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604th Friday Blog Roundup

We went to see the new Ghostbusters and LOVED it.  We showed the kids the original Ghostbusters because of the Ghostbusters levels in LEGO Dimensions, and they liked it.  But they loved this.  I think they got the jokes this time, whereas some of the stuff that made the original Ghostbusters funny went over their heads.

The best part was watching the ChickieNob’s face whenever Kate McKinnon was on the screen.  It was like someone discovering chocolate for the first time.  She has found her comedy hero.  And Leslie Jones was amazing.  She brought sweetness and exuberance to the film.

I rarely think a remake is better than the original, but due to better technology and a really funny script, they hit this out of the park.

Question for anyone else who has seen it: The Mayor lists three incidents that Americans were interested in and then forgot about.  The first was Roswell, the second was blank, and the third was a play on Ashley, Kansas.  (I think they called it Yardville, Utah where the people disappeared.)  What was the second item in that list?

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Not a Wasted Word details what happened during her week (mostly) without media.  I’ve never been moved to do this — I’m more likely to create an overdose week to combat the fact that I’ve read fewer books this year — but it was interesting to hear what happened to her as the week unfolded, as well as what happened when she could finally read again: “Yesterday morning I woke up excited to be able to read again, but quickly felt overwhelmed by the sheer quantity of words and ideas bouncing around in my head.”

No Baby Ruth writes about maybe finding a reason for loss, and that reason comes with other health implications.  I like this post because it brings into focus the enormity of infertility.  It’s often not a compartmentalized problem that people can choose to ignore, even if the general public sees it solely as an issue with family building.

I love this post by Raven Rambling detailing her nephew’s response to a picture she snapped of him while he was playing.  It was so brilliant that I don’t want to ruin it by trying to describe it.  Just click over and read it; I promise, it’s a brief post.

Lastly, Birds, Bees, and Medicine has a post about going for a vaginal ultrasound and feeling shy.  She muses at how you can grow accustomed to anything — including jumping into the stirrups half-naked — and then when you return to normal, how difficult it can be to give up your privacy again.  I like this post because I’ve never seen this discussed this way.  She explains, “We are taught to protect our personal privacy, then forced to learn to tolerate having this repeatedly violated, then return to the deeply entrenched privacy sense that we developed as children.”

The roundup to the Roundup: Ghostbusters rocked plus a question if you’ve seen it.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between July 15th and July 22nd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

July 22, 2016   8 Comments

603rd Friday Blog Roundup

I’m not going to play Pokémon Go.  It sounds like something I would play, but I’m just… not feeling it. Maybe I’m in a video game cocooning moment right now, maybe I don’t love the idea of anything that makes me turn on location services on my phone, maybe I just don’t like the art.  I don’t know what it is, only that I am not going to play it.

But it sort of feels like I’m hanging out at the dog park without a dog every time I surf the Internet right now.  Every other headline is for Pokémon.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

River Run Dry has a post about the computer version of your life that sort of blew my little mind.  Because we all peek at people’s walls on Facebook… but I guess I never thought about how people peek at mine.  I don’t know how I missed that idea, but I sort of only thought about that peeking flowing one way.  She asks a great question: “If she was looking at MY page right now, what story would she read?”  Go over and read the whole post and discuss.

Torthúil has a post about returning to the fertility clinic.  I love this attitude: “A meeting is the place to start, and putting it off wasn’t accomplishing anything.”  I think I like this post because it is just a slice of life: the logistics of assisted family building and the ducks you need to line up in a row.  Plus, the crocheted eggs are pretty much the cutest things I’ve seen all week, and I totally want to play with them.

Lastly, A+ Effort did an informal examination of race and social media, noting which status updates got the biggest response.  A picture from her daughter’s party: 150 likes!  A really great piece on white privilege… 10.  She ends her post with a simple request: “My words aren’t that important right now. If you don’t already, do me a favor, go read something from a person of color.”

The roundup to the Roundup: No Pokémon for me.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between July 8th and July 15th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

July 15, 2016   10 Comments

602nd Friday Blog Roundup

I found Drake’s words on the Alton Sterling shooting incredibly touching: “No one begins their life as a hashtag. Yet the trend of being reduced to one continues.”  I want to cling to his hope because it feels like society is drowning right now.

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Truman is about the same.  He’s eating, but he’s losing weight.  He is very frail.  His hind legs are still paralyzed, so he’s sort of slithering around on his tummy, pulling himself with his front paws when he moves, which is not very often or very far.  He can’t really poop unless I massage his belly.  And, at the same time, he is still so Truman-y.  He wheeks the moment I come downstairs in the morning, and positions himself to watch my morning yoga.

I was positive last month that he would never bounce back from the head tilt illness; that we would lose him from that.  And he managed to pull through.  The vet told me to give it until Sunday night.  That if it’s an infection, we’ll see improvement by then.  So I’m hoping this is just another infection and we’ll see a change in the next few days.  Because I cannot contemplate the otherwise.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

My Path to Mommyhood has a post about the commentary people make at certain points in the family building process.  The “it’s too soon!” and “are you still trying that” comments.  Those types of words are salt in the wound of people who are already profoundly feeling the passing of time.  She explains, “When it came time to redo our homestudy, we found ourselves facing several comments, such as, ‘So you’re going to sign on for another year with this agency, huh?’ or ‘What’s causing the delay? Is there something they can tell you about why you’re not getting matched? Shouldn’t you be matched by now?’ or ‘How long are you going to do this?’”  It would be so simple for people to switch their words to ones of encouragement (as she points out in the post) vs. harping on the length of time.  It’s an important read.

