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669th Friday Blog Roundup

This week I went into my settings to discover what Facebook knows about me.  90% of it is wrong.  I really felt like I was being trolled by Facebook; like it was showing me wrong information to tease me.  But it did figure out that I like video games.  I do.  I like video games very very very much.

Which is why it has hurt my heart that I’ve been playing fewer video games over the last few months.  I took on too many work contracts, which is excellent for our budget and terrible for my video game time.  I’m trying to be a grown up about it, but it’s hard because I’m not very mature.

Mostly I’m saving up all of my energy and video gaming time for Wizards Unite.  I refused to play Pokemon Go because I hated their terms of service, but I’m totally willing to hand over all my personal information to pretend to be a wizard.  I am so excited for this game.  Are you going to play?

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

  • None… sniff.

Okay, now my choices this week.

Baby Smiling in Back Seat has a post about being too scared to speak up about her infertility in the past.  She writes, “An opportunity had presented itself to educate a large group of people about infertility. The whys, the hows, the whos, all of it. A topic I knew better than almost any other. But it was too raw for me and I didn’t.”  There is more to this story than contained in the post, but it’s still food for thought: about expiration dates for talking about infertility (is there one?) and the topics we find we can’t speak about despite being experts due to life experience.

I adore The Road Less Travelled’s post about what she has learned from 10 years of blogging, which also inversely contains thoughts on getting through 10 years of living childless/childfree after loss and infertility without blogging.  It is a fantastic list, and it made my heart swell thinking about how much I love our little corner of the blogosphere.

Lastly, Something Out of Nothing has a post about her second pregnancy — another hard-fought pregnancy — and how it is different from the first time around.  It was interesting how it mirrors many of the statements made by women pregnant without assistance, but also the difference between how pregnancies are monitored in different parts of the world.

The roundup to the Roundup: Harry Potter augmented reality!  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between November 10th and 17th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

November 17, 2017   4 Comments

668th Friday Blog Roundup

This week I taught the youth of America what it is like to be a writer for Career Day.  I am always shocked when anyone asks me to talk about anything.

The kids begged me not to add into my presentation how much time I spend bouncing ideas off of Linus the Guinea Pig.  I did admit that one of the best reasons to be a writer is that you are at home with all of the Halloween candy.  The second best reason to be a writer is that you know multiple definitions for words like sanguine, so you’re helpful when other people are doing the crossword puzzle on the Metro.  The third best reason to be a writer is for that moment when you open the box with copies of your book.

And you get to spend your day with characters who interest you (that you hope also interest everyone else).

Maybe I planted a little mental seed for someone at the school and they’ll tell me about their book one day.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

In Quest of a Binky Moongee has a post about her mother slipping into the role of grandmother.  It is a sweet post about life after a long, family building wait.  She writes: “Of course she knows that they have no genetic connections to her. And of course this fact makes no difference in her love for them. My mother is truly an inspiration for me to learn how to be patient with my babies when sleep is lacking and crying and whining become frequent.”  I got choked up reading it.

Countingpinklines charts out her last IVF cycle, passing it along to anyone who wants to see because it’s exactly what she would have wanted before she started this process.  She explains, “From what I’ve read, it doesn’t seem like IVF cycles are very different between individuals. Meds and doses vary but the time frames are roughly the same. I wish I had this diagram before doing the whole process. It would have helped me wrap my mind around what was going on much more.”  This is what I love about our community; our impulse to pass along anything we know.

Lavender Luz has a post about a parent and child joking about adoption.  She realizes in the moment that they’re not being cruel.  “It’s just that they’ve never thought of the implications of treating adoption as a joke.”  She opens up a conversation about it, speaking without judgment but merely giving the mother food for thought.  It’s a really great post about thinking on your feet.

Lastly, holding One Step at a Time in my heart after the death of her father.  She has a very moving post about his last days.  It opens: “My father took his last breath while I was on the beach with Nicky. Nicky was running back and forth in the water with his hands up like a traffic officer, telling the waves to stop rolling in. “You can’t stop the waves from coming, Nicky.” You can’t stop death from coming either.”  Please go give her a hug.

