Yelp for Fertility Doctors
I’ll admit I looked up my doctor on FertilityIQ, the new “Yelp for Fertility Doctors.” Why? I have no clue since I usually don’t go on review sites. But there I was, typing in his name on FertilityIQ.
I reasoned that it’s not as if I’d suddenly think crap of him if he had a low score and a bunch of negative reviews. I mean, my experience has only been positive, even caring. Still, I held my breath as the page loaded, as if his score was a comment on my common sense. Had I picked a good doctor or a total dud?
8.8 out of 10. A B+ in report card terms. Nothing to be ashamed of.
On the other hand, the doctor my mother used for having me got a 10.
Which made me sort of wish I had used him instead.
What the fuck am I talking about? My 8.8 doctor was not only kind and smart and helped me conceive the twins, but before I looked on this site, I would have said nothing but positive things about him. He talked me through a bunch of hard moments. He even called personally to apologize on a weekend when another doctor at the clinic forgot to call me back about test results. He is a good guy.
Yet seeing other people’s complaints made me feel… I don’t know. Like I missed something?
This is precisely why I don’t go on actual Yelp. I like my opinions to be my opinions. I don’t mind recommendations from people I know, but with complete strangers, I don’t know their motivation. Maybe they got pregnant easily with my doctor and therefore have warm feelings toward him. Maybe they never got pregnant and blame him. Maybe he told them something truthful that they weren’t ready to hear, or maybe he offered them the same compliments he offers every patient but they thought they were unique.
And now my opinion is my opinion plus that number — 8.8 — which didn’t come from my brain.
But still, knowing this site existed, I couldn’t help but look him up.
Have you looked up your doctor? Can a number change the way you feel about him or her?