Josh and I have been decluttering, in fact we scheduled various decluttering days on the calendar. For instance, dedicate a day to decluttering clothing. Get the whole family involved in the process. Donate the clothing at the end of the day. Job well done.
Except that when life feels chaotic or unsettled, I have a tendency to hold tighter to things. I am like the squirrels who have sex in my backyard by the window, by which I mean that I like to store things on the off-chance that life goes to hell and I need them in the future. Like the aforementioned clothing. No, I’m not wearing that Nordic-themed sweater anymore, but that doesn’t mean that I won’t in the future if we are struggling to make ends meet and I can’t buy new clothes. (Who am I kidding? I never buy new clothes. I am allergic to clothing shopping; it makes me itchy. The only clothing item I acquire are t-shirts and a new pair of jeans — always the exact same kind — whenever an old pair of jeans get holes in the knees.)
All I can think is, “It’s mine.”
And then I think about the money wasted by purchasing said clothing and not wearing it enough.
And then I think again about how it’s mine, and somewhere inside me, I turn into Gollum with the Ring, stroking every item in my house while I call it precious.
Still, it needs to get done because we are suffocating in unused stuff taking up way too much space.
I didn’t read Kondo’s book because it doesn’t sound like my thing. I am not into minimalism; I’m just into organized spaces. In fact, in Googling things like, “Kondo, sad about giving my stuff away,” I came across the perfect article that helped me feel okay about my decluttering tactics. It’s what I’ve been using to make decisions, be okay with letting go of certain things, and be okay with keeping stuff that doesn’t spark joy but makes my inner Gollum roar when I think about releasing it from my clutches. We have space; we just need to use it better.
So, to sum up, my method for decluttering:
- Take all the stuff out and place it on the bed. (That’s a good idea; thanks, Kondo.)
- Put back the stuff I know I wore recently.
- Put back the stuff that I feel very sentimental about.
- Put back a few things that bring out my inner Gollum and be okay with that.
- Take a photo of every item we’re donating. (I need to know in the future that something was given away and not misplaced.)
- Place items in bag.
- Donate items immediately.
What is your decluttering method?