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#Microblog Mondays 109: Goodbyes

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Today is my last day at job, and I am the last person on the editorial team.  It’s been a little like the Martian for the last few weeks.  I’m just planting potatoes by myself, and it’s a little lonely.

I love the site so much, and I feel lucky that I got closure and featured great content right up to the end.  Before you ask, I have no clue what will happen to the site after this point, but I believe it will continue as informational support for the conference.  Anyway, if we worked there together, thank you.  I love working with writers, talking about writing, and learning something new every single day on the job.

I don’t want to talk about my next step right now; I want to say goodbye to a place that meant a lot to me.  I think we’re conditioned to always look ahead, but I really need to look behind for a moment as I gently close the door.  I am really proud of the work I did over there — that we all did over there.  I will always be grateful to Denise for bringing me onto the team.  I still have the original email from 2007 inviting me to work there.  Denise, it was everything you promised in that original exchange.

I’m not good with goodbyes, especially to inanimate entities like websites.  But I feel like I need to say goodbye to this one.


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1. Just Heather 12. An@mi – Small Steps Everyday.. 23. Stephanie (Travelcraft Journal)
2. Karen (River Run Dry) 13. Isabelle 24. Virginia
3. Wendy English 14. Unpregnant Chicken 25. Loribeth (The Road Less Travelled)
4. 7 Things I’m Doing To Be Mindful 15. Empty Arms, Broken Heart 26. Jess
5. Middle Girl 16. Who Shot Down My Stork? 27. Kasey
6. Food for Thought 17. Anamika 28. Mali (No Kidding)
7. Lori Lavender Luz 18. Parul Thakur | Happiness & Food 29. Mali (A Separate Life)
8. Lori@ Laughing IS Conceivable 19. Corinne Rodrigues 30. Amber
9. Traci York, Writer 20. Apluseffort 31. upasna
10. Esha @ Soul Talk 21. Cyn K 32. Obsessivemom
11. Modern Gypsy 22. Shail


1 Karen { 09.26.16 at 7:07 am }

I think we look ahead to the sweet because endings are hard and looking ahead makes it feel a little less hard. But I love that you’re sitting with this ending for a bit, and thanking it for the joy it brought you.


2 Cristy { 09.26.16 at 7:38 am }

The jobs that I’ve spent time saying goodbye to have been the ones that impacted me greatly. The moments taken to look back and say goodbye are important as it’s an acknowledgement of something special. Thinking of you today.

3 Wendy English { 09.26.16 at 7:51 am }

You’re post got me thinking. Wishing you all the best!

4 Nabanita { 09.26.16 at 8:22 am }

I’m very bad at goodbyes too but I wish you all the best. It was a pleasure knowing you but hey, we’ll continue to be in touch here. All the best 🙂

5 Lori Shandle-Fox { 09.26.16 at 8:33 am }

It’s sad to say goodbye to a happy chapter in life. I’m not big with social media for posting personal business but I’m so thankful that it’s kept so many people in my life from various chapters: High school, college… people who knew my family when I was a kid… All the best to you!! xo

6 Traci York { 09.26.16 at 9:03 am }

I think that saying a proper goodbye to this chapter before thinking about the next is exactly what’s needed. I’m sorry to hear about this change – it’s because of the site that I discovered NaBloPoMo, and Microblog Mondays (both of which contributed greatly to getting me out of my blogging rut). Thank you in return for being so amazing during the brief time we worked together (when a couple of my posts were published there).

7 Esha { 09.26.16 at 9:07 am }

Goodbyes may be difficult but they are also important because every ending is the beginning of something new! Saying goodbye is very important too especially if to a chapter in life that has brought you joy.Wishing you the very best in the days ahead. 🙂

8 Lori Lavender Luz { 09.26.16 at 9:17 am }

I am abiding with you so hard today. Big, big hugs.

9 An@mi { 09.26.16 at 10:00 am }

Goodbyes are really hard. It’s my first linky to Microblog Mondays. Did a slight mistake, posted the link twice. It is showing up on number 12 and 13. You can remove the first one. Very good to know you and your blog.

10 Jen@FrugalSteppingStones { 09.26.16 at 10:47 am }

I’m saying goodbye to my job of over 6 years in December. My kids need a little more attention, and we are in a good place financially where I can give that “I want to be a writer” dream a good go.

11 Anamika Agnihotri { 09.26.16 at 11:20 am }

Goodbyes are difficult to say in case one has spent a long time at a particular place. All the best Mel.

