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Happy Halloween!  I am going as the TARDIS tonight.  I was going to go as a Ravenclaw and wear my new robes, but I haven’t gotten them hemmed. (It has an unusual shape to the bottom seam, and I need to take it to a professional rather than hemming at home.) Not a problem wearing them around the house, as I am wont to do, but I didn’t want to get them dirty outside.  I was making a TARDIS shirt for Josh (and ended up making two for the twins and another for my Dad), so I made a fifth one for myself.  Simple Halloween costume that can be worn year-round.  And yes, I will wear it year-round.  Every day is casual Friday at my workplace.

We are passing out Hershey Kisses tonight.  It seemed like the most practical candy to distribute because if we have leftovers — and we usually have leftovers — I can use them in baking.  See, I’m always think-y.

What is your costume tonight?  And what candy are you passing out?

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I should probably keep posting reminders through December about the Creme de la Creme.  So… here’s your reminder!

The 2014 Creme de la Creme list is open for entries until December 15th.  No one will be added after December 15th.  Read the post to see how to be a part of the Creme de la Creme, which is open to every member of the ALI (adoption/loss/infertility) community.

Consider that your weekly reminder.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Bio Girl got an odd phone call from her mail order pharmacy about the Lupron she didn’t order that brought out old feelings.  She recounts the year being caught between the insurance company and the medication provider which ultimately led to her hysterectomy.  So this call came waaaaaaaaaay too late to be helpful, and only served to stir up frustrated feelings about the health care system.  A powerful post.

Res Cogitatae is on a roll (see above).  She has a post about her final transfer after 6 1/2 years.  This is the moment that quieted me: “I went into the room and the nurse left me there for a few minutes after telling me to ‘lie down and get comfortable’.  You can’t get comfortable in that room.  So I stared at the ceiling and told myself (again) that this was the last time I would have to stare at that ceiling.”  It’s a huge moment, that final transfer, and it made me hold my breath for her.

The Maybe Baby(Babies) is asking for advice on a conundrum: an unliked coworker lost his unborn child, and while she knows she is in a unique position to offer comfort having lost her twin daughters, their prior relationship colours the current moment.  Should she step forward to comfort when she knows he doesn’t like her?  Does any of that matter when someone is in mourning?  Give her advice on what you would do.

Lastly, We Say IVF They Say FIV has a post about Facebook reminding her of an acquaintance’s birthday who has since died.  Again, the awkward situation brings up a host of feelings since this acquaintance took her life two months earlier.  While no amount of friends reaching out can undo the effects of mental illness, she wonders about a person who was connected to 254 people, and how she had no clue what was happening internally when the external looked like a happy place.

The roundup to the Roundup: What are you going as for Halloween, and which candy are you passing out?  Your friendly Creme de la Creme reminder.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 24th and 31st) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

October 31, 2014   10 Comments

517th Friday Blog Roundup

I should probably keep posting reminders through December about the Creme de la Creme.  So… here’s your reminder!

The 2014 Creme de la Creme list is open for entries until December 15th.  No one will be added after December 15th.  Read the post to see how to be a part of the Creme de la Creme, which is open to every member of the ALI (adoption/loss/infertility) community.

Consider that your weekly reminder.

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I know it has already gotten 300,000 comments and many more views, but in case you missed it, I really love this little comic on life and death.  It made me cry.  Then the cynical part of me started thinking, “are all people really gifts?  I mean, Hitler sucked as a gift.”  And then I smacked the cynical part of me across the face and went back to sniffling.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

What a Day for a Daydream has a post about wanting another child after finally reaching parenthood with twins.  She explains: “I never knew how many children I wanted until I actually had them.”  There was a lot I related to in this post, and I found the should-we-shouldn’t-we discussion interesting.

In Quest of a Binky Moongee has a post about the feelings that bubble up after spending time caring for a friend’s child.  She writes, “The house felt eerily empty when the little guy was gone.  The next day, on my way to work, the emptiness was almost unbearable in the car.  I so wish that I could reach back and touch my baby’s hair.”  I think most of us have experienced this, but she captures it particularly well.

Lastly, in a very small space, Quodlibet gives everyone a way to make sense of the highs and lows in life.  It was the reminder I needed to hold all the good and bad in my heart at the same time; “to weep with those who are weeping, and rejoice with those who are rejoicing.”  Gorgeous post.

The roundup to the Roundup: Your friendly Creme de la Creme reminder.  I love that comic.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 17th and 24th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

October 24, 2014   5 Comments

516th Friday Blog Roundup

Last year, I opened the Creme de la Creme for submissions on October 15th to give you (and me) two full months to create the list which goes up on January 1st.  This year, the task has been on my to-do list with a little question mark next to the word.  Creme?  Yes?  No?

