The Most Uncomfortable Conversation: Asking Parents About Their Guns
I’ve written about this before, but the funny thing is, the question about gun ownership and storage hasn’t gotten any easier to ask since I started doing it. You would think that now that I have had the conversation many times over, I would have found the magic combination of nouns and verbs and adjectives to make the whole thing less awkward. But I haven’t. Instead, I have to psyche myself up before the conversation, and then cringe the whole way through it until it’s done.
Cafemom had a great article this week on how to broach the conversation before a playdate, both when to have the conversation (before you get to their front door) and what to say. As well as an important point:
If you ask the question in a neutral, non-judgmental manner, treating it in the same way you would any other safety issue such as asking whether they have a carseat in their car for a driving situation, and they do become offended, that is your red flag.
I posted that article online, and a friend volunteered their gun status that I hadn’t yet directly asked. It made it so much easier. Just a simple exchange on the presence or non-presence of firearms and their whereabouts. And now we both know.
I wish it wasn’t so awkward. I wish it was an expected conversation vs one that people feel as if they need to dance around the topic.
Just a reminder… tomorrow is #MicroblogMonday.