Random header image... Refresh for more!

Category — Friday Blog Roundup

517th Friday Blog Roundup

I should probably keep posting reminders through December about the Creme de la Creme.  So… here’s your reminder!

The 2014 Creme de la Creme list is open for entries until December 15th.  No one will be added after December 15th.  Read the post to see how to be a part of the Creme de la Creme, which is open to every member of the ALI (adoption/loss/infertility) community.

Consider that your weekly reminder.

*******

I know it has already gotten 300,000 comments and many more views, but in case you missed it, I really love this little comic on life and death.  It made me cry.  Then the cynical part of me started thinking, “are all people really gifts?  I mean, Hitler sucked as a gift.”  And then I smacked the cynical part of me across the face and went back to sniffling.

*******

Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

*******

And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

What a Day for a Daydream has a post about wanting another child after finally reaching parenthood with twins.  She explains: “I never knew how many children I wanted until I actually had them.”  There was a lot I related to in this post, and I found the should-we-shouldn’t-we discussion interesting.

In Quest of a Binky Moongee has a post about the feelings that bubble up after spending time caring for a friend’s child.  She writes, “The house felt eerily empty when the little guy was gone.  The next day, on my way to work, the emptiness was almost unbearable in the car.  I so wish that I could reach back and touch my baby’s hair.”  I think most of us have experienced this, but she captures it particularly well.

Lastly, in a very small space, Quodlibet gives everyone a way to make sense of the highs and lows in life.  It was the reminder I needed to hold all the good and bad in my heart at the same time; “to weep with those who are weeping, and rejoice with those who are rejoicing.”  Gorgeous post.

The roundup to the Roundup: Your friendly Creme de la Creme reminder.  I love that comic.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 17th and 24th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

October 24, 2014   3 Comments

516th Friday Blog Roundup

Last year, I opened the Creme de la Creme for submissions on October 15th to give you (and me) two full months to create the list which goes up on January 1st.  This year, the task has been on my to-do list with a little question mark next to the word.  Creme?  Yes?  No?

I think all things run their course.  Certainly the Lost and Found has fallen by the wayside from lack of use.  I post it as often as I have stuff to post.  I am trying to get that project to a nice, round number, and then I will shutter it.

And I wondered if the Creme had reached a similar fate.  If you got enough out of it anymore to make it worth doing the work, and if I got enough out of it anymore to make it worth doing the work.

I decided that yes, it still had enough juice in it to make it through this year, the 9th time constructing the list.  So I will open the list for submissions on Tuesday, October 21st.  A few days later than I would have liked, but still plenty of time.

I know there are people who like to be towards the top of the list, so I give you this heads up so you can peruse your archive this weekend and choose a post.  If you’re new to this blog and have no clue what I’m talking about, you may want to familiarize yourself with the Creme de la Creme by looking at old ones.  Because it would rock if we got a wide range of voices on the list.

*******

Raise your hand if you read this section.  Okay.  Now raise your hand if you ACTUALLY DO A BACKUP.  People, it doesn’t help to just think about doing it.  Go do it.  Make your backup.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

*******

And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Persnickety Chickadee has a brief post that packs a punch about books.  She always worried that she would have a child who wouldn’t love books as much as she does.  She didn’t realize she had to worry about whether or not she would have a child at all.  It’s a moving post in its brevity.

Another small post: Days of Grace has the most absolutely perfect response to the idea of whether or not you should blog: “Write for the future you.  She won’t let you regret it.”  Go read the whole post.

Small is big this week: Created Family has a heartbreaking post on processing her loss while still under the anesthesia for the D&C.  With four small words, she sums it up perfectly.

A Little Bit More has a post detailing her Thanksgiving weekend that looks at the good in between the hard.  She talks about a moment when she was starting to feel down, and then she observed something that brought her back up.  And I love this line: “So God has a sense of humour and was reminding me that there is so very much to smile about, laugh about, love and be thankful for.”

Lastly, I love the distinction A Fifth Season makes when she says she isn’t blessed, and why she has a problem with that word.  She bluntly states: “Blessings, you see are relative.  One knows to call something a blessing when one knows the antithesis. I live the antithesis so that others know what to call their blessings.”  It informs how she views the world, and why she refuses to look at her life as a comparison.

The roundup to the Roundup: The Creme de la Creme opens this week.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 10th and 17th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

October 17, 2014   14 Comments

515th Friday Blog Roundup

I lost a lot of weight about two years ago, which necessitated buying several new pairs of pants and jeans.  I was dumbfounded when I saw the size on the pants.  It was much lower than I had worn in the past.  And I’m going to admit this: I was between two sizes and I went with the smaller one ENTIRELY OUT OF VANITY FOR WHAT WAS WRITTEN ON THE TAG.