I think all things run their course.  Certainly the Lost and Found has fallen by the wayside from lack of use.  I post it as often as I have stuff to post.  I am trying to get that project to a nice, round number, and then I will shutter it.

And I wondered if the Creme had reached a similar fate.  If you got enough out of it anymore to make it worth doing the work, and if I got enough out of it anymore to make it worth doing the work.

I decided that yes, it still had enough juice in it to make it through this year, the 9th time constructing the list.  So I will open the list for submissions on Tuesday, October 21st.  A few days later than I would have liked, but still plenty of time.

I know there are people who like to be towards the top of the list, so I give you this heads up so you can peruse your archive this weekend and choose a post.  If you’re new to this blog and have no clue what I’m talking about, you may want to familiarize yourself with the Creme de la Creme by looking at old ones.  Because it would rock if we got a wide range of voices on the list.

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Raise your hand if you read this section.  Okay.  Now raise your hand if you ACTUALLY DO A BACKUP.  People, it doesn’t help to just think about doing it.  Go do it.  Make your backup.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Persnickety Chickadee has a brief post that packs a punch about books.  She always worried that she would have a child who wouldn’t love books as much as she does.  She didn’t realize she had to worry about whether or not she would have a child at all.  It’s a moving post in its brevity.

Another small post: Days of Grace has the most absolutely perfect response to the idea of whether or not you should blog: “Write for the future you.  She won’t let you regret it.”  Go read the whole post.

Small is big this week: Created Family has a heartbreaking post on processing her loss while still under the anesthesia for the D&C.  With four small words, she sums it up perfectly.

A Little Bit More has a post detailing her Thanksgiving weekend that looks at the good in between the hard.  She talks about a moment when she was starting to feel down, and then she observed something that brought her back up.  And I love this line: “So God has a sense of humour and was reminding me that there is so very much to smile about, laugh about, love and be thankful for.”

Lastly, I love the distinction A Fifth Season makes when she says she isn’t blessed, and why she has a problem with that word.  She bluntly states: “Blessings, you see are relative.  One knows to call something a blessing when one knows the antithesis. I live the antithesis so that others know what to call their blessings.”  It informs how she views the world, and why she refuses to look at her life as a comparison.

The roundup to the Roundup: The Creme de la Creme opens this week.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 10th and 17th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

October 17, 2014   14 Comments

515th Friday Blog Roundup

I lost a lot of weight about two years ago, which necessitated buying several new pairs of pants and jeans.  I was dumbfounded when I saw the size on the pants.  It was much lower than I had worn in the past.  And I’m going to admit this: I was between two sizes and I went with the smaller one ENTIRELY OUT OF VANITY FOR WHAT WAS WRITTEN ON THE TAG.

Yes, I needed to shout that because it is now two years later, and I have put back on some of the weight.  Just enough so that if I had bought the larger size, I would still be smoothly sailing through winter.  But I didn’t.  I went with the smaller size.  Because I was short-sighted and vain and waaaaaaaay too proud of myself.  Like stupidly proud.  As in forgetting that I always bounce back up a little bit to settle in this weight range.

So my pants are snug.

I dug back out MyFitnessPal… who is really MyFitnessFrenemy… and I am attempting to eat better so I don’t need to buy new pants.

I am considering getting a tattoo on my upper leg so I’ll see it every time I go clothes shopping which reads: buy the larger size.

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Ann from Tragic Optimist wrote a board book for kids, and I got to see it this week.  It’s called Glasses, and the book has its own site.  It’s exactly what you think: a very cute book for getting kids comfortable with their glasses. (Or, I’d argue, a good book for ALL kids to read, especially when they start noticing differences between kids.)  The rhyme is upbeat, the photographs colourful, and the glasses all cool. (Yes, these kids are cooler than you are.)  In getting a copy to read with your child (or for a family member or for your school, etc), you’re not only opening them up to being comfortable with their glasses or their friend’s glasses (not to mention opening up a discussion on any external device that helps a person get through their day such as a hearing aid or wheelchair), but you’re supporting a member of the ALI community.  Double plus.

Glasses wearers unite!

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Serenity in Chaos has a post about parallel universes playing host to our unmade choices.  I love her description of what it felt like to have her reality and her dreamworld merge inside her mind.  She writes: “I gasped within, because at that exact second, there was no difference between my reality and my parallel universe. There was no need for the parallel universe anymore. It was breathtakingly beautiful and surreal at the same time.” Isn’t that gorgeous?

