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512th Friday Blog Roundup

I posted about this on Twitter and Facebook because it has been on my mind lately.  Most of the twins’ friends are out of car seats.  My kids are still in boosters and will be for a long time because the recommendation (well, it ranges between recommendation and law depending on where you live) is 4 feet 9 inches or between 80 – 100 pounds.  My kids are nowhere near those stats.

It is — of course — a social minefield with other kids (mostly because kids need to find something to tease every other kid about — if it wasn’t their size, it would be their name or how they walk or what they bring for lunch): being the smallest kids in the class.  They’re not, there are a few kids smaller than they are, but they’re amongst the smallest.

This isn’t really something that concerns me deeply.  As I said, if it wasn’t their size, kids would find something else to tease them about.  I care a lot more about their safety than I do about wrapping them in virtual cotton balls so their feelings never get hurt.

But it made me think about this boy from childhood whom all the other boys called Smurf.  It had clearly bothered him a lot.

I ended up Googling him just to check that he turned out okay.  While it’s hard to really know much from a picture or two, he seems to have a great job and live in a fun place and every photograph shows him with a huge smile.

So I’m going to go with the assumption that all will be fine for the twins too.  Even if they are sort of smurfy right now.

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

And a specific one if you use Apple products: back up your devices BEFORE you download the new iOS!

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Outlandish Notions has a post about writing under a pseudonym, but moreover, how her pseudonym is as much a part of her as she gave part of herself to become the name.  Two lines drew me in: (1) “There’s no way, I think,  for any single voice to represent all of a person. We cannot translate ourselves onto the screen as whole, complete beings.” and (2) “This space is nominally mine, but without you, it would be bare and sterile.”  Both an important reminder that no one can contain their whole self on the screen as well as the fact that we all play a role in the life of a blog.

Family Rocks: The Life of Peg has a post about perspective; both the good and bad that came from losing her sister.  The post is breathtaking; as in, it literally took my breath away as I read it.  Her world shifted, and she writes of how she used to see things and how she sees them now.  She writes, “I am a different person due to the accident.  Some good.   Some hard to handle.”  I am so glad she wrote this post and helped me understand her world.

Lastly, it was likely to happen if I’m hosting and reading #MicroblogMondays, but I once again have several I’d like to highlight.  Constant in the Darkness has “Understanding” which blew me away.  I had chills down my arms.  Invincible Spring has the sobering “Family of Four” about the invisibility of loss.  And “The Epiphany” by Serenity Now (the last microblog in that space!) gave me a lot to think about.

The roundup to the Roundup: My kids will never be out of their booster seat.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 12th and 19th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

September 19, 2014   8 Comments

511th Friday Blog Roundup

I can’t even…

Fine, I will.

The most offensive quotes from Time magazine’s “Why Not Having Kids Makes Some People Crazy” (beyond the title itself) are thankfully all crowded in the beginning of the article, such as, “So it’s not just whether they had kids that made people depressed or content, it’s how badly they wanted them.” [Additionally offensive emphasis is actually theirs and not mine.]  So just skip the first few paragraphs.

If you can get past the assumption drawn by the media reporting on the study that the depression that follows infertility is somehow tied to how badly you wanted to be a parent, you will get to a valid, important point made by the study itself: “The paper, which was published online on Sept. 10 in Human Reproduction, recommends sustained psychological counseling for people who did not conceive after fertility treatments and a lot of frank talk about the possibility of failure during the treatments.”

Yes, that would be very helpful, and certainly, with the cost of services, clinics should be able to employ more therapists in order to serve their patients and make sure they feel emotionally cared for while they treat their infertility.

You know… take care of people’s brains instead of just their ovaries.

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

  • Uh… there were none.  People found zero posts worthy of being noticed?

Okay, now my choices this week.

MissConception has a post about where she tells us a secret.  She admits, “I don’t think we will ever have another child.  With no more frozen embryos, no plans for another IVF, and no plans to adopt, we are dealing with trying to conceive all on our own again.”  It’s about listening to your gut feelings and acknowledging them, even when you don’t want them to be true.  A really good, thought-provoking post.

A tiny post from Hapa Hopes about the embryologist’s storage bill.  So tiny that I fear writing about it will lessen the punch of the post.  Click over to read because it’s almost poetry.