Yes, I needed to shout that because it is now two years later, and I have put back on some of the weight.  Just enough so that if I had bought the larger size, I would still be smoothly sailing through winter.  But I didn’t.  I went with the smaller size.  Because I was short-sighted and vain and waaaaaaaay too proud of myself.  Like stupidly proud.  As in forgetting that I always bounce back up a little bit to settle in this weight range.

So my pants are snug.

I dug back out MyFitnessPal… who is really MyFitnessFrenemy… and I am attempting to eat better so I don’t need to buy new pants.

I am considering getting a tattoo on my upper leg so I’ll see it every time I go clothes shopping which reads: buy the larger size.

*******

Ann from Tragic Optimist wrote a board book for kids, and I got to see it this week.  It’s called Glasses, and the book has its own site.  It’s exactly what you think: a very cute book for getting kids comfortable with their glasses. (Or, I’d argue, a good book for ALL kids to read, especially when they start noticing differences between kids.)  The rhyme is upbeat, the photographs colourful, and the glasses all cool. (Yes, these kids are cooler than you are.)  In getting a copy to read with your child (or for a family member or for your school, etc), you’re not only opening them up to being comfortable with their glasses or their friend’s glasses (not to mention opening up a discussion on any external device that helps a person get through their day such as a hearing aid or wheelchair), but you’re supporting a member of the ALI community.  Double plus.

Glasses wearers unite!

*******

Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

*******

And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Serenity in Chaos has a post about parallel universes playing host to our unmade choices.  I love her description of what it felt like to have her reality and her dreamworld merge inside her mind.  She writes: “I gasped within, because at that exact second, there was no difference between my reality and my parallel universe. There was no need for the parallel universe anymore. It was breathtakingly beautiful and surreal at the same time.” Isn’t that gorgeous?

Hope Floats Amongst the Cherry Blossoms has a post about the far-reaching effects of infertility; namely, the other people affected when you can’t have a child.  She writes about observing her father at the pool looking wistfully at some kids splashing around in the water.  She wonders aloud what will happen if she can’t give him a grandchild: “If I can’t give him one, will he ever get to be in that moment again… to experience the joy of a child that is part of your family, your inner circle and play?  Has the moment passed?  Has it passed for me?  And for him?”  I had a lump in my throat reading the post.

Earth & Ink has a post about why she continues to blog even though she cannot write about the largest thing happening in her life.  She explains: “In offline life, I’m in the middle of something I can’t write about. So I am chilled. Quieted. In multiple ways, silenced.  It is distressingly similar to being Ariel and having had someone has put my voice in a box. Although granted, a bit more subtle. And lots less fairy dust.”  I like this post because I could not only feel the weight of having something huge closing off your voice, but I could also sense the light at the end of her tunnel, ensuring she can speak again.

Lastly, in the microblog world, More Than a Mom has a very moving post about the presence of her mother being with her as she runs.  It was so quiet, so brief, that it almost felt like a sigh.  A sigh of a post.

The roundup to the Roundup: My pants are too small.  (Or I am too large.)  Glasses!  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 3rd and 10th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

October 10, 2014   19 Comments

514th Friday Blog Roundup

We’ve kicked off the Jewish New Year with a broken dishwasher.  The dishwasher in question is only four years old, which is like middle-school-age in appliance years (which are actually very similar to dog years).  We were told that we could either invest several hundred dollars in our piece-of-shit dishwasher (thanks, Sears!) or buy a new one (not from Sears).  Our solution thus far has been to engage in marathon hand-washing sessions.  It’s like being back in graduate school.

*******

Josh forwarded me a documentary that’s being made about the DC punk scene in the 80s called Salad Days.

It made me feel very very nostalgic.  And a little bit sad (yet also happy) when I saw my old, favourite record store featured in the film.  And a strong desire to comb through the storage room and find my posters from old shows.

I can’t say that high school was a particularly happy time in life, but that music makes me happy.

*******

An update on the Halloween costume front: everything is coming together, and I will post pictures soon of the mask.  The ChickieNob has been very patient, standing still while I mold paper clay to the contours of her face.  She overheard me telling someone that the mask only needs to last for maybe 5 wearings, and when I got off the phone, she informed me that it needed to last for a lot longer than that because she has big plans to dress up as Madame Vastra more than just on Halloween.

“Like, in the house, right?” I questioned.  “Right?”

Right?

The other night, Josh mused aloud whether Shakespeare ever used the name Sycorax after we showed the kids the episode “The Shakespeare Code.” (The Doctor mentions the Sycorax in passing when talking about a skull, and Shakespeare mentions that he likes the name and may use it.)  The ChickieNob informed us that Sycorax was the mother of Caliban in the Tempest*.

One day, there just may be fandom scholars for Doctor Who or Harry Potter.  And when there is, the ChickieNob will be first in line for her PhD.

* The kids aren’t watching Shakespeare plays willy nilly.  The ChickieNob has only seen Romeo and Juliet through Act 4 and the Tempest (which she wanted to see because of Lemony Snicket).  It was just an odd coincidence that the name would appear in the only Shakespeare play she has seen in full.

