinea pigs can grow allergic to their bedding.

I went to the organic pet store because I figured they would have the most all-natural, allergen-free bedding.  And I was correct; they had all-natural, dye-free bedding.  I had to commit to an enormous bag which technically cost less than his normal bedding when you looked at it handful for handful.  I mean, once you got over the fact that you had to purchase a difficult-to-store, expensive truckload of bedding.

I filled his cage and put him back inside.  He gingerly walked over it as if he wasn’t quite sure the surface would hold his weight.  And then he promptly began EATING THE BEDDING.  Like shoving his face down into the bedding and pulling up mouthfuls of it with delight.

I quickly Googled “guinea pig eats bedding help” while he chomp chomp chomped behind me, and I learned that (1) this was a common situation, (2) bedding was delicious to guinea pigs, and (3) that it wouldn’t kill him as long as he didn’t eat too much.  Too much?  What was “too much?”  No one would say.

He has mostly calmed down about the sea of delicious bedding and now only nibbles it from time to time.

Oh, and he’s still sneezing.  So much for allergies.  Back to square one.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Mali put it for last week, but I had bookmarked it for this week because it was a Friday post.  Serenity in Chaos has a post about being on the fringe of society and yet still always finding like-situationed people.  It’s a really interesting post about fitting in or not fitting in, being the same as the majority or being different.  I love the new label she finds for herself by the end.

Pages, Stages, and Rages writes about ideas that stick in our head (whether we want them to or not) after a trauma.  She discusses her own work flinches and then segues into her daughter’s ongoing relationship to separation stemming from her adoption.  I love the weaving of the Princess Bride through the post.

Lastly, the Road Less Travelled has a post about watching other people’s children age while her daughter, Katie, does not.   I think people mostly think about this in terms of babyhood, but she writes about next year’s graduation class.  How her daughter should be walking across the stage.  It’s a moving post about how the heart never lets go.

The roundup to the Roundup: 4th of July.  Truman’s delicious bedding.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between June 26th and July 3rd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

July 3, 2015   10 Comments

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