So Dear and Yet So Far has a quiet post about the last time she was pregnant, seven years ago.  The post is like a boat bobbing in the harbour before heading into the storm.  She needs to keep writing the story, but of course you wish it had a different ending, too.  Holding her in my heart.

Lastly, I Can Do This has a post about the distance she feels with certain friendships.  After years of remaining supportive of friends once they became pregnant, she is finding that she is not getting to enjoy the same thing back from her current friends who are still trying.  She writes, “I often wonder if these woman that turn off the support once you get pregnant will expect support during their pregnancies? I will support a friend regardless, like I always have, but I feel it is very unfair to have support and then to get pregnant and be treated like you have a transmittable disease. I want people to know that once you get pregnant, we still have feelings also. ”  I think it’s important post to read, not because the situation has a simple answer but because we sometimes need to hear hard words and think about them.

The roundup to the Roundup: This study sounds interesting, the coverage less so.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 5th and 12th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

September 12, 2014   9 Comments

510th Friday Blog Roundup

Today is the day: Apart at the Seams is the Amazon Kindle Daily Deal.  You don’t need a Kindle to download Kindle books — I personally just use the Kindle app.

As I begged yesterday, please help me spread word today via your blogs and social media.  And a massive thank you to everyone who has already Tweeted, Facebooked, and blogged the news.

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I may be a little in love with Jennifer Aniston at the moment based on thoughts on the Today Show about people pestering her with questions about motherhood.  She expands on the conversation she had about feminism with Gloria Steinem at the Makers Conference.  The discussion starts around 2:30 into the 4:50 minute clip.  She states:

“It’s always such an issue of like ‘are you married yet?’ ‘are you having babies yet?’ It’s just constant.  I don’t know.  I don’t have this sort of checklist of things that have to be done and if they’re not checked then I’ve failed some part of my feminism, or my being a woman, or my worth or my value as a woman. Because I haven’t birthed a child.  I’ve birthed a lot of things, and I feel like I’ve mothered many things. And I don’t think it’s fair to put that pressure on people.”

Good interview, right?

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Adventures of Mona Darling has a post about taking chances and daring to fail.  She begins: “I started this blog with no end goal. A place to vent about IVF, some horrible dental stuff I was going through and my job as a dominatrix. I had no idea what it was bring me other than relief from the writers itch I’ve suffered with my entire life.”  Her blog has now entered part two; that part two she had no clue existed when she started her space.  The one that is going to change the way we think and talk about women.  I love the eight steps of her revolution.  I hope you’ll join her since these things need a ripple effect.

River Runs Dry has a perfect, tiny post for the first day of school.  It is the perfect prayer.

Good things come in small packages.  There were two I wanted to highlight from #MicroblogMondays: “Maybe It’s Time” by More Than a Mom and “If Only” by Life According to Johnny.  Both are about loss, and both highlight the way tiny posts pack a punch.

Lastly, Infertile Girl in a Fertile World has a post about terrible IVF timing.  It’s the familiar story (that the fertile world doesn’t really consider when they think about infertility) of how much the disease impacts your ability to make plans.  Or you can make plans, but you have to understand that you’ll be up against hard choices: lose out on something for infertility, or add another month of infertility to your life to attend the event or trip.  We’ve done it both ways — gave up a cycle to take a trip, and gave up a family Bat Mitzvah for a cycle.  I also love the complexity of her last thought about getting pregnant unassisted at this point: “Plus I would be livid if that happened! Is that weird, that an infertile would be irate at getting pregnant naturally? I have babies, they’re frozen and waiting for me!”  There’s a lot to chew on in this post.

The roundup to the Roundup: Apart at the Seams is the Kindle Daily Deal.  (Please help spread word!)  Great Jennifer Aniston quote.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between August 29th and September 5th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

September 5, 2014   4 Comments

509th Friday Blog Roundup

I just watched online the pilot for a very cute new show on NBC this fall called A to Z.  It’s essentially 500 Days of Summer, with an online dating site swapped in for Joseph Gordon Levitt’s greeting card career.

And you can watch the pilot too!  It’s 26 minutes long.  So… maybe a lunch break viewing?  Or save it for this weekend?

