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629th Friday Blog Roundup

I just discovered Curtis Sittenfeld.  People, why didn’t you tell me about her books?  Okay, you probably did tell me about her books because she has been on my TBR pile for a long time.  I wanted American Wife because… well… it feels fitting at the moment, and I’ll get it from the library this weekend, but I ended up starting with Prep.

It is so good that I tried to hold it open with the edge of the microwave while I made popcorn on the stovetop, desperate to sneak in a single page.

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I haven’t gotten a chance to listen to this episode of Terrible, Thanks for Asking yet, but the sixth episode is about miscarriage and secondary IF.  You can download the MP3 from the site, though I can’t figure out how to embed the episode on the blog.

If you don’t know this podcast, the explanation on the front page of their site says it all: “You know how every day someone asks “how are you?” And even if you’re totally dying inside, you just say “fine,” so everyone can go about their day? This show is the opposite of that.”

A much needed conversation.

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It’s Friday the 13th.  Why do I have a compulsive need to mention that in the Roundup whenever Friday and the 13th collide?  I have no clue.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Inconceivable has an update about her absence, musing about the hidden stories we contain.  How you can carry infertility and loss with you every day, and no one around you has a clue what is happening in your heart.  It’s really a nod to all of our silent stories; everyone carries something.

River Run Dry has a post about the feeling of Not Enough that came to me at the perfect moment (so thank you for your words).  She captures crying in the car: “I feel Not Enough right now, and it’s only Tuesday, and all the days I need to get through are stretched in front of me, weeks and months and years and decades full of tasks and To Dos, and I’m so scared I’m always going to be To Doing and my heart will never feel full… I looked up and saw this gorgeous sunrise.”  I love this post.

Different Shores had to endure coffee with a woman who moaned on and on about her daughter who wasn’t producing grandchildren.  She had to sit across from her while she announced that she couldn’t think of anything worse, nor could she hear the possibility that there was nothing empty about living without children.  She writes, “Fear illness, fear poverty, fear dangerous presidents, but please don’t fear a life like mine.”  That is a rallying cry if I ever heard one.

Lastly, No Kidding in NZ takes the idea of people crossing cultures and applies it to different types of families.  In the same way that we go into other people’s cultures and enjoy them through travel or restaurants or celebrations, we can also visit each other’s lives and celebrate all that is good in our choices.  If you can see the benefit of getting to eat food from various cultures, surely you can also see the benefit from sitting and listening to someone tell you about a life different from your own.

The roundup to the Roundup: Just started reading Curtis Sittenfeld.  Podcast you may want to hear.  Friday the 13th.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 6th and January 13th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

January 13, 2017   10 Comments

628th Friday Blog Roundup

Justine (who has a very good story to tell about an epic win and should definitely blog it so bother her a lot until she writes it down) and I drove at each other for an extended lunch this week.  I took mostly back roads instead of highways, and listened to podcasts as I drove through farmland.  (Be prepared for an onslaught of posts processing said podcasts.)

We met at an indoor market.  It was sort of like if 50 food trucks decided to gut their trucks and set up shop under the same roof.  We both ended up with crepes, but it was the sort of place that is perfect for a graze-y meal; talking for hours and getting up from time to time to sample another dish.

Next time: the hot pretzel booth.

It is just so good to be with someone who gets you, and you get her, and it’s all just good connection.

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Massive thank you to Persnickety Chickadee for teaching me about drop bears.

Don’t know what they are?

Go Google like I did.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

I like that Anabegins does quarterly goals.  That seems a lot more realistic than a yearly goal.  She breaks down the goals into different actions for various facets of her life.  I am going to do this, too, because I can imagine April a lot more than I can imagine next December.  If you’re struggling with the idea of a year, break it down into chunks.

Torthúil writes about the world’s greatest fortune cookie message.  Being prepared to modify your plan begins with the plan itself: Is there only one decent outcome?  If there is, then maybe the plan needs to be restructured.  It’s a brief post with a lot of food for thought.

Lastly, Bereaved and Blessed has a moving post about her daughter processing information about her sibling that died before she was born.  It begins, “I overheard Abby tell her friend (who was over for their first playdate, at our home) that she wanted to talk about her sister in Heaven.”  She recounts the conversation between the two girls and the conversation she had with her afterward.  Go over and read the whole thing.

