Does Your Partner Read Your Blog?
Does your partner read your blog? Is he or she following you on Twitter? Hearting your Instagram pictures? Liking your Facebook statuses? Because, apparently, he or she shouldn’t.
I bookmarked and finally read this article about why you should not be connected to your partner on social media. The reasons are what you’d expect: people are connecting less in the face-to-face world because they assume their partner knows everything from the online world, plus the situation is ripe for people to see things that are better off unseen, like a casual, cute comment between your current partner and one of their ex-partners.
And… well… yeah. I mean, if you don’t connect offline, it’s obviously a problem. And if you are going to fret over your partner receiving a comment from one of their ex-partners, it’s probably a problem. But the article makes it sound like the only reason to be connected online is so you can tag your partner and chart your entire relationship in Facebook status updates. Aren’t people just connected online for the sake of being connected online? Because their partner is actually a friend, and it would be weird to be “friends” with a random stranger you met at a conference yet not “friends” with your partner?
Wouldn’t you find it a little curious if two people in a couple were active online but not connected at all to each other?
I would find it curious.
Ooooh, I’d probably sit around in bed with Josh at night and muse on why they’re not connected because I’m so nosy like that.
I love that Josh reads my blog. I don’t think he has ever learned anything here that he didn’t already know (or couldn’t deduce). The same goes for the rest of social media. A blog post more often elicits an eyebrow raise and an “it’s interesting that you wrote about that” or an “oh, I thought you’d write about X today.” He doesn’t have to read my blog, but it’s one more place he can connect with me, so I’m glad he does. I’m proud of this space; I’m proud of what I write. I don’t need him to hang onto my every word, but I always appreciate it when he says something about a post, which lets me know that he read it.
And I like seeing what he posts. He’s not actively blogging anymore, but he posts sometimes on Twitter or Facebook. It’s interesting to see what thoughts make it onto the screen.
So… does your partner read your blog? Are you connected on social media? And are you happy about it? Or do you wish you could say whatever you wanted to say online knowing that the person eating cereal beside you isn’t wondering about your last blog post or status update?