Who Are Your 5?
I really love this idea from Lifehacker about keeping 5 people in your mind to mentally yank out whenever you get stressed. I sort of picture them like all the people who came out of Harry’s wand when he was fighting Voldemort in the graveyard. You know how they circled around him and cheered him on and grounded him and gave him emotional strength?
I decided to make my 5 Josh, the twins, and my parents. They are all 5 people that I know beyond a doubt what they think of me. (Unless I am utterly and completely wrong. Wouldn’t that be embarrassing? If I made them my 5 but they were all secretly thinking that I’m a drip.)
Anyway, I thought this quote from the article was important:
As long as they are happy with me, and see me as the constantly improving, evolving person I strive to be, that is what matters.
How much easier would life be if you only concerned yourself with the opinions of these 5 people? Somewhat impossible, but what a great thing to strive for.
But I also like the idea of making your 5 not people who actually know you and love you but people — real or fictional — who give you comfort. Like I was thinking about how Harry Potter is definitely in my 5. So is Quentin Coldwater and Lucy Pevensie and OfFred (from the Handmaid’s Tale) and Frodo Baggins. I get to carry all of them in my pocket because I’ve downloaded their books to my phone so I always have them with me. It’s nice to keep your friends close.
So who is in your 5?