A nice break from having my mind chewed apart by Doctor Who, or feeling increasingly depressed over the state of the world by watching the Daily Show.  This is a show I can actually relax into while I watch.

And I cracked up over Lea Thompson at the end.

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

No Kidding in NZ has been writing a series on the gifts she received from infertility (and no, that’s not sarcastic).  The one that resonated with me the most so far is the one on friendship because I too have made quite a few friends that I would have never met otherwise if not for infertility.  She writes, “We got to know each other from the inside out; raw, hurting, with open wounds.  Friendships that first developed on a message board, moved to more informal online chatting, and then blossomed in real life.”  Yes, you could say blogging brought me friendships, but I may not have started a blog if I didn’t have something I needed to talk about — infertility.

If You Don’t Stand for Something has a raw post about both wanting to give up and knowing that she also doesn’t have it in her to walk away from trying to build her family.  It’s the sort of post that I want to point people toward and say, “that’s what infertility feels like.”

A Woman My Age has a post about growing into her blog title.  I especially love her comparison between a mid-life crisis and peri-menopause.  It’s a post about being true to your own needs and meeting them.  While I’ll miss her if she doesn’t post as often (or at all), I really respect her for taking care of herself.

And I have to highlight this brilliant trick by Journeys of the Fabulist, which is about saving money for travel, but the same trick can be applied to saving money for anything you want.  I have to admit that I often do things on my to-do list just so I don’t have to recopy them again, and I could see myself not making purchases if I had to take out a book and write down the purchase in black and white.  Suddenly, I would lose the urge to purchase coffee drinks out of the house.  And then put that money in the travel/IVF/whatever-you-want-to-save-for fund.

The roundup to the Roundup: I’m watching A to Z this fall on NBC.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between August 22nd and August 29th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

August 29, 2014   7 Comments

508 Friday Blog Roundup

Perhaps I only posted about this on Facebook (because I can’t find a post on my blog mentioning it even though I know some type of social media discussion took place when I first stated it) but many months ago, I was diagnosed with a vitamin D deficiency.  As in, my body makes pretty much no vitamin D.  At all.  There was the amount your body needs to produce to be considered abnormal, and I was well, well, well under that number.  So I went on prescription vitamin D and brought up my levels, and then months later, was weaned to a normal, daily vitamin D tablet.

All was well.

Then my brand of vitamin D started adding gelatin to the tablet.

And I do not ingest gelatin.

So I went out trying to find a vegan supplement.  This proved to be (1) harder than I thought and (2) grosser than I thought.  Because along the way, I learned where vitamin D comes from.

I let myself shudder vitamin-D-free for several months until my doctor noticed during a blood test that my vitamin D levels were back down to nil.  So I had to suck it up and find a vegan supplement.

I found one at the local organic market.  It cost more than vitamin D should cost. (Like… $20.  Doesn’t that sound high for a few months of vitamin D?)  But I am back to rickets-free living.  I hope.

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Inconceivable has a post about the true meaning of finding balance.  I love this post because she points out that balance isn’t necessarily a happy space.  It is more existing in the center of You-ness, not so focused on the Joneses or whatever else is out there.  Balance is about bringing it back inward, not having the external forces rocking you like a Weeble Wobble.  It’s a fantastic reminder in a world that is constantly pushing everyone off-center.

Family Building with a Twist has a post saying goodbye to summer.  I am having a hard time with the end of summer, so this was the perfect read for me this week.  This resonated with me so much: “Most of it is due to my worry that we didn’t maximize our time here; you know, sucking the marrow out of our beach week and all that. We didn’t play in the water as much as we would have liked. We didn’t collect as many shells. We didn’t spend as many evenings chatting into the wee hours while the ocean breezes blew.”  Especially knowing there is never a point where you reach “enough” of a good thing.

Lastly, the Road Less Travelled has a two-part, must-read post set on finding peace with the disappointments (or… larger than disappointments… tragedies.  The advice covers a wide range of situations) in life.  One of my goals for the year is to develop some resilience since I would say that is a life skill missing from my tool bag.  The two posts are chock-full of helpful information.  Bookmark them.  Come back to them a hundred times.  (Or however many times you need to commit the advice to heart.)

The roundup to the Roundup: My D3 is gelatin-free.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between August 15th and August 22nd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

August 22, 2014   13 Comments

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