The roundup to the Roundup: I got to see Justine.  Drop bears.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between December 30th and January 6th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

January 6, 2017   9 Comments

627th Friday Blog Roundup

Last year, I admonished Stephanie for running into a store for tampons and bypassing the Michael Jackson frog statues.  Who the hell leaves behind a Michael Jackson frog, especially one grabbing his crotch?  Fine, fine, fine, the ceramic cow skull I understand (those hollow eyes are sort of creepy), but Michael?

Fast forward to this week when Josh picks up the mail and texts that there is a package for me.

Guess who has come to live in my house?

michael jackson frog statue

Great statue or greatest statue?  Ever.

Thank you, Stephanie.  This made my year.

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We went to see Jackie this week.  Normally I hate going to the movie theater because I can’t relax with a bunch of strangers around me AND I had already endured the movie theater recently to see Rogue One,  but I wanted to see Jackie that badly.

It didn’t disappoint.  There were chunks of the movie where I forgot that I was watching Natalie Portman.  It was so beautiful.  It’s one of my top favourite movies of all time, and I already know that I’m going to buy it the moment it comes out on DVD in March.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Empress and the Fool has a post about the media’s coverage of infertility as well as the stories out of Hollywood of women easily popping out babies in their forties without a care in the world.  Okay, so I loved this post for the term “cryo-stash,” but she makes a really important point about the stories we put out into the world and how they affect people beyond ourselves.  And, moreover, “I’m not sure how much of my private life I’m morally obligated to divulge in the interest of the public good.”

My Path to Mommyhood has a bittersweet story about a misunderstanding stemming from the fact that she was holding a colleague’s baby.  She writes, “I found their flash of belief in this magical baby delivery endearing though, and their amazement and brief moment of OH MY G-D IT FINALLY HAPPENED! to be just incredibly heartwarming.”  It’s really a post about everyone who is waiting with you when you’re waiting to build your family; even the people you don’t really think about who are silently cheering you on.

Lastly, Bent Not Broken has a beautiful post about aunthood.  We call that “the honey and the sting” in Hebrew — the thing that brings you so much happiness that also makes you ache at the same time.  Or, as she perfect states: “Definitely a weird gray space of where I held happiness and longing at the same time.”  Go read the whole post.

The roundup to the Roundup: Thank you for the greatest frog statue ever!  Go see Jackie.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between December 23rd and 30th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

December 30, 2016   2 Comments

626th Friday Blog Roundup

In the vein of last minute Christmas ideas — an activity and a stocking stuffer.  Actually, those would be two last minute Christmas ideas because the activity is not the stocking stuffer.

Anyway.

We participated this year in a really fun idea called Cookies for Cops.  It’s a program through MADD where local families bake cookies for police departments around the area.  I have a fantastic friend who arranged for all of us to drop off our cookies at her house, and she delivered them for us.  If you Google “MADD Cookies for Cops,” you can see if they’re holding a program in your area.  And if not, start one because you get the fun of baking and then other people get the fun of eating.

Speaking of baking, my silicone spatula broke while making muffins.  This is the second time the clear handle has snapped in half, so when I went to Bed, Bath, and Beyond, I decided to get a different brand.  I ended up with a blue Core Kitchen spatula, and I love this thing so much that it makes my heart hurt.  For some reason, it’s not on the store’s website, but I did find it on this one.  There are huge display cases of them in-store by the baking aisle.  It’s really heavy and sturdy.  Even my muffin batter can’t break it.  I think.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

IF Pomegranate has two posts: one about waiting and then the followup after the phone call musing on a future conversation with her sister about egg donation.  It’s all the considerations that the average person doesn’t think about such as the risk to the egg donor and genetic links.  I empathized with the first post, and I was glad she received the phone call with the second.

The Road Less Travelled has a post about the Syrian refugee family that has moved in across the street from her parents’ house, watching them as they experience snow (perhaps for the first time).  In a week when Monday was filled with bad news from the Electoral College vote, it was sweet to encounter this story of a Canadian Christmas scene.

