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647th Friday Blog Roundup

So the coda to the concert post is that it was my first show standing on the floor and not having a mosh pit.  I’ve been to concerts where I’ve had a seat in the arena.  And I’ve been to concerts where there have been no seats but everyone has crammed either into a mosh pit in front of the stage or stood on the sidelines outside the mosh pit.  But I have never been to a show that had no seats AND no mosh pit.

Everyone just stood.

And by “stood,” I mean that they blocked my view by holding up their phone.  They didn’t dance because that would have resulted in a blurry picture.  The rest of us couldn’t dance because we might bump into the people broadcasting on their Facebook feed.  I don’t think I’ll ever go back to that concert hall because it made me really sad to watch the guy next to me carry on a three-hour-long text message conversation, only breaking to take pictures of Peter Garrett and post them on Twitter.

The music was great.  Peter Garrett’s dancing was great.  The few people we spoke to before the show began were great.  But the crowds who pushed their way to the front to block everyone who was there to listen to the music and dance?  That part made me really really cranky.

I’m getting old.

I whined on Twitter this week, #GetOffYourPhone is the new “get off my lawn.”  This is what happens when I can’t work out my feelings in the mosh pit.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

  • None… sniff.

Okay, now my choices this week.

Slaying, Blogging, Whatever is once again the voice of reason in regards to parents being up in arms about their child not doing a Mother’s Day/Father’s Day project at school.  She writes, “The schools are not there to make the kids do crafts for your gifts.  They are there to learn … The school is trying to teach a more important lesson about people in general and about having empathy and understanding about various cultures and families, etc.”  It’s a moving post about kids aging, written by someone who has a very different take on the concept of a Mother’s Day gift.

Anabegins has a post that resonated with me because I also don’t want to go anywhere.  I really love the idea of staying home, and we are also only going to nearby beaches and visiting family.  I don’t feel any impulse to explore at the moment, and the idea of really traveling makes me feel so tired and overwhelmed.  I mostly just want space to read.  Joining her in wanting simple right now.

Countingpinklines has a graphic breaking down her ectopic pregnancy.  Despite using pastel colours, it is still a sobering picture of loss.  Though, as she writes, “It made a ridiculously shitty experience into, not a positive experience, but at least an interesting one.”

Lastly, the OCD Infertile has a beautiful Mother’s Day post juxtaposing two balloon releases.  Years earlier, her niece was with her when she released balloons after a miscarriage.  This year, she helped her niece release balloons in memory of her mother.  This made me cry: “Who would have known all these years later we would stand there together, a child without a mother, a mother without a child, somehow both now having both sending their love to angels in Heaven that made us who we are.”

The roundup to the Roundup: Phones and concerts don’t mix.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between May 12th and 19th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

May 19, 2017   3 Comments

646th Friday Blog Roundup

I babysat for the same family for many years, and the little girl always said “fitch the lights” when she got into bed.  She was trying to say “pitch the lights,” like her parents (who were from South Africa), but it always came out as “fitch the lights.”  So for years, my friend and I would say, “fitch the lights!” whenever we wanted someone to turn them off.

I was recently reading a book and the word “fitch” popped up, and I decided to Google the girl (she became an OB/GYN) and then the term “fitch the lights.”  Of course nothing popped up.  But then I Googled “pitch the lights,” and nothing came up for that phrase, too.

Weird.

So I turned to Josh and said, “what does ‘pitch the lights’ mean?”  And he answered that it meant to turn them off.  Then I asked him to Google the phrase and we couldn’t find it.  And then I asked on Twitter and Facebook.  Most people said they would assume I meant to throw out the lights, but clearly that thought never crossed my mind.  The only thing I have ever thought since the first time the family said “pitch the lights” is to turn them off.

But if you Google it, this is likely the only place that phrase will show up.  Even though I’ve used that phrase for the last 20+ years, having learned it from this family.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

My Path to Mommyhood has a bittersweet post about the decision to stop the family building process.  They are not renewing their home study and will step away from adoption.  It is a post about making a hard decision and understanding that while it will hurt, it is also what is best and healthiest.  I love how it is framed as a birthday present to herself.  She writes: “But also, I feel that it is the right decision, despite the ways self-doubt creeps in via imaginary voices and arguments with people who might question our decision. Despite the fact that anyone who we have actually told has responded with nothing but compassion and empathy. As they should, quite frankly. This is a huge loss.”  Please also read her follow-up post.

