10 Years Ago, My Blog Changed My Life
The title isn’t hyperbole. 10 years ago, I started blogging regularly — about 5 times per week — in this space. All lives change over a 10 year period, but when I look back at what has happened over the last decade, I can say, with certainty, that it was my blog that set everything else in motion.
So thank you, little Me-shaped space.
All the changes together add up to something huge, but the moments themselves were so small that if I hadn’t continued to write, I wouldn’t have known what else was to come. Isn’t that such an odd thought? In the individual moments, my blog has felt inconsequential, and I’ve considered walking away from it a few times, thinking it would free up time and not impact anything else.
But that’s not true. If I had stopped writing in this space at any point along the way, I would have missed out on so many paths that would have never been opened if not for sticking with this journey.
So that is my only advice that I can give you after 10 years of blogging. If you love it, if you love to write, then keep at it even if you don’t think you’re headed in the right direction. Even if you think no one is reading and writing your words will never impact your world. At the very least, you’ve written your truth. At the most, your words will lead you somewhere amazing.
10 years ago, the twins were toddlers. They were about to give up their bottles. We were trying to add another child to our family, and I was emotionally drowning. I had stopped teaching and didn’t really know how I was going to contribute financially to the family and be at home with the kids at the same time. I had an MFA, but I hadn’t published a book. I had a translation degree, but I couldn’t get translation work. I was so computer-phobic that I didn’t even know how to start a blog. Josh set up this space for me.
10 years later, the twins have graduated elementary school. They’ve been following their own bliss, making video games and writing articles. We walked away from the fertility clinics, and most days, I’m at peace with that decision. I work out of the house doing freelance writing and editing. I’ve published 5 books, have a contract for a 6th, and am finishing up a 7th. I taught myself several programming languages, and I’m currently working on making my first app. I’m considered an “expert” in online engagement, for what that’s worth.
I think most people will look at this space and think about how my blog had a hand in my work accomplishments, and certainly, it has. Would I have published all the books without it? Maybe. I don’t know. Would I have made dozens of trips to the White House without this space? Definitely not. I’m not minimizing the work stuff — it has changed my life.
But what I always think about is the drowning. The emotional drowning. And how this space released something in me so I could breathe again. It connected me to others who have held me up over the years so I’ve never felt like I was drowning again. This blog changed my life because without all of you, I don’t know where I would have ended up. Nowhere good. You yanked me out of my head and let me know what there were so many millions of people out there who were on parallel paths to my own. That is priceless.
Thank you for being here for the last 10 years. Thank you for responding to my words, which was the fuel that kept me writing. And that’s what I needed to do: write myself out of my head and into a community of “me, too.” Thank you for catching me when I jumped here.