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645th Friday Blog Roundup

The bathroom renovation continues.  In some ways it feels like it will never end.  I know that isn’t possible; one day the guys will have to pack up their drop cloths and leave.  But right now, I cannot imagine a day when someone doesn’t show up at my house at 8 am and start hammering.

We are at the point where I know their coffee preferences and start pouring the cup before they’ve gotten out of the truck.

Being around people all day makes me tired.  Even when they’re upstairs and I’m downstairs, I am on alert, ready to answer questions or give an opinion.  I am accustomed to being by myself since my only in-office co-worker is Linus.  Every night after they leave, my nervous system feels inflamed from all the togetherness and noise.

One day we will have a functional bathroom again.  Right?


Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.


And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Look No Tubes has a post about romance and IVF after reading a quote in a tabloid.  She explains: “A couple who are having their second child naturally after a first IVF baby have claimed that IVF is ‘just as romantic’. Really.”  She has her own list of what makes IVF unromantic, but I’m sure people could find plenty to add.

Mojo Working is back with an update and a sad post.  She writes, “It’s tempting to just walk away from this blog without an update, to leave my happy ending intact for those who may stumble upon this later. But it would be disingenuous at best. Because my happy ending at the birth of my second child didn’t signal a happily ever after, not in any sense.”  I know people will want to circle the wagons if her post didn’t pop up in your feed reader.

I really love how Res Cogitatae breaks down what is working and not working in her life right now.  Mostly because of the matter-of-factness about it; whether something is or is not working isn’t the focus.  It’s more that there are these various pieces of life that are all fitting together or bumping into one another.  It makes failings feel less like failings (and winnings feel less like winnings) and more just facts.  Great way to look at your month.

Lastly, ending on another sad post.  Kmina has a beautiful post about grieving her father who recently died.  It begins: “Years and years ago I had this silly (but otherwise strong) opinion that important things that happened to a person were visible to the other if only the others had paid attention.”  Meaning, that even when we don’t tell people what is happening in our life, they should be able to know what is going on because those moments are too large to be contained inside the person.  Those feelings come out through our pores.  Except, of course, they don’t know.  The line that gutted me: “No one knows how it is to be me missing my daddy. They know how it feels to miss their own dad.”  Go over and read the whole thing.

The roundup to the Roundup: The never-ending bathroom renovation.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between April 28th and May 5th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.


1 Turia { 05.05.17 at 10:29 am }

Thank you for the shout out! I have to admit when I started the post I was feeling really overwhelmed, but by the time I finished it a couple of days later I realised on balance I was doing ok. Sometimes I find it helps just to write it all down.

2 Raven { 05.05.17 at 10:33 am }

Ugh I feel like that when I get home from work every day – drained and spent from all the people-ness. My husband works a mostly solitary job, so he is always chatty when he gets home whereas I just want quiet – it’s an awkward combo!

I don’t know if you’ve followed this blog before…but this post stuck with me. I have been following it since they brought Lexi home, and it was so heartbreaking to learn that after everything little Ivy has been through – she is no longer here with us…and she left while her mom was in China adopting her little sister. So sad.


3 Lori Lavender Luz { 05.05.17 at 9:03 pm }

Ugh. I feel for you. I hope you get your space and your calm back soon.

4 TasIVFer { 05.08.17 at 9:28 pm }

One day you will have your bathroom finished. One day there won’t be people in your space.

I feel on edge whenever we have tradies in the house. It’s not them – it’s me. And when we got back from our trip on Friday, the dogsitters were still staying until Sunday afternoon. They’re really wonderful, intersting people who I should feel glad to have spent some time with – but honestly I already felt exhausted and hated not being able to reenergise over the weekend by isolating myself at home. Oh well. I’ll get there.

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