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513th Friday Blog Roundup

For the last few weeks, I’ve been trying to convince the ChickieNob that she wants a simple Halloween costume.  Would she like to be Hermione Granger again?  Would she like to be the Tardis?  That one seems easy to make.  But no, she has her heart set on one character and one character only: Madame Vastra, the Victorian lizard detective.

Look at that green skin!  Look at that ridged head!  WTF?

So I contacted Epbot, and her husband John wrote me back with a list of ideas on how to construct the head using a paintable mask as the base and building the rest with paper clay.  Brilliant.  I can do that.

And now I am stuck again.  Seriously, where am I going to get Victorian clothes?  I have a Victoria-style hat (and I can attach Madame Vastra’s veil since the ChickieNob told me that she needs to wear the veil around people who judge the outside without understanding the inside), but I am stuck on the dress.  Compounding the issue is cost: I need to do this dirt cheap.  So while I found Victorian costumes online, I cannot shell out $70 for a Halloween outfit.

Did I also mention that I am terrible at sewing?

This is one of those times when I really wish there was a cosplayers-to-the-rescue team who showed up at your house and helped you design a costume on an insanely tight budget.

So to break it on down: it is well within my capabilities to make an A-line black skirt and trim it with lace.  And I have the head totally taken care of.  But this costume is faltering between the chin and waist.  I could swing by the consignment shop to see if there is a rufflely black shirt I could alter, but do people have other ideas?  If you had to be a Victorian woman (like… in this scenario… armed criminals break into your house and tell you that they will kill you in three hours if you can’t pull together a Victorian era costume for under $20), what would you do to constuct the costume?  What/how can I alter something?

Ideas?

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

And a specific one if you use Apple products: You may have noticed that the new iOS updates have caused big, messy problems.  Back up your devices BEFORE you download the new patches for iOS8!

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Misconceptions About Conception has a post about seeing her anonymous donor at the airport.  Of course her donor had no clue that the recipient of her donation was sitting at the very same gate, and she didn’t speak to her.  But she got to look at her.  It makes you wonder how the universe works; how many times it has brought you within inches of people who never knew they played huge, silent roles in your life or you in theirs.

Project Progeny has a post about using an online tarot card reading to make a decision.  Beyond the fact that the post is really about balance (something I feel slightly lacking in my body at the moment.  I feel unbalanced, wobbly), I loved that she used the tarot card reading to make the decision. (And yes, I Googled and found the site and yes, I used it myself.)

No Ways to Say It has a very simple, very poignant post that resonated with me.  32 words.  I want the same thing too.

Lastly, a non-IF post that resonated with my morbid little heart.  Awfully Chipper has a post about having no experience with death even though she is 41, and how while we intellectually know that death is a reality, we do everything in our power to distance ourselves from it.  I’ve had an average amount of experience with death, so I’m in a different place than Maud (what really is average?  I assume I’ve had an average amount of experience).  But this really spoke to me: “I have more pressing reasons to try to make my body strong or fit: I need to work on my core muscles not just because of the frankly pie-in-the-sky notion of a flat stomach but also because it helps my back not hurt. I have a newfound urge to create, to leave behind, to do worthwhile things because I won’t always be here.”  Yes.

The roundup to the Roundup: Help me figure out a Halloween costume.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 19th and 26th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

September 26, 2014   23 Comments

512th Friday Blog Roundup

I posted about this on Twitter and Facebook because it has been on my mind lately.  Most of the twins’ friends are out of car seats.  My kids are still in boosters and will be for a long time because the recommendation (well, it ranges between recommendation and law depending on where you live) is 4 feet 9 inches or between 80 – 100 pounds.  My kids are nowhere near those stats.

It is — of course — a social minefield with other kids (mostly because kids need to find something to tease every other kid about — if it wasn’t their size, it would be their name or how they walk or what they bring for lunch): being the smallest kids in the class.  They’re not, there are a few kids smaller than they are, but they’re amongst the smallest.

This isn’t really something that concerns me deeply.  As I said, if it wasn’t their size, kids would find something else to tease them about.  I care a lot more about their safety than I do about wrapping them in virtual cotton balls so their feelings never get hurt.

But it made me think about this boy from childhood whom all the other boys called Smurf.  It had clearly bothered him a lot.

I ended up Googling him just to check that he turned out okay.  While it’s hard to really know much from a picture or two, he seems to have a great job and live in a fun place and every photograph shows him with a huge smile.

So I’m going to go with the assumption that all will be fine for the twins too.  Even if they are sort of smurfy right now.

