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533rd Friday Blog Roundup

The very end of the [mouse] tail… tale.

The exterminator found a dead mouse in the attic in the trap that Josh set at the beginning of the week.  And then, that evening, while we were watching the end of the very intense episode of Sherlock, a mouse died in the kitchen.  Josh went to bring our tea cups downstairs at the end of the night, and came upstairs, his hands clasped as if in orison, praying for me to remain calm.

“Melissa, there is something I need to deal with downstairs, so please don’t come down.”

Yes, there was shrieking on my part.

The rest of the week has been quiet, not a scritching to be heard.  Not that I didn’t think I heard the skittering of little feet.  I spent a lot of time with my head pressed against the heat vents, holding my breath while listening.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

A Separate Life has a post about a moment 35 years ago that changed the whole course of her life.  At the time, she had no clue how it would impact her, but now, in retrospect, she can trace so many life choices back to this one moment.  It’s a cool story, and one applicable to so many moments in life when we can’t know how the here and now will affect the years to come.

Earth & Ink’s valentine took my breath away.  Though she isn’t infertile, she explains why she relates to the infertility community.  And it made me cry.  Because she gets it.  She gets it in a way that you really wish the rest of the world would get it.  And she gets it in a way that highlights the fact that the emotions of infertility are so universally applicable that it defies logic that more people don’t get it.  I love this post so much.  I will return to read it again and again.

Lastly, The Road Less Travelled writes about Family Day.  When I first heard about Family Day, I was a little bummed the US didn’t have it.  We could, let’s say, knock some other holidays off the calendar with it.  But now, reading Loribeth’s post, I’m glad we don’t have to contend with Family Day if family requires one to have children in order to be able to participate.  I hope that next year, as they race to be inclusive of everyone, they actually become inclusive of everyone and include families without children.

The roundup to the Roundup: The end of the mouse story.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between February 13th and 20th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

February 20, 2015   9 Comments

532nd Friday Blog Roundup

It’s Friday the 13th.  I don’t know if there’s much more to say about it than that.

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I’m sort of surprised that so many people who answered the meme put the unicorn before their most prized possession.  They were prepared to resent the unicorn for the rest of their life, but they weren’t prepared to murder it.  Is it because it’s a unicorn?  Would you answer the question the same way if it were a different animal?  (Since unicorns are totes realz.)

10. What is your most prized possession? Would you kill a cockroach in order to save your most prized possession?

10. What is your most prized possession? Would you kill a snake in order to save your most prized possession?

10. What is your most prized possession? Would you kill a stray cat in order to save your most prized possession?

Is it size or is it the magical qualities of unicorns or is it the fact that it’s a mammal?  Or do you just not want to be a killer?  Or do you not like your prized possession enough to smush something to keep it?

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Something Out of Nothing has a moving post about returning home after being gone for her father-in-law’s funeral.  It is about finding a comfortable space to call home, about being in flux and not knowing what comes next.  It’s a quiet, little post.

Searching for Our Silver Lining has a post about resurrecting the Bitter Infertiles podcast and using her experience to advocate or aid others.  In other words, that idea of sending the elevator back down that I talked about a few weeks ago.  It was interesting to read that idea wrapped inside something concrete.  And, of course, it’s about advocating when you’re no longer ensconced in the experience — advocating from a place of calm after the storm — so she raises many good questions in the post about how to do this well.

A Little Bit More has a post about her friend’s semi-sexless marriage and her ability to get pregnant.  She breaks it down for the reader: “But, the most important piece of this puzzle, is that they have four children in four years. That means in the (approx) 48 times they’ve had sex, they managed to conceive 4 of those times.”  It’s about the effort not matching the outcome.

After an absence, Mojo Working reaches out with a wonderful little post about the different types of friends we all have, and whether anyone is receiving her words as she sends them into the universe.  She writes: “I’m picking up the figurative phone and I’m sending you a quick text. A beacon, if you will. Let’s be that third type of friend, the ones for whom time and distance are relative. I’ve got a few moments to spare, and I’d really like to hear your voice.”  It made me smile.

Lastly, A Half Baked Life has a post about control and how procrastination and planning ahead are all about how we rub up against the universe.  This post resonated with me a lot as someone who regularly tries to control the universe by doing things well ahead of time to make sure that all deadlines are met.

The roundup to the Roundup: It’s Friday the 13th.  No one will kill the unicorn?  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between February 6th and 13th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

February 13, 2015   6 Comments

531st Friday Blog Roundup

So Unpregnant Chicken tagged me for a meme, and I never get tagged, so… THANK YOU.