*******

Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

This is once again specific for Mac users — make sure you have updated your operating system AND downloaded the patch for the Shellshock virus.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

*******

And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Breathe Gently has a post about the most annoying phrases said to people experiencing infertility (sometimes even by others experiencing infertility).  From the ever popular “at least you ovulated!” to the idea of things that weren’t meant to be.  Come join her in rehashing your favourites.

Journeys of a Fabulist has a post about Nox, a restaurant where you dine in the dark, and four lessons she learned by having the ability to see removed for the meal.  I just loved everything she noticed.

Two lovely ones from #MicroblogMondays: Persnickety Chickadee has a post about going around in circles, and In Quest of a Binky Moongee has one about seeing her old RE on television.  Again, to talk about them when they’re so brief is probably to detract from their overall impact.  So just click over and read them in full.

Lastly, tonight begins Yom Kippur.  I really loved The Infertility Voice’s post about infertility and the Torah this week.  She writes: “Whoever wrote that in the Torah truly understood the emotional devastation of infertility when they wrote it. In some ways, that’s the kind of understanding that really only comes with the experience of that kind of deep longing.”  Beautiful.

The roundup to the Roundup: Our dishwasher is broken.  Meeeeeeeemories, misty watercoloured memories, of the DC punk scene.  Halloween Costume 2014 update.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 26th and October 3rd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

October 3, 2014   9 Comments

513th Friday Blog Roundup

For the last few weeks, I’ve been trying to convince the ChickieNob that she wants a simple Halloween costume.  Would she like to be Hermione Granger again?  Would she like to be the Tardis?  That one seems easy to make.  But no, she has her heart set on one character and one character only: Madame Vastra, the Victorian lizard detective.

Look at that green skin!  Look at that ridged head!  WTF?

So I contacted Epbot, and her husband John wrote me back with a list of ideas on how to construct the head using a paintable mask as the base and building the rest with paper clay.  Brilliant.  I can do that.

And now I am stuck again.  Seriously, where am I going to get Victorian clothes?  I have a Victoria-style hat (and I can attach Madame Vastra’s veil since the ChickieNob told me that she needs to wear the veil around people who judge the outside without understanding the inside), but I am stuck on the dress.  Compounding the issue is cost: I need to do this dirt cheap.  So while I found Victorian costumes online, I cannot shell out $70 for a Halloween outfit.

Did I also mention that I am terrible at sewing?

This is one of those times when I really wish there was a cosplayers-to-the-rescue team who showed up at your house and helped you design a costume on an insanely tight budget.

So to break it on down: it is well within my capabilities to make an A-line black skirt and trim it with lace.  And I have the head totally taken care of.  But this costume is faltering between the chin and waist.  I could swing by the consignment shop to see if there is a rufflely black shirt I could alter, but do people have other ideas?  If you had to be a Victorian woman (like… in this scenario… armed criminals break into your house and tell you that they will kill you in three hours if you can’t pull together a Victorian era costume for under $20), what would you do to constuct the costume?  What/how can I alter something?

Ideas?

*******

Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

And a specific one if you use Apple products: You may have noticed that the new iOS updates have caused big, messy problems.  Back up your devices BEFORE you download the new patches for iOS8!

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

*******

And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Misconceptions About Conception has a post about seeing her anonymous donor at the airport.  Of course her donor had no clue that the recipient of her donation was sitting at the very same gate, and she didn’t speak to her.  But she got to look at her.  It makes you wonder how the universe works; how many times it has brought you within inches of people who never knew they played huge, silent roles in your life or you in theirs.

Project Progeny has a post about using an online tarot card reading to make a decision.  Beyond the fact that the post is really about balance (something I feel slightly lacking in my body at the moment.  I feel unbalanced, wobbly), I loved that she used the tarot card reading to make the decision. (And yes, I Googled and found the site and yes, I used it myself.)

No Ways to Say It has a very simple, very poignant post that resonated with me.  32 words.  I want the same thing too.

Lastly, a non-IF post that resonated with my morbid little heart.  Awfully Chipper has a post about having no experience with death even though she is 41, and how while we intellectually know that death is a reality, we do everything in our power to distance ourselves from it.  I’ve had an average amount of experience with death, so I’m in a different place than Maud (what really is average?  I assume I’ve had an average amount of experience).  But this really spoke to me: “I have more pressing reasons to try to make my body strong or fit: I need to work on my core muscles not just because of the frankly pie-in-the-sky notion of a flat stomach but also because it helps my back not hurt. I have a newfound urge to create, to leave behind, to do worthwhile things because I won’t always be here.”  Yes.

The roundup to the Roundup: Help me figure out a Halloween costume.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 19th and 26th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

September 26, 2014   24 Comments

(c) 2006 Melissa S. Ford
The contents of this website are protected by applicable copyright laws. All rights are reserved by the author