12 Kaeleigh { 09.26.16 at 12:16 pm }

Wait… Mel are you leaving THIS site? Or is it some other internet place that you belong to? I cannot fathom my world without you in it! Therefore I hope I was reading too much into this post and it isn’t the end for stirrup queens. Either way, I wish you all the love and luck in future endeavors. You’re an inspiration and you will be that where ever you go , whatever comes next! XOXXO

13 Parul Thakur { 09.26.16 at 12:34 pm }

I am also not good at bidding byes. It hurts and they scare me.
I am excited for you and I am curious what’s next. All the luck, Mel 🙂

14 Mrs T { 09.26.16 at 12:35 pm }

I wasn’t aware of the changes before today but I am wishing you a fond farewell to that chapter.

15 Corinne Rodrigues { 09.26.16 at 12:38 pm }

For me, BlogHer has meant you and Denise, Mel. It’s hard to imagine the website without you. I know you’ll do just fab wherever you go!

16 Laurel Regan, CZT { 09.26.16 at 1:30 pm }

The changes at BlogHer over the past couple of years have left me feeling so sad, and your departure is really hitting me hard. Thank you for all the writing opportunities you opened up to me while you were there, and I wish all the very, very best to you as you move on to your new adventures. Thank you for your friendship!

17 Shail { 09.26.16 at 1:52 pm }

Goodbyes are not the easiest of things to handle. I am bad at them.

18 Charlotte { 09.26.16 at 1:54 pm }

I am so confused!! Did I miss a previous post from you somewhere where you talked about this?? What are you leaving??

19 Working mom of 2 { 09.26.16 at 2:04 pm }

Confusion here too.

20 Risa { 09.26.16 at 2:22 pm }

Mel, are you talking about this site? Stirrup Queens? You must be talking about somewhere else. But yes, goodbyes… I’m not good with them. Crazy enough, even the jobs I hated, most of them I still had a hard time walking out that last day.

21 Stephanie (Travelcraft Journal) { 09.26.16 at 4:02 pm }

I’m not good with goodbyes either, but I’m glad you posted this. <3

22 loribeth { 09.26.16 at 5:09 pm }

I had noticed the number of posts in my blog reader feed from BlogHer had suddenly dropped dramatically. I am not sure exactly what’s happening there, but I am sorry you are out of a job you clearly loved. But I am certain there will be good things ahead for you too! (((hugs!!)))

23 Jess { 09.26.16 at 7:52 pm }

I love the idea of honoring the place you’ve been and gently closing the door while thinking on what a great job it was. It sounds like it was a wonderful time, and it’s sad that it’s over. Sometimes I think moving to the next thing too quickly leaves unfinished edges to what was before. I’m thinking of you and your slowly closing door. G0odbyes are so hard.

24 Kasey { 09.26.16 at 8:44 pm }

Wow! Such a long time to be in one place. There is a sadness that comes with leaving something inanimate that has been constant. It sounds right that you look back for a bit.

25 Middle Girl { 09.26.16 at 9:44 pm }

A proper send-off, a period of reflection, is apropos for time well spent in a place or position well loved.

26 Mali { 09.27.16 at 12:15 am }

Well done on years of dedication and inspiration. You’ve been a great influence on so many bloggers, and I hope you are rightly proud of that. I’m sorry that the job has ended, but hope there are exciting things ahead in your future. Knowing you, I am sure there are.

27 Amber { 09.27.16 at 1:33 am }

I’m not really sure what’s going on, but change is hard, especially when it’s something that you have loved being involved with. Hopefully it will just lead to other fulfilling things in the future!

28 Bea { 09.27.16 at 8:47 am }

Just hearing the news! Man! Definitely a moment for pause. End of an era.

Thanks for being a mover and shaker, Mel. I know you’ll move and shake on.

29 Denise { 09.27.16 at 10:07 am }

Sigh. I’m glad that it was. We did great things and you have a lot to be proud of. Thank you for all you contributed to our community.

30 Obsessivemom { 09.27.16 at 11:59 am }

I’m not good at goodbyes too and so I end up avoiding them. I’ve never needed to say goodbye to an inanimate thing like a website but it would certainly make me incredibly sad to do so.

31 em { 09.27.16 at 9:46 pm }

Really sorry to hear this. Very, very sorry. It was a great spot & you were a shining star there.

32 SRB { 09.28.16 at 6:07 pm }

I am very sorry to hear about this. I found you (and the ALI community thereafter) through your Pain Olympics on BlogHer. Will carry that post with me always. Thinking of you in your transition.

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