Here are my answers:

1. What is your favorite book or movie and why? It’s a three-way tie: Harry Potter, Phantom Tollbooth, and Handmaid’s Tale.

2. What did you want to be when you grew up? I wanted to be a cardiologist. Like hardcore wanted to be one so badly and couldn’t fathom not being a doctor. Or I wanted to be a fish researcher. Or a writer. I ended up with only one of those three professions. (I’m not sure if fish researcher is a real job.)

3. Where would you travel if money was no object? Faroe Islands!

4. What do you miss most about childhood? My grandparents. I miss seeing them.

5. If you could have any fictional character for a pet who would it be? Definitely Tock from the Phantom Tollbooth.

6. Do you have any gross habits that you try to hide? I feel like I should start one to make myself more interesting.

7. Coffee, hot chocolate or tea? Coffee. Always. Everyday.

8. What is your favorite thing about blogging? The connections between people; making the world smaller and making friends with people I would have never gotten to meet otherwise.

9. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done? Putting those things down in writing where my kids could find them in the future would be the craziest thing of all.

10. Do you have any hobbies? Game-making. Interactive fiction. Collecting copies of Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland.

I have decided to tag everyone who is reading this to see who will answer these questions.  The ChickieNob helped me write them.

1. When was the last time you cut your hair? Did you like the haircut?

2. Grapes with seeds or seedless?

3. When was the last time you went to a fancy party? What did you wear?

4. What colour is your bedroom wall?

5. The worst smell in the world is…

6. Last thing you spat out.

7. Do you sing when no one is around? What do you usually sing?

8. Your least favourite name (and it’s okay if it’s Melissa; I can take it).

9. Did you like the food served at the last dinner party you went to?

10. What is your most prized possession? Would you kill a unicorn in order to save your most prized possession?

Cut-and-paste the questions onto your blog and answer them, and then pose 10 of your own.

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Do you know what Humble Bundle is?  It’s a site where you can pay-what-you-can for different games and books and such.  No Starch is offering a Humble Bundle right now with 5 books as the pay-what-you-can base, with lots of other books tacked on if you go over the base amount.  I own 4 of the 5 books:

  • Ruby Wizardry: An Introduction to Programming for Kids
  • Lauren Ipsum: A Story About Computer Science and Other Improbable Things
  • The Manga Guide to Electricity
  • Snip, Burn, Solder, Shred: Seriously Geeky Stuff to Make with Your Kids
  • The LEGO Adventure Book, Volume 1: Cars, Castles, Dinosaurs & More!

I just got the Ruby one, and that’s a summer project because I’m still finishing up Javascript.  And I’m reading Lauren Ipsum with a group of the ChickieNob’s friends.  I have three of the unlockable books, too.  The Wolvog has rubbed off on me.  I don’t think I noticed how many computer-related books we’ve collected over the years.

So, passing along word in case you want them, too.

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Over on GeekDad, we’ve started an interactive fiction club.  It’s like a book club, except for games.  And we’re all playing Adam Cadre’s Endless Nameless.  Anyone can jump in at any time.  You can read the background for the group over here.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Project Progeny captures the concept of hygge in a perfect post about friendship.  I loved this line: “There is no font that can imbue that word – friends – with the full weight of meaning I want to give it.”  The whole post made me feel warm inside, even if there is an ache between the words.

Riding the IVF Roller Coaster has a brief post about her sharps box.   Getting rid of it brings just as many problems as keeping it.  As someone who is now going on 10 years of a full sharps box at the top of a closet (don’t judge), I was especially touched by this line: “There’s been a lot of change there, which will probably make me feel that much more left behind – like the journey really, really is over.”  Maybe that is why I drag my heels, too.

No Kidding in NZ has an important reminder on how infertility has the potential to bring out our best and not just our worst.  She highlights 10 times that she has observed people choosing the better route and how it has strengthened the community.  It’s a post to bookmark and re-read whenever you’re feeling down about the world.

Lastly, Hope Floats Amongst the Cherry Blossoms has a moving post about annulling her marriage.  She writes, “I’ve been told that the annulment process can be very healing.  That has not been my experience.  It just feels like it is opening old wounds and rubbing salt in them.  Maybe I waited too long to do it.”  It is a quiet post, but I love when she points out that she is so much more than one aspect of her life whether it is fertility or marriage.

The roundup to the Roundup: The ChickieNob asks you 10 questions.  A lot of cool books for a set-your-own price.  Interactive fiction club — join along! Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 30th and February 6th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

February 6, 2015   16 Comments

530th Friday Blog Roundup

Do you remember hoppity hop balls?  My friend had one when we were little, and I always wanted to play with it. We didn’t have one, probably because they’re an excellent way to crack your skull open.

