She writes, “If your mum isn’t here to treat, do something nice for yourself, because she’s part of you.”
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— J.K. Rowling (@jk_rowling) March 6, 2016
I love this sentiment because she didn’t write, “Because you came from her,” which would have ignored a chunk of the population that has built their family through non-traditional means. She didn’t write, “Because she raised you,” because that may not be true, either.
“Because she’s a part of you.”
And regardless of your situation, the person you consider your mother is a part of you, even if you’ve never met her. Maybe she contributed genetic material. Maybe she contributed the right words. Maybe she contributed perfectly timed hugs. Maybe she protected you from the larger world. And because that woman has touched your life, her actions or her words live on inside of you. Every single human being in this world is tethering, in their own, small way, the generation before them.
You can make the day about looking ahead, or you can make the day about looking behind.
I am very lucky that I get to celebrate Mother’s Day with my mother this year. But I also like this idea of taking time to honour yourself because, in doing so, you also honour her.
So I am going to do something nice for myself this weekend. I’m going to go to a comic book store — something my mother has probably never stepped foot inside because it really isn’t her thing. But in doing so, I’m honouring the woman who encouraged me to march to the beat of my own, very loud drummer and not give up the things I love to fit into someone else’s idea of who I should be. So I’m spending some time with my Marvel friends before heading to her house to say thank you.
So do something nice for yourself this weekend.