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566th Friday Blog Roundup

A few weeks ago, I won the crown on Battlefish’s blog, which is fitting since… you know… Stirrup Queens.  Queens.  Crown.  Get it?

Anyway, we hatched a plan for the crown.

I love this plan.

Somewhere over in Finland, there is a woman who is finishing her last round of chemo.  And she is going to get the crown.  But she’s not getting it from me and JustHeather.  She’s getting it from Thomas, as a very early (like 5 months early?) Random Act of Kindness.

Every year, there is a Random Act of Kindness Day in the spring:

March 9th Random Act of Kindness Day for Thomas was an AMAZING success in 2015! In honour of Thomas’ 10th birthday, more than 11,000 people pledged to change the world one act of kindness at a time on March 9th in his memory – and they did! We hope just as many people will join us again on March 9, 2016.

Kindness is something that should practiced every day, of course, but we’re asking people to be a little extra kind on March 9th. You don’t have to be anywhere specific or do anything specific – just look for ways to be kind wherever you are in whatever way you can.

So… in a small way… it’s sort of from all of us.  To this random woman.  Who has no clue that she’s going to get this big wallop of love.  I love our community.


Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.


And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Pages, Stages, and Rages has a rallying cry, comparing gun violence in America to our very own Hunger Games.  She talks about the comparative passivity and points out, “Since the horrific massacre at Sandy Hook elementary school there has been 142 school shootings.  That’s one per week.”  Not about infertility, but it is about sustaining life.

Lavender Luz has a post from the perspective of a birth mother speaking about open adoption and things she wished she had done differently in her own situation.  It’s an interesting read; obviously personal to her own life, but there is advice to discover, too.  It sort of makes you look back on all difficult relationships and wonder what you would have done differently with the knowledge you have now.

Lastly, PALS has a post called “Permission to Parent” about parenting after loss.  She writes, “I do see the irony in the fact that I gave myself permission to grieve, but I’m not so forgiving in allowing for imperfect parenting on my part. Or even the idea that these challenges and struggles are simply a part of the parenting process, regardless of what it took to get to that point.”  It’s about being grateful and realistic.

The roundup to the Roundup: The surprise crown.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 9th and October 16th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.


1 Amber { 10.16.15 at 11:05 am }

Bless you for making someone else’s day by giving away your crown. I love the random acts of kindness movement.

2 Lori Lavender Luz { 10.16.15 at 11:22 am }

I love our community, too. What a thoughtful thing to do. I hope this crown, imbued with kindness and healthy-wishes of so many who have known loss, brings this woman some of what she needs.

Thank you for including my post in the Roundup!

3 Kristin Zita { 10.16.15 at 8:52 pm }

Oh Mel, thank you SO much for this. That you thought of Thomas and chose to do something so lovely in his name means the world to me – especially since it’s not even his birthday for another 5 months! You have no idea how much I needed this today. It was kind of a rough week, so to cap it off by finding out about this is just perfect. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

4 Erin { 10.16.15 at 10:29 pm }

What a wonderful idea. I love the thought of this crown bringing the added warmth and love at a time that it is needed most.

Thank you for sharing about Thomas and his Random Acts of Kindness. I hadn’t known about that before, but look forward to taking part and sharing in 2016.

(Thanks for including my post in the Roundup too!)

5 Mina { 10.17.15 at 3:23 pm }

You really should read Danny Wallace’s Join Me. It’s how he “started a cult by accident” and RAOKs. Brilliant, it is. I see myself more as a RAOK doer than a Joinee, but I still find it a brilliant book. I am a Raoker. It makes the world just a little bit better.

6 JustHeather { 10.19.15 at 3:16 am }

It wasn’t until this post that I realized who Thomas is. I follow his RAOK FB page and participate. I am now even more excited to be donating the crown in his honor (on your behalf). I will be donating a 2nd crown to the cause also, because I like your idea so much. (I had decided this already before this post.)

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