565th Friday Blog Roundup
One of the claims to fame of my state is that it is the final resting place of Edgar Allan Poe. He was born in Boston, but his grave is in Baltimore. Every year on his birthday, someone used to leave three roses and a bottle of cognac. No one ever knew the identity of the person, called the Poe Toaster, and the tradition went from 1949 to 2012. The torch may have passed to more than one person during that time.
But for the last few years, the Poe Toaster hasn’t shown up. The Maryland Historical Society is holding auditions to revive the tradition. I don’t know how I feel about it.
My first instinct was to enter, but then I thought, doesn’t the tradition lose something in turning it into a contest? There was something so sweet, so heartbreaking, about an unknown person leaving behind these sentimental objects on the grave. A contest in the style of American Idol? Doesn’t the tradition lose something in the process?
F. Scott Fitzgerald and Zelda are also buried nearby, too. Don’t I live in a fun, literary place?
I did a guest post this week over at One Step at a Time. You can check out my thoughts on parenting after infertility.
Stop procrastinating. Go make your backups. Don’t have regrets.
Seriously. Stop what you’re doing for a moment. It will take you fifteen minutes, tops. But you will have peace of mind for days and days. It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.
As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “34 Things I’ve Learned in 34 Years (Part Two)” (Real Life & Thereafter)
Okay, now my choices this week.
A Half Baked Life has a gorgeous post about feeling helpless in the face of troubling moments around her. The sound of crying emanating from a house, twins who have lost their mother, a friend assaulted, and a small girl needing 7 sutures in her chin. Please go over and read the whole thing.
My Path to Mommyhood both remembers the only time she was pregnant (and wondering if it would be the only chance she would get) and considers what if she had released herself from pursuing pregnancy earlier. She writes: “Sometimes I think about how much the desire to be pregnant took over navigating our journey, and if I hadn’t wanted that experience so badly, if I could have seen the baby for the bump instead of the forest for the trees, we could have been parents sooner.” It’s an emotional post.
Hapa Hopes has a post about doing a FET and sorting out how she feels about being back at the clinic. She writes, “I just know that I stood at that desk scheduling FET class and words like saline ultrasound, E2, FSH, and PIO were pouring out of my mouth like second nature again and I hated it. We’re heading down the gauntlet one more time and I fucking hate the gauntlet.” There is so much to connect with in this post.
Mrs. Spit has a post about being knocked off balance. I love this: “My mistake was thinking of grounding as one and done, fire and forget, steady state.” It’s an important read about embracing those times when we feel off balance.
Lastly, Articulation has a post about needing a pause button. As someone who often feels too full, who wonders how it will all get done and if I’m even doing it “right,” there was so much I related to in this post.
The roundup to the Roundup: The choosing of the Poe Toaster? I did a guest post. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 2nd and October 9th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.