No Kidding in NZ has a post about how changing where she is on Mother’s Day makes facing the day easier.  You don’t need to travel halfway around the world to test her idea.  Her point is that going about your normal day in your normal space means you’ll encounter exactly what you dread encountering.  Doing something completely different means the possibilities will change.

Surrender Dorothy has what is definitely the best duck-related story of the week but it’s really a post about finding signs when you need them.  And… we were celebrating Truman Day that day, which we’ve always claimed for our Truman.  So including that in the post — for me — went hand-in-hand with the ducklings as a sign that everything is going to be okay.

Lastly, as LTYM comes to a close, I wanted to highlight a gorgeous LTYM post by Family Building with a Twist.  She writes, “On quiet news days, I want to exhale and think that it will all be OK.  Maybe we’re just hyper aware of everything in 2017 thanks to social media and the Internet.  On other days, I feel like that poor guy in Munch’s painting, screaming into the void.”  She puts into words what a lot of us have been feeling while processing the news every day.

The roundup to the Roundup: Pitch the lights!  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between May 5th and 12th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

May 12, 2017   4 Comments

645th Friday Blog Roundup

The bathroom renovation continues.  In some ways it feels like it will never end.  I know that isn’t possible; one day the guys will have to pack up their drop cloths and leave.  But right now, I cannot imagine a day when someone doesn’t show up at my house at 8 am and start hammering.

We are at the point where I know their coffee preferences and start pouring the cup before they’ve gotten out of the truck.

Being around people all day makes me tired.  Even when they’re upstairs and I’m downstairs, I am on alert, ready to answer questions or give an opinion.  I am accustomed to being by myself since my only in-office co-worker is Linus.  Every night after they leave, my nervous system feels inflamed from all the togetherness and noise.

One day we will have a functional bathroom again.  Right?

*******

Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Look No Tubes has a post about romance and IVF after reading a quote in a tabloid.  She explains: “A couple who are having their second child naturally after a first IVF baby have claimed that IVF is ‘just as romantic’. Really.”  She has her own list of what makes IVF unromantic, but I’m sure people could find plenty to add.

Mojo Working is back with an update and a sad post.  She writes, “It’s tempting to just walk away from this blog without an update, to leave my happy ending intact for those who may stumble upon this later. But it would be disingenuous at best. Because my happy ending at the birth of my second child didn’t signal a happily ever after, not in any sense.”  I know people will want to circle the wagons if her post didn’t pop up in your feed reader.

I really love how Res Cogitatae breaks down what is working and not working in her life right now.  Mostly because of the matter-of-factness about it; whether something is or is not working isn’t the focus.  It’s more that there are these various pieces of life that are all fitting together or bumping into one another.  It makes failings feel less like failings (and winnings feel less like winnings) and more just facts.  Great way to look at your month.

Lastly, ending on another sad post.  Kmina has a beautiful post about grieving her father who recently died.  It begins: “Years and years ago I had this silly (but otherwise strong) opinion that important things that happened to a person were visible to the other if only the others had paid attention.”  Meaning, that even when we don’t tell people what is happening in our life, they should be able to know what is going on because those moments are too large to be contained inside the person.  Those feelings come out through our pores.  Except, of course, they don’t know.  The line that gutted me: “No one knows how it is to be me missing my daddy. They know how it feels to miss their own dad.”  Go over and read the whole thing.

The roundup to the Roundup: The never-ending bathroom renovation.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between April 28th and May 5th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

May 5, 2017   4 Comments

644th Friday Blog Roundup

Josh and I decided (well, really, I decided and told Josh) that we were going to become members of Mason Jar Nation.  We were going to Pinterest-up our breakfast and lunch within an inch of its life and eat everything out of glass containers.  When we first proposed it to the kids, they mocked the idea.  But the ChickieNob has since switched sides and joined Mason Jar Nation (which is like Tiny House Nation, except with lunch in a jar), leaving her brother alone in Sandwichland.

