571st Friday Blog Roundup
This has been a hard week to stomach social media and politics and opinions of the general public. It’s not that I haven’t observed disturbing statements on Facebook prior to this point, but I’ve been more disillusioned with politicians and citizens in general when it comes to discussion concerning the Syrian refugees.
These are people who have nothing, who have lost everything, who are terrified and uncomfortable and have been living with uncertainty for months or years or lifetimes, all because they were born in a certain place at a certain time. This could be you if you had been born to a different family.
None of us know how our lives will turn out; how current events will change our situation. It would behoove us to show compassion. When people show compassion, it is much more likely that compassion will be there waiting for you when you need it. If people withhold compassion, it perpetuates a system void of kindness.
I don’t know. I had to shut down Twitter and Facebook a few times this week, which rarely happens. Sometimes the conversation online saves me. But then there are weeks like this week where words harm more than help.
Stop procrastinating. Go make your backups. Don’t have regrets.
Seriously. Stop what you’re doing for a moment. It will take you fifteen minutes, tops. But you will have peace of mind for days and days. It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.
As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “Circle Game” (Stirrup Queens) — thanks, Infertile Girl!
Okay, now my choices this week.
Searching for Our Silver Lining draws a parallel between the hatred displayed in Paris and tensions within her family. She writes, “One thing that continues to baffle is how insistent those who foster hate and anger are of their position. There’s a certain pride they take in causing destruction and pain, as if it somehow justifies their own feelings.” This idea of creating pain to justify their own pain stuck with me for a long time after reading this post.
Waiting for Baby Bray has a very raw post about hitting her lowest point and feeling broken. I love this post for its honesty. It takes a lot of strength to be able to write a post like this; to know yourself this well and to give this piece of yourself to others in case stating the words helps someone else, too.
My Path to Mommyhood has a post about mourning the finality of never being pregnant. It has been happening in stages, and reaching this recent level comes about from needing to make a decision about frozen embryos. She comes to a place of peace by the end of the post: “I will move through this, I will heal and not be split, no matter how infinitesimally, between the hope for a pregnancy and the reality and beauty of adoption as our best choice for parenthood.”
Lastly, Infertile Fantasies is in the process of donating her frozen embryos, and she writes about infertility from the other side this time as a donor. She writes about finding other donors, and what she is learning from the conversation: “We can tell you that embryo donation is harder than you think. And not always the right decision. And other times, despite the difficulties, it is.” Moreover, I love that she links to a decision tool. There needs to be more conversation, more consideration, more support in helping people decide what to do with their frozen embryos.
The roundup to the Roundup: I can’t handle reading what some people are sending out into the world. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between November 13th and 20th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.