Anabegins returns with an update.  I love the magic of the RSS feed reader that always lets you know when someone has popped back up.  She ends the post with a sentiment that I feel, too: “I wish I could feel hopeful that next year will be better — and the threshold is set pretty damn low here — but it seems like the world is falling apart around us, spiraling downward faster than I can blink.”  Holding strong with you for 1461 days.

Lastly, Bent Not Broken has a post about celebrating Christmas and finding triggers where she didn’t expect them; namely, a baby that shows up at the party.  She writes, “It seemed like most of the day there were two themes of conversation: breastfeeding and our president elect.  I did not wish to engage in either of these conversations so I found the bathroom to be a welcome escape.”  Something I suspect many people will deal with this holiday season, so I echo her sentiments at the end: wishing you “a happy, or at least not terrible, holiday season.”

The roundup to the Roundup: Cookies for Cops and excellent spatulas.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between December 16th and 23rd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

December 23, 2016   6 Comments

625th Friday Blog Roundup

Truman went back to the vet this week.  I thought his eye looked a little strange when I gave him breakfast, but it was still dark in the room and I was barely awake, so I chalked it up to weird lighting and moved on.  Later in the day, there was a cricket in the house, and I think you are all aware of the loud screams that I emit when I see a cricket.  Afterwards, I went to (1) calm Truman and (2) calm myself by getting love from Truman when I saw that his eye was red.

Like weirdly red.

I waited about a half hour and then called the vet because as I waited, it looked like Truman’s eye was turning inside out.  I would post a picture, but it may make you throw up in your mouth.  They told me to bring him in, so we drove over while I sang Truman’s favourite song — “Strike the Bell” — over and over again.

She checked that it wasn’t a brain tumour and then determined that there was an injury to his eyeball.  About three days earlier, I had opened a new bag of hay, and Truman had been happily rubbing his face in it while chirping on about how good it tastes by wheeking non-stop.  In fact, I had moved him several times when he tried to sleep with his face in the hay bowl, something that confused him because was I aware that this bag of hay was particularly delicious?  It seems that Truman has poked himself in the eye with said hay.  Good going, sport.

We’re only a few days into the eyedrops, but his eye has mostly gone back to normal.  It’s still clouded over, but at least it doesn’t look like it’s turned inside out.  The injury is still there, which freaks me out because the next step would be taking him to a guinea pig ophthalmologist.

Has he learned not to rub his face in the hay bowl?  No.  He was doing it again within 24 hours of returning from the vet.  Because the hay is that freakin’ good.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Notes from the Ninth Circle has a post contemplating her worth.  She bleakly wonders, “I wonder sometimes if the reason why God won’t give us another baby is because I’m not worth enough because I don’t do enough, don’t do well enough, at taking care of the family that I do have and the child that He did give me already.”  Even when your brain rationally knows your worth, it’s hard to convince the heart to shut its mouth.  Thank you for writing this.

Birds, Bees, and Medicine is taking care of herself, and that means calling a therapist to check herself for depression.  It’s an important read; moreso because she is a therapist herself, and she points out the importance of having an outsider judge your mental state vs. relying on yourself.  Good advice for non-therapists to take to heart.  You wouldn’t self-diagnose cancer, right?  You would go to a doctor if you felt something abnormal and allow them to judge the facts.  The same goes for our brains.

The Empress and the Fool has a post about people who give her know-it-all advice on the babies she is gestating.  The reality is just as nothing can prepare you for some life events, no one can know how your parenting experience is going to go.  I love this: “I am under no delusions about the rigors of raising children, while I am simultaneously humbled by the recognition that this is something I will not concretely understand until I am inside the experience, but treatment and miscarriage are also exhausting, except they are of the soul-sucking sort and entirely bereft of the joys that make parenting gratifying.”

Lastly, POF and Now What? has a post about family myths, those stories we tell ourselves about how our life should look.  She counters the list with all the myths she has removed from her definition of self, and all the things she actually is accomplishing.  It’s a really important post, and I hope everyone pauses to make their own three lists.

The roundup to the Roundup: Truman’s eye injury.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between December 9th and 16th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

December 16, 2016   10 Comments

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