596th Friday Blog Roundup
It was a week of bad news — not for me but for good friends — and it kept coming day after day. Bad medical results. A funeral. A gloominess hung over the week, punctuated only by more grey rain. I felt numb, maybe because our friends are too close so their news is too big to wrap my brain around easily.
Still, it was bizarre to find myself crying as I scrolled through Facebook because I read that a local clown had died.
Ken-zo the clown owned a bar in Baltimore that we visited a few years ago. It had a two drink minimum before the magic show, and I had my drinks quickly to get them over with because I don’t like alcohol. I ended up getting too drunk to read the book I brought with me, so I talked to Ken about magic. I just wanted to learn a few magic tricks, something I could master with my complete lack of coordination and my inability to carry through practicing hand movements for hours at a time. He humoured me and told me about various tricks that I could pick up on my own. I still have the list I wrote down before the show.
I couldn’t put into words why I fell apart with that story and not the ones that happened to people whom I care about a lot. Maybe it was the realization that we’ll all be gone someday. That one day someone else will be telling a story about a conversation they had with me, and they’ll muse how odd it is that I once was here and now I’m gone. Or maybe it had just been such a fun night, and this person who had built a space that made me so giddy with magic (liquor notwithstanding) was now gone.
It says something when you can quickly recognize a face you only saw once as you scroll past it on Facebook. It was that memorable a night.
Stop procrastinating. Go make your backups. Don’t have regrets.
Seriously. Stop what you’re doing for a moment. It will take you fifteen minutes, tops. But you will have peace of mind for days and days. It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.
As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “Plans in Pencil” (Family Building with a Twist)
- “This is Motherhood, Too” (Still Mothers)
- “Leading Up to THE Appointment (Part One)” (No Good Eggs)
- “Making a Transfer Plan (Part Two)” (No Good Eggs)
- “Other Options and Donor Stuff (Part Three)” (No Good Eggs)
Okay, now my choices this week.
Raven Rambling has a belated Mother’s Day post. It took her some time to put her thoughts into words. After years of being asked when she would have children, she realized this year that not only was no one asking her questions about family building, but they were pretending that her dogs were her children. She explains, “This Mother’s Day, which had been intended to make me feel included, made me feel more alone than any other Mother’s Day before it.” It’s a wonderful post about belonging.
Hope Floats Among the Cherry Blossoms has a post about something I think many of us has experienced — being the last person in a group without a child. Her online forum group is still in touch, and she tries not to talk about how she feels about this with them. “I edited it out because I did not want to hurt anyone’s feelings or push them away. But, the distance continued to expand either way.” It’s a post about not knowing where her journey will go, but realizing that different people come into your life at different times.
Lastly, My Perfect Breakdown has a post about her child picking up her husband’s mannerisms. She writes: “When we chose to adopt we knew we’d never see any of our physical attributes in our child … But, regardless of what our child looks like, what I didn’t really think about is that our child is bound to pick up on our mannerisms because children learn through mimicking.” It’s an interesting discussion of nature vs. nurture.
The roundup to the Roundup: Crying about a stranger. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between May 13th and 20th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.