The roundup to the Roundup: Not messing up Career Day.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between November 3rd and 10th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

November 10, 2017   3 Comments

667th Friday Blog Roundup

(1) I need a vegan brownie recipe.  Actually, it doesn’t have to be vegan, per se, but it cannot contain eggs.  My friend and I are in a bake-off, and her daughter is the judge.  This give her an unfair home field advantage, so I am using my blog to gather recipes.  The prize is apparently a million hugs, so I’m thinking I may lose this one by default.  But still, I’m fighting hard.  Send me your best vegan brownie recipes.  And if you’ve ever perfected a vegan chocolate chip cookie, I’ll take that, too.

(2) I also need gluten-free cookie recipes for cookies that travel well.  Again, trying to charm a gluten-free child with baked goods, and while I’ll be dropping off some cookies face-to-face in a few weeks, I also need to be able to mail batches if she falls in love with any of them.

So send me good recipes that you’ve made and help me win.  Because everyone deserves a good cookie, no?

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Road Less Travelled has a post about the misery filter, discussing a recent column in the New York Times.  She writes, “I agree that an emphasis on relentless optimism and the carefully curated images we see on social media contribute to the shock — & shame — that we feel when something goes wrong in our lives (as it inevitably does, at some point).”  It’s a fascinating look at an “education for suffering.”  Go over and join the conversation.

Searching for Our Silver Lining has a beautiful post about unsilencing yourself and speaking about your struggles.  She speaks about it on the personal level — the act of unburdening your heart by letting others in — but also on a more collective scale.  She writes about infertility: “It’s because a brave few started all of this by coming out of the infertility closet, shameless sharing their stories. And those few grew to many more, empowering many more to do the same. And though infertility and pregnancy loss are still taboo, particularly if you don’t resolve by parenting, the truth is there are more much needed conversations that are happening. The unsilencing has lead to awareness.  Here’s to sharing your story.

Torthúil writes about hosting a birthday party, and it’s (1) an awesome accomplishment and (2) a fascinating behind-the-scenes reminder of what you may not know about a person.  That people generally have their reasons for why they do what they do, even if they don’t share them with you.  (But thank you, Torthúil, for sharing the reasons with us.)  Aaaaand, if you’ve ever struggled with planning a party, she gives you an easy template to follow.  Win!

Lastly, Anabegins talks about letting silence flood back into her brain.  Until I read this post, I hadn’t really thought about the fact that I’m really behind on podcasts because I’ve been driving around in silence for the last few weeks.  So, yeah, turning off podcasts sometimes clears your brain.  But this is the brilliant part: “So I decided to reinstate quiet into my commute and the blank space is back! Plus I get to save up the podcasts to add some joy to the truly uninspiring moments of life, like laundry-folding and kitchen-cleaning.”  Yes, that’s where I’m going to fit podcasts back in, too.

The roundup to the Roundup: Give me egg-free and/or gluten-free baking recipes.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 27th and November 3rd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

November 3, 2017   13 Comments

666th Friday Blog Roundup

Facebook has been killing me softly with its memories feature. Every morning, I open Facebook, and every morning Facebook tells me that it bets I would like to see a memory from last year. No, Facebook, I would not. We’re currently living the outcome of the election and our country is a mess. I would not like to relive the experience again and again and again.

No like.

Particularly painful is that I know an update is coming up in the next week or so where I told the ChickieNob this was the last time she would go to bed in a country that never had a woman president. Sorry, kid, not only did you wake up to another 365 days with that glass ceiling, but instead we’re in yet another cycle of #metoo.

Last year I went to speak to the students at the middle school for Career Day right after the election. Everyone was still shell-shocked, and we spent more time talking about the election results vs. my job. I’ve been asked to return and speak for Career Day again, and like a bad Facebook memory, all I can think about is how the world felt this time last year.  How it still feels the same.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

A Separate Life has a post about friends she made via the Internet through a blogging challenge back in 2006. She writes, “These links around the world, born on the ether and solidified over the years, or born in real life and maintained on the ether, make me happy and sad, they educate me and delight me and sustain me, and add to the richness of my life. Our hugs may only be virtual, but our love is real.”  So true.  It’s a gorgeous post; go read the whole thing.