Hope Floats Amongst the Cherry Blossoms has a post about the far-reaching effects of infertility; namely, the other people affected when you can’t have a child.  She writes about observing her father at the pool looking wistfully at some kids splashing around in the water.  She wonders aloud what will happen if she can’t give him a grandchild: “If I can’t give him one, will he ever get to be in that moment again… to experience the joy of a child that is part of your family, your inner circle and play?  Has the moment passed?  Has it passed for me?  And for him?”  I had a lump in my throat reading the post.

Earth & Ink has a post about why she continues to blog even though she cannot write about the largest thing happening in her life.  She explains: “In offline life, I’m in the middle of something I can’t write about. So I am chilled. Quieted. In multiple ways, silenced.  It is distressingly similar to being Ariel and having had someone has put my voice in a box. Although granted, a bit more subtle. And lots less fairy dust.”  I like this post because I could not only feel the weight of having something huge closing off your voice, but I could also sense the light at the end of her tunnel, ensuring she can speak again.

Lastly, in the microblog world, More Than a Mom has a very moving post about the presence of her mother being with her as she runs.  It was so quiet, so brief, that it almost felt like a sigh.  A sigh of a post.

The roundup to the Roundup: My pants are too small.  (Or I am too large.)  Glasses!  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 3rd and 10th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

October 10, 2014   19 Comments

514th Friday Blog Roundup

We’ve kicked off the Jewish New Year with a broken dishwasher.  The dishwasher in question is only four years old, which is like middle-school-age in appliance years (which are actually very similar to dog years).  We were told that we could either invest several hundred dollars in our piece-of-shit dishwasher (thanks, Sears!) or buy a new one (not from Sears).  Our solution thus far has been to engage in marathon hand-washing sessions.  It’s like being back in graduate school.

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Josh forwarded me a documentary that’s being made about the DC punk scene in the 80s called Salad Days.

It made me feel very very nostalgic.  And a little bit sad (yet also happy) when I saw my old, favourite record store featured in the film.  And a strong desire to comb through the storage room and find my posters from old shows.

I can’t say that high school was a particularly happy time in life, but that music makes me happy.

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An update on the Halloween costume front: everything is coming together, and I will post pictures soon of the mask.  The ChickieNob has been very patient, standing still while I mold paper clay to the contours of her face.  She overheard me telling someone that the mask only needs to last for maybe 5 wearings, and when I got off the phone, she informed me that it needed to last for a lot longer than that because she has big plans to dress up as Madame Vastra more than just on Halloween.

“Like, in the house, right?” I questioned.  “Right?”

Right?

The other night, Josh mused aloud whether Shakespeare ever used the name Sycorax after we showed the kids the episode “The Shakespeare Code.” (The Doctor mentions the Sycorax in passing when talking about a skull, and Shakespeare mentions that he likes the name and may use it.)  The ChickieNob informed us that Sycorax was the mother of Caliban in the Tempest*.

One day, there just may be fandom scholars for Doctor Who or Harry Potter.  And when there is, the ChickieNob will be first in line for her PhD.

* The kids aren’t watching Shakespeare plays willy nilly.  The ChickieNob has only seen Romeo and Juliet through Act 4 and the Tempest (which she wanted to see because of Lemony Snicket).  It was just an odd coincidence that the name would appear in the only Shakespeare play she has seen in full.

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Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

This is once again specific for Mac users — make sure you have updated your operating system AND downloaded the patch for the Shellshock virus.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Breathe Gently has a post about the most annoying phrases said to people experiencing infertility (sometimes even by others experiencing infertility).  From the ever popular “at least you ovulated!” to the idea of things that weren’t meant to be.  Come join her in rehashing your favourites.

Journeys of a Fabulist has a post about Nox, a restaurant where you dine in the dark, and four lessons she learned by having the ability to see removed for the meal.  I just loved everything she noticed.

Two lovely ones from #MicroblogMondays: Persnickety Chickadee has a post about going around in circles, and In Quest of a Binky Moongee has one about seeing her old RE on television.  Again, to talk about them when they’re so brief is probably to detract from their overall impact.  So just click over and read them in full.

Lastly, tonight begins Yom Kippur.  I really loved The Infertility Voice’s post about infertility and the Torah this week.  She writes: “Whoever wrote that in the Torah truly understood the emotional devastation of infertility when they wrote it. In some ways, that’s the kind of understanding that really only comes with the experience of that kind of deep longing.”  Beautiful.

The roundup to the Roundup: Our dishwasher is broken.  Meeeeeeeemories, misty watercoloured memories, of the DC punk scene.  Halloween Costume 2014 update.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 26th and October 3rd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

October 3, 2014   9 Comments

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