I went to volunteer at the twins’ school this week, and the gym teacher had taken out HOPPITY HOP BALLS.  I almost started hyperventilating because I was so excited.  I informed the twins and their classmates that I would be joining with a group and using the balls, too.  There were six balls and five kids in a group, so I got to go twice; hopping across the gym, involved in a massive game of jumping tag.  Not having known that I would get to do this, I wore my steel-toed boots, so it was admittedly a little difficult to get the height I wanted.

The gym teacher told me where to get one, so I am going to finally achieve my dream of having my own hoppity hop ball.  And it’s going to be so much better than when I was a kid because I’m going to hop in front of the wii on Wuhu Island, so it’s like I’m hopping all over the island.  I made the kids test out whether this is possible by crouching down in front of the wii and bobbing up and down, and they reported that it totally works.

See what good things can happen if you volunteer?

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New season of the Americans started this week.  I watched it at 10 pm and then couldn’t calm down for bed.  Who else is watching?

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Family Rocks has a thought-provoking post on forgiveness, something I struggle with a lot.  There were so many parts that resonated with me (especially how forgiveness seems to get harder as you age), but the part that resonated the most: “My resistance to forgive is also because I feel like the other person is ‘getting away’ with something and hasn’t really done their penance.”  It’s a wonderful post, full of questions, that will make you look at your own relationship with forgiveness.

It’s Just a Box of Rain has a post about adoption. (Yes, I know it’s also above as a second helping, but I only read this Thursday post this week.)  Every adoption starts with a loss.  She writes, “V didn’t ask to be adopted. She’s happy now, in the loving arms of the only family she has ever known. But, I know that someday she will understand this loss. And she will grieve it. And all people grieve it differently — some see relatively un-bothered, some are pretty traumatized. There’s no way to know in advance.”  It’s a beautiful post about wanting you help your child through whatever complicated feelings may come up in their life.

Constant in the Darkness reflects on adoption as she nears her daughter’s second birthday.  It’s interesting to read the way in which her thoughts have changed.  And this understanding is so key: “I have more answers and this feels so much better than fumbling for answers.  I think the answers were always there, it’s just that emotions clouded where to find them.”  As she says, even the cloudiness was part of the process, but it’s nice to know the clouds have parted and that she has found the peace that was always there.

Lastly, ANDMom has a perfect post that will make you see a familiar poem in a new light.  I’m not going to ruin this beautiful post for you by describing it too much.  You should just go over and read it; and then reflect on your own road.

The roundup to the Roundup: I’m getting a hoppity hop ball.  Are you watching the Americans?  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 23rd and 30th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

January 30, 2015   15 Comments

529th Friday Blog Roundup

I learned about the Love Actualized set of questions from a New York Times article.  If you click on that link, you can play them from your phone or computer.  It’s 36 questions of increasing intimacy that you ask back and forth with another person such as your partner or close friend.  You start out talking about whom you’d like as a dinner guest, and you end up dissecting a problem you’re dealing with by asking advice.

All in all, it’s pretty interesting — both the other person’s answers AND the questions the creators thought would help you fully understand the other person.

So there you go: 36 questions to use in a conversation this weekend (and don’t forget the staring part at the end — read the article to understand that).  You’re welcome.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Not a Wasted Word has a post about decluttering her house and getting rid of the things she no longer needs.  While it’s necessary work, it’s also scary because in doing so, she is getting rid of things that were once very important to her.  And if they’re no longer important now, who is she?  She writes, “Letting go of so many things that I acquired in the pursuit of some creative expression and healing has been difficult. I’m not sure who I am, or more accurately, who I am becoming, and that is a terrifying prospect.”  It’s a great post about reflecting on a life.

Torthúil has a wonderful blogoversary post explaining why her blog means so much to her.  I love the 4 reasons why she keeps writing.  But moreover, I love the idea of the room under the carpet.

Kveller has a post about keeping frozen embryos even after you’re finished with family building.  She explains: “But each year, when this envelope comes in the mail (and the kids look like angels as they sleep), I start to wonder. What would it be like to add another miracle to our family? What would he or she look like? Be like? This annual bill makes us take the time to stop and think about our lives and our children and talk about our family and our future.”  It’s a wonderful post about the decisions we make.

Lastly, No Baby Ruth has a post about getting the first period after a birth, and the emotions and questions it stirs up.  Especially since this isn’t a first step to trying again.  Their family building journey is done, and it brings forth the “now what” sensation of having your relationship with your reproductive organs change.  A thought-provoking read.

The roundup to the Roundup: Questions to ask your friend or partner this weekend.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 16th and 23rd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

January 23, 2015   7 Comments

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