Jewish IVF is returning for her seventh IVF cycle. She talks one of the lesser discussed aspects of IVF — that the patient has to be on top of every aspect of the cycle or be possibly affected physically, emotionally, or financially. She explains, “It’s a challenge to constantly be on the ball and know that if I miss something then we lose out.” It’s scary when you consider that thin line. While it’s true in so many places in life, the stakes feel high when we’re talking about something so expensive and so invasive that is completely dictated by time.

Author* brings light to a very serious topic: domestic abuse. She explains how it can happen even to the most outspoken woman; even the strongest self-advocates. It’s a post about the rational meeting the emotional; what the head knows and the heart suspects. It’s an important post for every woman to read. *Because this is about domestic abuse, I’m not going to post the blog name.  Please don’t put it in the comments, too.

Lastly, Bent Not Broken has a post about her sister announcing her pregnancy on social media before she has told her. While she knew about the pregnancy from their mother, her sister hadn’t told her directly because she worried about hurting her feelings. Though, of course, posting on social media meant she still found out about the pregnancy, but she did so without the personal touch that comes from a direct discussion. It’s food for thought for anyone struggling to talk about something.

The roundup to the Roundup: No, thanks, Facebook.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 20th and 27th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

October 27, 2017   9 Comments

665th Friday Blog Roundup

So once upon a time, we were at a Hebrew school crossroads, trying to decide how/if we wanted to continue.  I was really on the fence, not sure the best path forward.  That day, I received a note through the Listserve.  I’ve been on the list since the first note because I signed up for it before it began since I wrote an article about it.  I never left, and I read every single one that comes into my inbox.

I’ve written three Listserve writers since it started in 2012.  One was a fellow infertility blogger.  One was a funny coincidence that I felt had to be shared.  The last was the author of the note I just mentioned.

He wrote about being in Israel and how all these decisions and events from his past led up to his current life.  First of all, it was just a really smart, well-written piece, but secondly, he specifically mentioned how his Bar Mitzvah didn’t really mean anything to him at the time, but how it informed these other life choices.  And he wrote, “This is all to say that I’m learning about the power of knowing your history, of being able to continually connect your present experience with the past—the now with the then.”

It felt like a sign from the universe; to get this note delivered to my inbox exactly when I needed it.  We decided to keep with the whole traditional Hebrew school to B’nai Mitzvah path, and look, here we are.  Anyway, I wrote him at the time to tell him this story, and we went back and forth with notes.  I promised I would write him in 4 years and let him know if the kids thanked him or cursed him.  It has now been 4 years, and I got to write to thank him for his words all those years ago.

The point of all this: You write something and you have no clue how your words will change someone else’s life.  They’ll make a different decision or they’ll try something new, and their life will go off in a new and wonderful direction.  I like to believe that the right words generally reach you at the right time if you’re open to hearing them.  I know they did that night when I opened the Listserve email.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

*******

And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

So, yes, she’s above, but I only read Inconceivable! over the weekend to find her gorgeous post about The Runaway Bunny.  She writes, “The Runaway Bunny seemed particularly apt.  If you run away, I will run after you, the mother bunny promises her little bunny.  I had run after this child, first with all the poking and prodding, then medications, and finally the IVF.  Right then, it seemed perhaps I had finally caught this baby.”  It is a post marking Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, and it is such a gorgeous, heartbreaking post.

Misconceptions About Conception explores whether genes matter to her after she gets back pictures from a family photo shoot.  She admits that she has no comparison, no way of proving she is correct, but she knows what she knows with her heart.  It’s a beautiful post about love.

Lastly, My Path to Mommyhood has a post about being asked the “do you have kids” question while she was trying to enjoy herself at a ball.  (A ball with video games?  I am so there.)  My favourite line: “I think sometimes people feel better if they think that they’ve given you hope, even though for us hope came finally in the letting go of that possibility so we could focus on the rest of our life.”

The roundup to the Roundup: When the right words come at the right time.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 13th and 20th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

October 20, 2017   7 Comments

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