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Closing Time

Normally on the 28th of the month, I post the new IComLeavWe list.  For over 7 years, we’ve come together to celebrate the almighty comment for one week each month.  But the project has run its course.  I can’t say that this is forever, but for the time being, IComLeavWe is going to go live on the farm.

It’s really hard for me to write that.  I’ve closed a lot of projects over the last 9 years, but none have felt as personal as this one.  I love comments.  I love writing them, I love receiving them, I love reading comments on other people’s personal blogs.

Celebrating commenting is how I chose to celebrate my blogoversary back in 2008.  It was originally called NaComLeavMo for National Comment Leaving Month.  It ran from May 25th to June 25th.  214 participated in the first one.

We had so much fun that I decided to host it monthly.  The name changed to IComLeavWe — get it?  I Come [Alone, but I] Leave [as Part of a] We.  International Comment Leaving Week.  It’s been kicking around monthly ever since.

My hope is that one day I notice an uptick in comments, and it makes me wonder if the time is ripe to host IComLeavWe again.  And that we all get back together to talk about each other’s posts.

A major thank you to all the Iron Commenters over the years.

Thank you to everyone who signed up and commented during one (or more) of those almost 90 months of IComLeavWes.

Side note: tomorrow is #MicroblogMonday.  Get writing.


1 TasIVFer { 06.28.15 at 8:18 am }

It’s silly, but I feel part of the blame. I haven’t been around. And I lived IComLeavWe. Thank you so much for hosting it as long as you have. It has meant a lit to me. There have been really dark times when this was one of the few things that would bring me out of myself. Thank you so much.

2 TasIVFer { 06.28.15 at 8:19 am }

Gah – *loved*.

3 Rachel { 06.28.15 at 9:01 am }

I was wondering if this would happen. I always participate but the list has been getting shorter and shorter (particularly last month…) and it’s mostly the same blogs participating as well. Thanks for running it and I hope to see it come back one day!!

4 Mic { 06.28.15 at 9:02 am }

Wow. An end of an era. I agree, I’m partly to blame too. I don’t write often anymore and I very rarely have time to read blogs let alone comment. The death of google reader pretty much sealed my blog reading fate. Which is sad, because for years, blogs were my lifeline.

5 Katie { 06.28.15 at 9:09 am }

Like TasIVFer, I’m also feeling guilty that I haven’t been around much lately to comment. IComLeavWe got me through some terribly dark times in my journey to parenthood and introduced me to a number of women I’m still very close to today. Thank you so much for keeping it alive for so long, and for all you’ve done and continue to do for this community.

6 loribeth { 06.28.15 at 9:22 am }

I participated once — perhaps the very first one? It was a challenge (I do remember it was a month-long thing), & I don’t think I fulfilled it completely. But it was fun, & I always thought I would try it again someday, maybe when I was retired & had more time for blog reading & commenting. Oh well. Thank you, Mel, and thanks to those commenters who persisted over the years. I know my blog has certainly been the beneficiary of ICommLeavWe comments.

7 SuzannaCatherine { 06.28.15 at 12:25 pm }

As Mic said, it is the end of an era. I have never been a consistent commenter for many and varied reasons, but I have a lot of admiration for those who do.

I also want to thank Mel for all the dedication and energy she put into this project. I’m sure it truly was a labor of love.

Perhaps one day the time will be right to open it up again. Things do tend to run in cycles. I hope it does come around again!

Keep up the great work, Mel. You truly are the heart and soul of this community.

8 deathstar { 06.28.15 at 12:57 pm }

I joined for many months and I loved it. There was a time when I lived for it. I even loved it just existing even if I was not a part of it. Thank you for hosting it all these years!

9 JustHeather { 06.28.15 at 1:49 pm }

Thank you Mel! I haven’t participated for a while, life and myself just kept me from it. But, I am so thankful for ICLW as it introduced me to many new blogs when I was just finding my IF blog-journey on the interwebs.

10 Northern Star { 06.28.15 at 4:09 pm }

Thanks for all your work on this over the years. Knowing you, you’ve got other projects cooking that need more of your attention! This was loved and will be missed!

11 Cristy { 06.28.15 at 4:28 pm }

IComLeavWe was my initiation into the ALI community. And it was amazing to be part of this project. Unfortunately I’m also guilty because I haven’t participated in so long. The last couple of times I have I’ve failed to meet the commenting requirement. Still, this project gave so much to me. I hope that one day soon it comes back.

Sending you hugs today.

12 Lisa { 06.28.15 at 5:52 pm }

Thanks so much for all the work you put into this month after month for so long. I know that my blog benefitted tremendously from it, and I’m so grateful for that.

13 Mali { 06.28.15 at 6:56 pm }

I’ve done it a few times, but by no means regularly. I certainly couldn’t commit to it every month. I feel bad about that now. Though I wonder … do you think you could bring it back occasionally? Once or twice a year maybe? Maybe we could all then jump back on the bandwagon, and enjoy it as a fresh, new idea again?

14 St. E { 06.29.15 at 12:26 am }

I have not been regular at it either.

One of my recent resolves is to attempt my best to get back to the level of commenting I once did in my peak.

I am guilty of low commenting.

15 Heather { 06.29.15 at 8:52 am }

I also feel bad I haven’t been so active on it lately. But I suppose everything has its time and maybe things have changed so much for me – developing SA mom blogs now. But I don’t forget about infertility and I try and post about it every now and then.

16 Brenna Thibault { 06.29.15 at 9:04 am }

Thank you Mel. You’re a bright light for so many, and I’ll be forever grateful to you for the energy and love you share with the community. Never underestimate the impact you’ve had (and will continue to have) on so many of our lives, despite the diminishing blog comments.

17 Tiara { 06.29.15 at 10:39 am }

This made me a little sad to read. IComLeavWe was a big deal for me when I started blogging. I think I only participated 2 or 3 times but I always scanned through the list & fond many of the blogs I still read today on that list! It also got over my fear of commenting. I use to think, “who wants to hear from me?” I guess all good things must come to an end. Thank you for running it for so long!

18 Valery Valentina { 06.29.15 at 4:16 pm }

Dare I be the different voice here? I never got the hang of the ICLW and was always a little disappointed when I discovered you had posted not a normal post but an ICLW. But I understand it is hard to come to the end of a personal project.
I’m hoping along with you that phones and blogs will work better together in the (near) future and make it easier for people to leave comments.

19 CookieCrumbsInc. { 06.30.15 at 6:53 am }

I didn’t do as much as I should have *hangs head in shame* but my week kept getting crazier and crazier till I had to just throw up my hands in the air. Maybe next month *fingers crossed*

20 Kasey { 06.30.15 at 10:11 am }

I’ve never participated in this list even though I thought about it. Perusing the lists years ago I know I found a few blogs I still read. I do appreciate very much the different projects you host. Every time I participate I stretch myself as a blogger and find new things to read.

21 createdfamily { 06.30.15 at 8:15 pm }

Thank you for all you’ve done and continue to do to build community for us fertility challenged folks. It doesn’t go unnoticed. <3

22 Kate { 08.17.15 at 11:38 am }

I know this is way late, and shows how infrequently I’ve recently participated in ICLW – but just wanted to say Thank You for hosting as long as you did – I discovered (and was discovered by) a number of great bloggers I now consider close friends…

Thank you!

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