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601st Friday Blog Roundup

Truman is almost back to normal.  He is eating again, voraciously, which means he is pooping again, excessively.  He is back to his old tricks, like turning over his food dish (well, aren’t you a clever one!) and fighting water bottle (that old nemesis).  Though he seems to now be deaf.

I noticed he wasn’t responding to his name.  He’s usually pretty good about jumping up when you say his name or the word “cookie.”  I waited until he was asleep and then stood behind him clapping and shouting.  He didn’t wake up or flinch.  Which makes me think that he may be deaf.  I’m not sure they have actual hearing exams for rodents.

But his head tilt is gone (mostly), and he’s walking easily.  And did I mention eating?  If he were in charge of the world, there would be unlimited green beans.

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Thank you for all the kind words on my blogoversary.  Sometimes I think that I keep writing because I’m so terrible with change that it extends to all things.  Which means you are bound to still find me here 10 years down the line.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Empress and the Fool has a non-apology for her absence from her blog, a breath of fresh air — full of honesty — about her space.  I especially love this line: “Hello to you, sister-friends. I’m terribly sorry for your grief, as I know it all too well.”  I just really loved this post for its frankness.

My Path to Mommyhood has a post about including ultrasound pictures with an announcement.  She wonders if this was done prior to Facebook announcements, or if ultrasound pictures were — at one point — a private image for close family.  She admits that the reason the image is such a trigger is that “once I had a picture not too different from that one, and it was all I had to cling to when I sobbed and sobbed after the dream was lost too soon.”  The post made me think.

Lastly, as a fellow Googler, I loved The Road Less Travelled’s post about looking for her 8th grade teacher and learning he was gone.  It’s a really sweet post, eulogizing him in a way that she never got to do while he was alive.  It’s a cautionary tale of Googling, and having to be okay with whatever we find.

The roundup to the Roundup: Truman update.  Blogoversary thoughts.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between June 17th and June 24th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

June 24, 2016   11 Comments

600th Friday Blog Roundup

This is the 600th Friday Blog Roundup… which means it’s really the 500th one.  At some point they got misnumbered, and blah blah blah.  But it makes sense.  The blog will be 10 years old soon.  I started doing this a few weeks after I started the blog.  520 weeks in 10 years.  By the time we reach the anniversary for the Roundup, there will be 510 or so Roundups.  Which means there has only been maybe one week per year where I don’t do this.

That is a lot of posts read.  A lot of posts discussed.  Just… a lot of posts.

I’ve said this before, but it’s worth repeating.  This is how I choose the posts for the Roundup each week.  I read.  I read a lot and sometimes I bookmark things that stick with me.  And then on Thursday night or Friday morning, I look at all the bookmarked posts and I choose a few to talk about.  I’ve never accepted a request because… that makes it feel like work.  And it’s not work.  It’s just the words that reached into my brain and stuck with me after I walked away from the computer.

Sometimes they’re not the most profound posts.  Sometimes they just capture an everyday moment so well that it feels worth asking if it resonated with everyone else.  But sometimes they’re verbal symphonies.

I know some people think blogging is in a lull, but I still find little gems every week.  You just have to be willing to look.  You have to be willing to jump from comment section to comment section to find new blogs.  You need to step away from the spoon-feeding of links on social media and dive back into blogs themselves, waiting for a great post to rise up.  It’s sort of like fishing in that sense.

Thank you for providing so many fish over the years.

Here’s to the next 500.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Um… like someone could write about Lord of the Rings and not have me mention it?  I love Inconceivable’s deconstruction of the ending of Return of the King and how that truth applies to our own personal walks through Mordor.  Grief changes us.  Stressful situations change us.  We can never go back and find things exactly the same.  Sometimes we need to keep fighting so our new future fits our needs.  It’s a gorgeous post.

Grumpy Rumblings has a damn good analogy for finding balance in life.  The post is brief and to the point, so I won’t say much more than that and ruin it.

Kmina’s Blog just celebrated its 7th anniversary, and she muses on the state of the world today as well as a hope for next year.  Again, just a lovely post that is so brief that it would be ruined by more description.  Just click over and read it.

River Run Dry has a gorgeous piece about the shooting in Orlando, her words shaking with rage.  She writes, “Our right to bear arms means our country allows anyone to by an assault weapon, without background checks. It means the CDC can’t even research the causes of gun violence.  And our right to bear arms means that more mothers will sit there, trapped, unable to protect their children.”  It is a must-read for anyone who is shaking with rage over gun violence.

