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635th Friday Blog Roundup

I bought myself Jackie so I could show it to the kids.  I really can’t put into words how much I loved this movie.  I cried through the whole thing, and I knew I wanted to own it the moment it came out on video.  Moreover, I wanted it as a digital copy so I could carry it with me wherever I went.

Some of it is the writing and the acting, but a lot of it is the space.  The West Wing gets some of the layout of the White House very wrong, and it annoys me whenever they walk through a door that doesn’t exist.  But this movie not only got the layout correct, but it makes me feel like I’m there.  Yes, we could watch a documentary on the White House and it would have the same effect, but this feels… different.  More emotional.

So I’m now carrying around Jackie in my pocket.  And four Harry Potter movies.  Because… you know… Potter.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Riding the IVF Roller Coaster has a post that makes a great point: there is no formal declaration of best friendship in the way that you clearly know where you stand when it comes to marriage.  This means that I can consider someone my best friend, but maybe I’m not their best friend.  She writes: “However, why aren’t there rules about this? What about a ceremony to acknowledge who the best friend couples are? Why aren’t there rules to say if X is Y’s best friend, then it must be mutual and Y must be X’s best friend. I feel like a teenager who doesn’t know if she should refer to someone as her girlfriend.”  A really great question.

Bent Not Broken recalls a painful moment of someone springing an ultrasound video on her.  She thought she was going to get puppies doing cute tricks.  Instead she saw a baby wiggling around on the screen.  It’s a great post of how one person’s pleasure can be another person’s pain, and a good reminder to tread carefully, thinking through things before you click send or call someone over to see the “cutest thing ever.”

Anabegins has a post viewing your life in monthly (vs. daily) chunks.  She explains, “This past week I haven’t read or spent one on one time with anyone in my family. I may think I’m failing at my explicitly stated goals. But take a step back and look wider and the perspective is much different — this MONTH I’ve mediated 90% of days, had 3 one-on-one dates with each kid AND my husband, read 2 amazing books, and exercised 12 times.”  It’s a great reminder of looking at life goals in different ways to see the real story.

Lastly, No Baby Ruth is pregnant before IVF round 2, and I love her post because it captures the ups and downs of an early pregnancy.  Clearly someone out there has the early pregnancy experience that involves marveling over a positive pee stick and then running down the beach with the wind blowing in her hair and then happily shopping for baby clothes at six weeks (in other words, every pregnancy montage in a made-for-tv movie), but I do not know these people.  Pregnancy after infertility is hard, and because you know things so early, you go through the ups and downs of fear and reassurance.  Sending her good thoughts for smooth sailing from here on out.

The roundup to the Roundup: I now have Jackie in my hot little hands.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between February 17th and February 24th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

February 24, 2017   4 Comments

634th Friday Blog Roundup

I got really excited and then really unexcited in a cycle lasting about five minutes when I heard about Peanut, the new app that is called Tinder for Friends.  You want new friendships?  Swipe right (or left?  I’m sorry, I’ve never seen Tinder so I don’t know which direction you DO want to go.  So put the correct direction in this sentence) if you want to meet this person to hang out.

Which is brilliant because it can be very difficult to make new friends once you get older.  I work out of the house, so it’s not like I’m meeting new co-workers.  I’ve become friends with some of the parents of the twins’ friends.  And I’ve met some people through activities.  But… yeah… it’s really hard, especially when people move or drift away because they get busy.

But when I went to download it, I saw that the description stated: “Peanut shows you like-minded mamas near you, and makes it easy to meet.  We’re on a mission to build a community of women who happen to be mamas.”

Well, first and foremost, “mama” is a term I use for my guinea pig — Hebrew for “what-what,” which is what I call him when he is wheeking his head off for no reason other than to let me know that he is thrilled to be alive.  Secondly, I do want to meet other women, but I don’t really care if they are parenting a child.  I like having conversations about other things than kids.  Thirdly, you need to sign up via Facebook and it pulls in your information from that site.  Big security no-no.  Fourthly, this sentence from The Stir’s review, which I found when I started poking around for information, sums it all up for me: “After that, I was instructed to choose three options from a bunch of different ‘mom-centric’ labels to describe myself.”  Um, try none of the above.