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

And a specific one if you use Apple products: back up your devices BEFORE you download the new iOS!

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Outlandish Notions has a post about writing under a pseudonym, but moreover, how her pseudonym is as much a part of her as she gave part of herself to become the name.  Two lines drew me in: (1) “There’s no way, I think,  for any single voice to represent all of a person. We cannot translate ourselves onto the screen as whole, complete beings.” and (2) “This space is nominally mine, but without you, it would be bare and sterile.”  Both an important reminder that no one can contain their whole self on the screen as well as the fact that we all play a role in the life of a blog.

Family Rocks: The Life of Peg has a post about perspective; both the good and bad that came from losing her sister.  The post is breathtaking; as in, it literally took my breath away as I read it.  Her world shifted, and she writes of how she used to see things and how she sees them now.  She writes, “I am a different person due to the accident.  Some good.   Some hard to handle.”  I am so glad she wrote this post and helped me understand her world.

Lastly, it was likely to happen if I’m hosting and reading #MicroblogMondays, but I once again have several I’d like to highlight.  Constant in the Darkness has “Understanding” which blew me away.  I had chills down my arms.  Invincible Spring has the sobering “Family of Four” about the invisibility of loss.  And “The Epiphany” by Serenity Now (the last microblog in that space!) gave me a lot to think about.

The roundup to the Roundup: My kids will never be out of their booster seat.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 12th and 19th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

September 19, 2014   8 Comments

511th Friday Blog Roundup

I can’t even…

Fine, I will.

The most offensive quotes from Time magazine’s “Why Not Having Kids Makes Some People Crazy” (beyond the title itself) are thankfully all crowded in the beginning of the article, such as, “So it’s not just whether they had kids that made people depressed or content, it’s how badly they wanted them.” [Additionally offensive emphasis is actually theirs and not mine.]  So just skip the first few paragraphs.

If you can get past the assumption drawn by the media reporting on the study that the depression that follows infertility is somehow tied to how badly you wanted to be a parent, you will get to a valid, important point made by the study itself: “The paper, which was published online on Sept. 10 in Human Reproduction, recommends sustained psychological counseling for people who did not conceive after fertility treatments and a lot of frank talk about the possibility of failure during the treatments.”

Yes, that would be very helpful, and certainly, with the cost of services, clinics should be able to employ more therapists in order to serve their patients and make sure they feel emotionally cared for while they treat their infertility.

You know… take care of people’s brains instead of just their ovaries.

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

  • Uh… there were none.  People found zero posts worthy of being noticed?

Okay, now my choices this week.

MissConception has a post about where she tells us a secret.  She admits, “I don’t think we will ever have another child.  With no more frozen embryos, no plans for another IVF, and no plans to adopt, we are dealing with trying to conceive all on our own again.”  It’s about listening to your gut feelings and acknowledging them, even when you don’t want them to be true.  A really good, thought-provoking post.

A tiny post from Hapa Hopes about the embryologist’s storage bill.  So tiny that I fear writing about it will lessen the punch of the post.  Click over to read because it’s almost poetry.

So Dear and Yet So Far has a quiet post about the last time she was pregnant, seven years ago.  The post is like a boat bobbing in the harbour before heading into the storm.  She needs to keep writing the story, but of course you wish it had a different ending, too.  Holding her in my heart.

Lastly, I Can Do This has a post about the distance she feels with certain friendships.  After years of remaining supportive of friends once they became pregnant, she is finding that she is not getting to enjoy the same thing back from her current friends who are still trying.  She writes, “I often wonder if these woman that turn off the support once you get pregnant will expect support during their pregnancies? I will support a friend regardless, like I always have, but I feel it is very unfair to have support and then to get pregnant and be treated like you have a transmittable disease. I want people to know that once you get pregnant, we still have feelings also. ”  I think it’s important post to read, not because the situation has a simple answer but because we sometimes need to hear hard words and think about them.

The roundup to the Roundup: This study sounds interesting, the coverage less so.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 5th and 12th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

September 12, 2014   9 Comments

510th Friday Blog Roundup

Today is the day: Apart at the Seams is the Amazon Kindle Daily Deal.  You don’t need a Kindle to download Kindle books — I personally just use the Kindle app.

As I begged yesterday, please help me spread word today via your blogs and social media.  And a massive thank you to everyone who has already Tweeted, Facebooked, and blogged the news.

