Upholders of the World Unite (and Yes, That’s an Order)
I took the New York Times quiz on how well I do with forming new habits. Go over and take it, and then come back and talk to me.
You’re back? Good.
So I received the grade of Upholder:
Upholders respond readily to both outer and inner expectations: they meet deadlines and keep New Year’s resolutions without much struggle or supervision. Upholders take great satisfaction from moving smoothly through their daily schedule and their to-do lists. They meet others’ expectations—and their expectations for themselves. However, Upholders may feel uneasy when expectations aren’t clear, when they’re worried that they’re breaking the rules, or when they feel overwhelmed by expectations they seek to meet. They enjoy habits, and form habits fairly easily.
Um… that is me. To a T.
I don’t struggle with resolutions because I love denying myself things. Dan Ariely has a part in one of his books about how self-control is a “muscle” and how if we deny ourselves things too often, we will overwork the muscle and cause injury to our psyche. Josh snorted and said, “apparently he hasn’t met you.” I am the type of person who will bake a batch of cookies just to have something around that I can deny myself. Upholder to the core.
And I need to know the rules. If you tell me the rules, I will follow the rules, even if the rules make no sense. But give me no rules and I become a nervous wreck, wondering if I’m doing something wrong. And give me no feedback on whether or not I’m correctly following the rules, and I will fall apart completely, baking cookies like mad just to deny myself a little extra.
It was the first time I’ve taken a personality quiz online and actually had it match who I am. How well did it define you?
P.S. I know I’m annoying in always trying to figure out the rules. Bear with me.