So totally disappointed and not downloading it at all.  But if someone wants to make an actual Tinder for Friends, I am totally there and will be your first tester.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

IF Pomegranate has a post about her sister’s pregnancy.  It is bittersweet news.  On one hand, she clearly benefits and gets to be an aunt.  On the other… well… I think you all understand the other.  This one line sums it all up: “I guess my feelings are more like FOMO – Fear of Missing Out. That’s how I feel. I feel FOMO. But it isn’t a fear. It is real. I am missing out: MO.”  It’s about being happy for someone else while being sad for yourself at the very same time.

Raven Rambling has a post about how her experience with Valentine’s Day is keeping her feelings about other holidays in check.  Once upon a time, it was a difficult holiday for her and then she met her husband.  She writes, “Just like that, Valentine’s Day was good again! I had my Valentine, and so February 14th could come and go without causing me any pain. Valentine’s Day was redeemed!”  She keeps this in mind when she is struggling now with other holidays; that it won’t always feel like this.

Lastly, The Maybe Baby (Babies) is back with a post about life now in the Trump era.  Even as a white woman traveling within US borders, she feels anxious being away from home.  What if she can’t get back to her family?  Things keep changing so rapidly, how does she know when she leaves home that the rules will still be the same when she tries to return?  And yes, infertility comes into play: “For a few moments, my anxiety gets replaced by rage. We’ve worked too hard to be a family to let this fucker fuck it up.”

The roundup to the Roundup: No Peanut for me.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between February 10th and February 17th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

February 17, 2017   13 Comments

633rd Friday Blog Roundup

Linus has been in our family for about two weeks now.  He has settled in nicely, and isn’t shy about his likes (kale, shredded carrots, romaine lettuce) and dislikes (carrot chunks, sugar snap peas, apple).  He is mad for barley cookies, enjoys rolling around in his hay bowl (eating is a full body experience), and will nibble his dry food.

He wheeks nonstop when the twins come home from school.  He gets himself worked up, frantically jumping until they pick him up.  He wants to be held pretty much 24/7.  He’s happy enough to sit in my lap while I work, but he prefers for one of my hands to be stroking his back.

I love this pig so much.

I miss Truman, but it is nice to have a pig to cuddle while I miss him.  It helps that his personality is so different from Truman’s personality and that the two pigs look nothing alike.  Look at that little piggy face:

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Has anyone ever tried (or know someone who tried) NaProTECHNOLOGY?  That’s their capitalization… not mine, just in case you thought I was shouting that last bit at you through the screen.  I was speaking with a journalist who is looking to connect with anyone who tried it.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Grumpy Rumblings has an interesting post about whether you should go broad or deep when it comes to activism.  Is it better to spread yourself out over many issues, or to focus all of your energy on a single issue?  There’s a benefit and drawback to each approach, and the comment section is just as interesting as the post itself.

ANDMom has a moving post about feeling overwhelmed.  She writes, “I’m empty, and I don’t know exactly how one goes about filling back up again – and even if I did, I’m not sure I have it in me to try.”  It’s a gorgeous post about how even once things get better, it can be difficult to return to filling yourself when the care has flowed out towards others for so long.

Lastly, My Path to Mommyhood has a post about an offensive text from another person who states that she feels like she needs to tiptoe around them due to their infertility.  She writes, “And now apparently all we’ve done is make her feel like shit for her life and her job and she has had to tiptoe around us, and she basically equated scrolling past an offensive political post to SCROLLING PAST OUR PERSONAL TRAGEDY.”  Being kind is not that difficult.  Following someone’s lead to the best of your ability doesn’t remove your happiness.  I do not buy the argument that being sensitive towards another person is a hardship.

The roundup to the Roundup: Linus is settling in.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between February 3rd and February 10th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

February 10, 2017   8 Comments

632nd Friday Blog Roundup

Linus and I have been having a good time curling up on the sofa and reading the Washington Post.  He likes to face the iPad screen as if he is reading, too.  He’s just a really smart pig.

Reading the Washington Post is the way I’m going to quiet down the noise online.  I decided this week that I am only going to get my news from five sources: Washington Post, New York Times (less so, since I only have a certain number of free articles per month), NPR, BBC, and CNN (more news than commentator opinion).

If something is actually news, it will show up in one of those five sources above.  Not every story will hit all five spaces, but important information will hit one of those five spaces.  And if it doesn’t appear in any of those five spaces, I’m going to mark it down as somewhere between not true and too soon to tell.