The Road Less Travelled has a post marking 15 years of living childfree after infertility.  It’s a wonderful post unpacking her personal journey, but also looking at the greater world of resources out there for those walking the path.  It brings to light an important point about whether or not to add your voice to the blogging mix: The answer is “yes.”  If not to record your own journey for yourself, then to be there for everyone else who is in a place where they so desperately need to hear a “me, too.”

Anabegins cracked me up with the title of her post but kept me reading because it’s just a really good vent.  I love her opening: “Nothing like holidays to cause major FOMO when you weren’t actually invited to any parties, and the fireworks are just too late and too crowded and too loud and were desperately counting down the end of the excess family togetherness but also dreading another looming work day full of annoyances and insurmountable hurdles.”  Go over and give her a hug, and maybe add your own rant.  It feels good to get it out.

Lastly, Hope Floats Among the Cherry Blossoms has a post about a roll of wrapping paper that served as a trigger for her ex-husband’s infidelity.  She so beautifully reflects on where she has been: “My past felt so big and heavy.  I didn’t know what to do with it.”  It’s a post about the moments that continue to affect us long after they’re over.

The roundup to the Roundup: Drake’s words.  Truman update.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between July 1st and July 8th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

July 8, 2016   10 Comments

500th Anniversary Roundup Extravaganza

To celebrate 500 Friday Blog Roundups (yes, yes, yes, ignore the fact that we’re currently on the 601st Roundup since numbering got messed up at some point), I returned to the archives and yanked out posts from Roundups past — from the first, 100th, 200th, 300th, 400th, and 500th Roundups.  Or, as close enough as I could get to those dates.

It’s interesting to see the same themes pop up year after year — remember this goes back 10 years — as well as which bloggers are still writing.  I went with posts that are still up on the Internet, as well as my thoughts about the post at the time.

So enjoy looking back at 10 years of the ALI community.

From the first Roundup (and the first post I ever highlighted!):

First off, Dead Bug had a great post on Monday about Beginning Day, the transfer day for her daughter who she conceived on her second IVF. It’s the thin silver lining of IF–the ability to know the conception date of your child. Would I rather not know the date AND not have had to jab myself in my stomach with sub-cue needles? Sure. But I do love having the family holiday of Conception Day (which will, from now on, be known as Beginning Day–I love that).

From the 100th Roundup:

I think when you read this post by Bio Girl it will become incredibly clear why I loved it so much. I agree wholeheartedly with the whole post. And it’s an important thing to note: the cushions that exist all around you to fall against. Lucky indeed. I love our community.

From the 200th Roundup:

My Infertility Woes has a post about how she has returned (after a brief hiatus) to liking kids.  I love the distinction she makes as well as her ability to take care of herself and take the time she needs.  It is not an either/all situation–it is merely a response to the moment.

From the 300th Roundup:

Mrs. Spit has a post of wonders.  It is a heart-stopping post, to read what is traveling through her brain in that moment.  And I couldn’t do it justice to describe it.  You need to click over and read it in full.

From the 400th Roundup:

If You Don’t Stand for Something has a moving post marking the 5th year of trying to build her family.  She writes, “5 years.  It should get easier. Or more tolerable. Or you hope that you just become desensitized to it all.  Anything to help cope with it.  But instead, after five years, I still come home crying and breaking down.”  It’s a raw post that lays bare the reality of infertility.

From the 500th Roundup:

Um… like someone could write about Lord of the Rings and not have me mention it?  I love Inconceivable’s deconstruction of the ending of Return of the King and how that truth applies to our own personal walks through Mordor.  Grief changes us.  Stressful situations change us.  We can never go back and find things exactly the same.  Sometimes we need to keep fighting so our new future fits our needs.  It’s a gorgeous post.

Here’s to 500 more.  I would love it if you’d share a link to a Roundup post from the past that got under your skin.

July 1, 2016   8 Comments

601st Friday Blog Roundup

Truman is almost back to normal.  He is eating again, voraciously, which means he is pooping again, excessively.  He is back to his old tricks, like turning over his food dish (well, aren’t you a clever one!) and fighting water bottle (that old nemesis).  Though he seems to now be deaf.

I noticed he wasn’t responding to his name.  He’s usually pretty good about jumping up when you say his name or the word “cookie.”  I waited until he was asleep and then stood behind him clapping and shouting.  He didn’t wake up or flinch.  Which makes me think that he may be deaf.  I’m not sure they have actual hearing exams for rodents.

But his head tilt is gone (mostly), and he’s walking easily.  And did I mention eating?  If he were in charge of the world, there would be unlimited green beans.

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Thank you for all the kind words on my blogoversary.  Sometimes I think that I keep writing because I’m so terrible with change that it extends to all things.  Which means you are bound to still find me here 10 years down the line.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Empress and the Fool has a non-apology for her absence from her blog, a breath of fresh air — full of honesty — about her space.  I especially love this line: “Hello to you, sister-friends. I’m terribly sorry for your grief, as I know it all too well.”  I just really loved this post for its frankness.

My Path to Mommyhood has a post about including ultrasound pictures with an announcement.  She wonders if this was done prior to Facebook announcements, or if ultrasound pictures were — at one point — a private image for close family.  She admits that the reason the image is such a trigger is that “once I had a picture not too different from that one, and it was all I had to cling to when I sobbed and sobbed after the dream was lost too soon.”  The post made me think.

Lastly, as a fellow Googler, I loved The Road Less Travelled’s post about looking for her 8th grade teacher and learning he was gone.  It’s a really sweet post, eulogizing him in a way that she never got to do while he was alive.  It’s a cautionary tale of Googling, and having to be okay with whatever we find.

The roundup to the Roundup: Truman update.  Blogoversary thoughts.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between June 17th and June 24th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

June 24, 2016   13 Comments

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