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I may be a little in love with Jennifer Aniston at the moment based on thoughts on the Today Show about people pestering her with questions about motherhood.  She expands on the conversation she had about feminism with Gloria Steinem at the Makers Conference.  The discussion starts around 2:30 into the 4:50 minute clip.  She states:

“It’s always such an issue of like ‘are you married yet?’ ‘are you having babies yet?’ It’s just constant.  I don’t know.  I don’t have this sort of checklist of things that have to be done and if they’re not checked then I’ve failed some part of my feminism, or my being a woman, or my worth or my value as a woman. Because I haven’t birthed a child.  I’ve birthed a lot of things, and I feel like I’ve mothered many things. And I don’t think it’s fair to put that pressure on people.”

Good interview, right?

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Adventures of Mona Darling has a post about taking chances and daring to fail.  She begins: “I started this blog with no end goal. A place to vent about IVF, some horrible dental stuff I was going through and my job as a dominatrix. I had no idea what it was bring me other than relief from the writers itch I’ve suffered with my entire life.”  Her blog has now entered part two; that part two she had no clue existed when she started her space.  The one that is going to change the way we think and talk about women.  I love the eight steps of her revolution.  I hope you’ll join her since these things need a ripple effect.

River Runs Dry has a perfect, tiny post for the first day of school.  It is the perfect prayer.

Good things come in small packages.  There were two I wanted to highlight from #MicroblogMondays: “Maybe It’s Time” by More Than a Mom and “If Only” by Life According to Johnny.  Both are about loss, and both highlight the way tiny posts pack a punch.

Lastly, Infertile Girl in a Fertile World has a post about terrible IVF timing.  It’s the familiar story (that the fertile world doesn’t really consider when they think about infertility) of how much the disease impacts your ability to make plans.  Or you can make plans, but you have to understand that you’ll be up against hard choices: lose out on something for infertility, or add another month of infertility to your life to attend the event or trip.  We’ve done it both ways — gave up a cycle to take a trip, and gave up a family Bat Mitzvah for a cycle.  I also love the complexity of her last thought about getting pregnant unassisted at this point: “Plus I would be livid if that happened! Is that weird, that an infertile would be irate at getting pregnant naturally? I have babies, they’re frozen and waiting for me!”  There’s a lot to chew on in this post.

The roundup to the Roundup: Apart at the Seams is the Kindle Daily Deal.  (Please help spread word!)  Great Jennifer Aniston quote.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between August 29th and September 5th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

September 5, 2014   4 Comments

509th Friday Blog Roundup

I just watched online the pilot for a very cute new show on NBC this fall called A to Z.  It’s essentially 500 Days of Summer, with an online dating site swapped in for Joseph Gordon Levitt’s greeting card career.

And you can watch the pilot too!  It’s 26 minutes long.  So… maybe a lunch break viewing?  Or save it for this weekend?

A nice break from having my mind chewed apart by Doctor Who, or feeling increasingly depressed over the state of the world by watching the Daily Show.  This is a show I can actually relax into while I watch.

And I cracked up over Lea Thompson at the end.

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

No Kidding in NZ has been writing a series on the gifts she received from infertility (and no, that’s not sarcastic).  The one that resonated with me the most so far is the one on friendship because I too have made quite a few friends that I would have never met otherwise if not for infertility.  She writes, “We got to know each other from the inside out; raw, hurting, with open wounds.  Friendships that first developed on a message board, moved to more informal online chatting, and then blossomed in real life.”  Yes, you could say blogging brought me friendships, but I may not have started a blog if I didn’t have something I needed to talk about — infertility.

If You Don’t Stand for Something has a raw post about both wanting to give up and knowing that she also doesn’t have it in her to walk away from trying to build her family.  It’s the sort of post that I want to point people toward and say, “that’s what infertility feels like.”

A Woman My Age has a post about growing into her blog title.  I especially love her comparison between a mid-life crisis and peri-menopause.  It’s a post about being true to your own needs and meeting them.  While I’ll miss her if she doesn’t post as often (or at all), I really respect her for taking care of herself.

And I have to highlight this brilliant trick by Journeys of the Fabulist, which is about saving money for travel, but the same trick can be applied to saving money for anything you want.  I have to admit that I often do things on my to-do list just so I don’t have to recopy them again, and I could see myself not making purchases if I had to take out a book and write down the purchase in black and white.  Suddenly, I would lose the urge to purchase coffee drinks out of the house.  And then put that money in the travel/IVF/whatever-you-want-to-save-for fund.

The roundup to the Roundup: I’m watching A to Z this fall on NBC.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between August 22nd and August 29th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

August 29, 2014   7 Comments

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