The rest of my time online, I’m reading personal stories or emotional reactions to the news.  In other words, I’m reading your blogs.  I don’t mind reading about current events in a space where I already connect with the writer; in fact, I enjoy that.  But the constant barrage of opinion pieces of Medium and Huffington Post, not to mention the countless memes and tweets, have me burned out.  As I said earlier this week, it’s like one, on-going scream.  And I need things to be a little quieter if I want to think.

Where are you getting your news?

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

  • None… sniff.

Okay, now my choices this week.

In Search of Motherhood has a post about making a hard choice.  She turns down an academic position despite wanting it badly due to how much it will take her away from her kids: “But it is so incredibly frustrating.  I am forced to choose between a satisfying professional life and dedicating time to my children.  It shouldn’t have to be this way.”  It shouldn’t, and that’s a fight worth having: making the workplace a healthy part of a life vs. the workplace overshadowing a life.  Everyone needs a work-life balance, whether parenting or not.

Riding the IVF Roller Coaster has a post about immigration that contains an important reminder getting lost in the global conversation: “I think that people forget that people don’t want to NEED to leave home. They were proud not of what it had become but of its heart. They were proud of their language; my friend tried taught me some Vietnamese because I was interested. They were proud of their food and shared it with me. They had a large flag in the dining room. They also felt an obligation to the country that took them in.”  It is hard enough to leave what you know.  It is harder still to feel unwelcome where you land.

Lastly, Pages, Stages, and Rages has a post about how Broadway songs are keeping her sane.  She admits: “I then thought of what I used to do when I was uncomfortable and I thought of Man of La Mancha. Got the CD and listened to it. And today, today, it is helping me go on. Helping me say that I can follow the quest. No matter how hopeless, no matter how far.”  I love this, from one musical theater geek to another.

The roundup to the Roundup: Where I’m getting my news.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 27th and February 3rd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

February 3, 2017   7 Comments

631st Friday Blog Roundup

I’m going to find out tomorrow if we get to bring home the baby guinea pig or not.  I checked in with the woman mid-week, and she promised to send me a message the moment she heard from the other person.  So you’ll either get a picture of a really cute guinea pig on Sunday, or you’ll get a weepy post from me about how we didn’t bring home said guinea pig.  Either way, at least I’ll know in a few days.

I bought a new carrier, feeling hopeful.  We’ll use it at some point, and it’s better to be ready than scrambling.  We have a Plan B and C and D in case this particular pig doesn’t work out.

I’m getting all my guinea pig names lined up.  ChickieNob named Cozy.  Josh mostly named Truman.  I have already been told that while the first name I’m offering up will be under consideration, the middle name I paired with it is off the table because it’s “awful.” (No, it’s not, ChickieNob.)  We’ll see.  I plan to fight hard for naming rights.

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The house has been very quiet without Truman.  It is weird to chop vegetables and not hear him begging for a few pieces of carrot.  It is weird to leave the house and not say goodbye to him.  It is weird to enter the house and not call out hello.

We talk about him as if he is still here.

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Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Bent Not Broken has a post about privilege, recognizing your own, and the recent marches.  She writes: “I know what it is like to struggle every single day.  I vow never to forget this.  I also know privilege. I vow to not use my position of privilege to judge others, and instead to use my voice to advocate for them.”  I got chills reading down her refrain of “The march was important to me.”

A+ Effort has an eye-opening list on her blog about representation — from the first female senator to the first Native American Supreme Court Justice.  If you’re wondering about that last one, click over to read the whole list.

Anabegins has a sweet post about belonging.  Okay, so it’s also about not belonging, but the sweet part comes near the end when she talks about three fictional fish.  “The other day I was telling him one in which the 3 were hanging out together on a holiday. He looked up at me and said, ‘I wish I had friends like that, that I could see everyday, and do things with,’ and I said, ‘I know buddy, it seems like it’d be really cool, huh’.”  It’s about the difference between having friends and being part of a group.

Lastly, A Half Baked Life also has thoughts on the women’s march.  It was inspiring, but there were also things she noticed that stuck with her long after she got home.  “The march was an unprecedented crowd of people with no arrests, kindness and civility.  It was incredibly diverse, but it was largely white. Imagine what would have happened if that many Black women showed up in one space?  The police would have come in riot gear, not in yellow vests.”  She verbalizes the things that gave her pause as well as the things that lifted her up.  It’s a great, well-rounded post about her experience.

The roundup to the Roundup: Update about the new guinea pig coming Sunday.  I miss Truman.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 20th and January 27th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.

January 27, 2017   3 Comments

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