Every week, we decide on a single salad and then make dozens of copies in the mason jars.  In the morning, you just grab a jar and go.  The whole meal is inside the jar, like this:

Salad (from bottom to top): peanut dressing, edamame, noodles, red and yellow pepper, cucumbers, and crunchy noodles

When you’re ready to eat, you just mix it all up.  Nothing gets soggy because the dressing is at the bottom and a nonabsorbent protein is layered on top of the dressing.

We also make refrigerator oats, but those are gross-looking while delicious-tasting, so no pictures.

Even more joyful is making up songs about being part of Mason Jar Nation and singing them to Linus.  He cannot become a member because his head would likely get trapped in the jar, but we involve him by giving him bits of vegetables while we chop.

Year of the mason jar.  Best meal plan ever.

*******

Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Road Less Travelled has a post about the “he needs a cousin (brother, sister, etc)!” chant with a twist: People are talking about a dog.  But the post calls into question why we say these things, and how it sounds to the person on the receiving end.  She writes, “‘Now where have I heard THIS before?’  I thought, rolling my eyes and biting my cybertongue before typing out a light-hearted response along the lines that Puppy seems to be enjoying having all the attention to himself, thankyouverymuch.”  I think I like Cristy’s comment best: “It’s always interesting how fast others are to saddle someone with responsibility.”

It is NIAW this week, and I’ve seen many fewer posts than in past years.  Infertilityhonesty has been doing a series all week.  In one, she writes about eight ways you can support a person with infertility.  A great post to share as a link on social media, hint hint hint.

Lastly, Bent Not Broken has a post about the grief she feels this spring in particular, a time when she imagined she would be ensconced in soccer season, not missing children who aren’t here.  It’s a beautiful, brief post.

The roundup to the Roundup: Mason jar lunches.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between April 21st and 28th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

April 28, 2017   6 Comments

643rd Friday Blog Roundup

We signed up for Hulu for Buffy the Vampire Slayer.  The show went off Netflix, and we went through several days of the ChickieNob’s mourning before we gave in and said she could visit her vampire-stabbing gang on Hulu for two months.

This was before I discovered they would be releasing The Handmaid’s Tale over the course of 10 weeks.  (I mean, if we have Hulu, I might as well use it, too, right?)  So… maybe she can visit Buffy for three months?

I am so excited to see this.

It’s one of my favourite books; one I carry with me at all times.  I didn’t love the movie they made in the early 90s, but it looks like Hulu nailed it.  At least on the surface.  I guess we’ll know more next Wednesday.

Who else is watching next week?

*******

Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

*******

And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Torthúil has a post about emotional sinkholes, those moments where you suddenly don’t feel like your whole self or know what you really believe.  She explains, “I’m going about my day, doing things I ordinarily do, and it suddenly feels like… a piece of my identity, my self, isn’t there. I feel vaguely like a liar, when I try to talk about myself to someone, because I don’t know if what I’m saying is true.”  It’s such an interesting way of explaining the phenomenon.  Go over and read the whole post.

Countingpinklines wonders why it’s easy to play with some babies and others push her to the brink of tears.  Is it tied to where she is in her process?  The difficulty the person had in building their family?  Older vs. younger kids?  It’s a familiar situation; one I think will resonate with a lot of people.

Raven Rambling has a post about how she thought life would look at 30 vs. actuality.  She writes, “I am trying to focus on saying good bye to things I am not, and focusing on the things that I am. If any of those things from the ‘not’ side are able to come over to the ‘am’ side, then I’ll be happy as a peach – but right now, they’re not on the am side and I need to make peace with that.”  Yes to all of this, a thousand times over.  Brilliant post.

Lastly, Ms. Infertile has a post about being in a chronic state of adjustment.  The perfect line: “And you wish someone would ask you how you’re doing and mean it.”  It is a beautiful and moving post.  Read it.

The roundup to the Roundup: Handmaid’s Tale!  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between April 14th and 21st) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

April 21, 2017   10 Comments

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