Lastly, Pages, Stages, and Rages has a post about Renee Elise Goldsberry’s speech at the Tony’s announcing her family building struggles to the world.  It was such a profoundly moving moment, and I bawled when I watched it.  Sometimes you just need to see a reflection of your experience inside the greater whole.  Thank you, Renee Elise Goldsberry.

The roundup to the Roundup: The 500th/600th Roundup.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between June 10th and June 17th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

June 17, 2016   12 Comments

599th Friday Blog Roundup

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You may think that the next Roundup is the 600th one, and I get why you may think that. I mean, you know, 600 usually follows 599. But years ago, the Roundups got misnumbered by 100, and it took another year or two before anyone noticed. So the next Roundup is actually the 500th Roundup, which feels more like a milestone number, nu?

I’ve come up with something properly celebratory that I think you’ll enjoy, and I’ve scheduled it for July 1st. Why July 1st? Because (1) I wanted to actually write a normal Roundup for the 500th one, (2) my blogoversary is coming up at the end of June, and (3) the anniversary for the Roundup is coming up in the beginning of July. So mash all those facts together, and I set it for July 1st.

Hope you enjoy it…

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Last chance.  This is it.  On sale a few more days.  Life from Scratch has been chosen for an Amazon promotion.  It’s currently only 99 cents — a fraction of a cup of coffee.  So… pick up a copy for yourself or gift to a friend and get your beach reading set?

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

  • None.  There were no second helpings last week.  Sniff.

Okay, now my choices this week.

Twangypearl the Elastic Girl has an update about parenting after adoption, and getting used to a new normal.  She muses, “Maybe we’re programmed to forget when we have to, so we can be preoccupied by new things? Maybe information that is no longer relevant for your survival is fogged over.”  I especially loved the image she included with the post.

Empty Arms, Broken Heart has a post about being a mum to a 16-year-old boy through adoption.  People assume that she must have been a teenage mother to have a child this old, and she unpacks how she feels about that assumption as well as wonder what to say.  It’s an interesting look at how our brain always goes toward default settings, despite our rational understanding that there are a multitude of ways of building a family.

Lastly, The Road Less Travelled has a beautiful post about how her daughter, Katie, should be about to move off into the world.  Through the years, she has always been able to picture what her daughter would have been doing at each age.  But now, the memory of her daughter moves into an unknown world.  It’s a bittersweet post about how we are always tethered to the living, and how, like all parents, even those who are grieving those who aren’t here, need to release their children to find their own path.  It’s really a gorgeous post.

The roundup to the Roundup: Celebrating the 500th Roundup milestone on July 1st.  Life from Scratch is on sale.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between June 3rd and June 10th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

Update:

Since you asked, the Truman update.  He started wheezing again yesterday morning, so the vet decided to put back in the first medication, since that was clearing up his respiratory problems before we stopped it to take the new antibiotic.  So now he is on two antibiotics, water via syringe, and critical care, a meal supplement.  His breathing is getting better this morning.  And he’s still eating while on the second antibiotic, which is good.  He’s also nudging my hand for a backrub while he eats his critical care, which is also classic Truman. (Why just eat a meal when you can combine a meal AND a massage?)

June 10, 2016   14 Comments

598th Friday Blog Roundup

Thank you for the birthday wishes.  My birthday, for the most part, was wonderful.  I got woken up with cards, cashed in a massage gift card I’ve held onto for 10 years, and picked up my free Starbucks drink.

And then Truman started acting weird.

He had actually been acting weird for about two days.  He was very quiet.  He would eat if I brought him food, but he wouldn’t wheek for food when I opened the refrigerator.  He wasn’t responding to his name.  He wasn’t greeting me with squeaks in the morning.

In the afternoon, he started to wheeze, so we called the vet.  She was heading out of town and trying to finish up appointments, but she told me to bring him over immediately.  He has an upper respiratory infection that we caught early, and I think he also has an ear infection.  We currently have him on antibiotics, so he’ll hopefully be better soon.

But I’m really scared this time.  I don’t like the way he is tilting his head and hobbling around.  This is what Cozy did right before he died.  Granted, Truman clearly has an infection and mucous in his nose and ears, and Cozy had a brain tumour and his eyes were popping out.  But it’s hard to watch him stumbling as he walks and trust that all will be fine in a few weeks.

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Life from Scratch has been chosen for an Amazon promotion.  It’s currently only 99 cents — a fraction of a cup of coffee.  So… pick up a copy for yourself or gift to a friend and get your beach reading set?

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Empty Cookie has a fantastic post about the recent Captain America controversy.  Not exactly infertility-related, but I loved this post because she sums up so well the problem with dismissing history (or, really, pretending that origin stories aren’t important in the present time period).  Captain America, like many comic superheroes, was created by Jewish writers using art to respond to anti-Semitism.  Comic books have always been a home for power fantasies, where the disenfranchised could fight back.  To make Captain America part of Hydra shows a lack of understanding on the part of current writers as well as a complete insensitivity to the current rise in anti-Semitism.  She writes, “It’s piss poor writing from someone who obviously needs to check his privilege. It’s gross and dishonoring to the people who created him and the millions of people murdered by Nazis.”  It’s something we talk about often in this community — do you always keep the origin story front and center in your mind, or do you rewrite family building history and pretend the current situation is the only situation?  And what do we lose when we sweep history under the rug, and how does it affect the people around us?

A Half Baked Life also has a non-infertility-related post that I think has a powerful message that also ties into our community and the greater world.  She writes about the shooting at UCLA, both as a former UCLA student and as a current administrator on a college campus.  She asks such an important question: “With all of our social media voyeurism and instantaneous sharing of news, why do we do so much ‘looking out,’ instead of looking out for each other, from the moment we understand what empathy means?

Lastly, Bent Not Broken has a post about the move and her new home, and I love the idea of fresh starts.  She writes, “This house will be a house for healing.  This house will be a house for us to grow, not in number, but in love.  This will be the house where we put infertility behind us.”  I love that so much.

The roundup to the Roundup: Truman is sick again.  Life from Scratch is on sale.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between May 27th and June 3rd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

June 3, 2016   9 Comments

597th Friday Blog Roundup

The case of the totally weird receipt that ended up in my mailbox.

I opened my mailbox to collect the mail.  The receipt below was inside, tucked in with the letters.  53 cents taped onto a receipt from the post office.

receipt

We’ve been trying to figure out why this was left with our mail.  The Wolvog believes that when I purchased a stamp last week, I walked away without collecting my change.  Which I know isn’t true because I remember placing the quarters in my purse and thinking that I should transfer them to the separate coin purse that I use for paying parking meters.

But isn’t that odd?  Chasing me down to give me back 53 cents?  Thank you, post office.  You guys often go above and beyond, but this really is the pinnacle of good (and intriguing) customer service.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Something Out of Nothing writes about trying treatments again to have another child.  She worries, “This time, it doesn’t just affect Hubby and me. There’s a two-year-old girl whose life could be turned upside down for anywhere from a few months to the next eighty-or-so years while we figure out whether or not she’ll be granted a sibling.”  It is a great post about facing fears and moving ahead.

Silent Sorority has a post about meeting up with other bloggers.  I love the title: “The Exhilaration of Acceptance.”  Isn’t that exactly what it feels like when you find your group online?  She writes, “It doesn’t need to be a grand gesture. In fact, it’s the gentle gesture that often leaves the largest impact. A friendly smile, a nod of the head, an extended hand or kind word can change someone’s day. It can also change someone’s life.”  Finding that connection online has changed so many people’s worlds, and I love that she is getting to come face-to-face with the people who changed hers.

Evil Mom has a post about not knowing where life will take you, and how certain things circle back into your life in unexpected ways.  I guess posts like this give me hope that the things that I think have floated away indefinitely will possibly come back one day, albeit in a different form.  I especially love this: “Life is weird. Weird isn’t bad, it’s just unexpected.”

Lastly, In Quest of a Binky Moongee has a post about her mother making other people baby clothes.  She doesn’t necessarily want to see all the beautiful things her mother is making for other people, but her mother doesn’t understand her point-of-view.  So she keeps peeking at the sweaters.  I love the end of the post, the hope looking forward to the day her mother begins knitting for her child.

The roundup to the Roundup: The case of the odd change.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between May 20th and 27th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

May 27, 2016   12 Comments

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