523rd Friday Blog Roundup
My Queen’s Greatest Hits CD died. I got this CD before I even had a CD player. An ex-boyfriend from college gave it to me because he knew I loved Queen. I pointed out that I had no way to play it. (This was back in the good old days of the Walkman.) He told me that one day I would own a CD player (a mind-blowing thought at the time) and have a way to listen to it. He was right about that, and this CD outlived that relationship by a good 18 years.
I love this CD. It’s one of those things I stress-listen to. You know how there are books that you stress-read or foods that you stress-eat? I stress-listen to Queen.
The first few loops of the disc sounded fine this week. And then the CD started skipping. And now it pretty much doesn’t play. I am so sad about this. Luckily I had uploaded the disc to iTunes, so I can make a new copy for the car or play it off the phone. But still. The original disc is toast.
Goodbye Queen disc. You’ve served me well and brought me much enjoyment.
We are about 1 week away from the Creme de la Creme list CLOSING.
The 2014 Creme de la Creme list is open for entries until December 15th. No one will be added after December 15th. Read the post to see how to be a part of the Creme de la Creme, which is open to every member of the ALI (adoption/loss/infertility) community.
Consider that your weekly reminder.
Stop procrastinating. Go make your backups. Don’t have regrets.
Seriously. Stop what you’re doing for a moment. It will take you fifteen minutes, tops. But you will have peace of mind for days and days. It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.
As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “Of Mindfulness and Mourning” (Invincible Spring)
- “Support Infertility Bloggers by Shopping” (Amateur Nester)
- “Top Ten Reasons Why Gum Surgery is Easier Than Infertility” (Infertilityhonesty)
- “It’s Not Always Tea Parties and Colouring” (Waiting for Baby Bird)
Okay, now my choices this week.
Two Kids and Counting… Slowly has a post about online infertility communities, separating the outcome of trying from the need to speak with people who understand. She writes, “I have found over the last two years that it is important to keep in contact with ladies who are still trying or who talk of how tough trying to conceive was when they were, often and without shame. I don’t ever want to lose the community because I won’t ever forget the struggle no matter how it ends.” It’s a great post about shared experience.
The Empress and the Fool, in the wait of her final cycle, writes about how hope makes her behave as if she gained no knowledge from the previous cycles. The two week wait, that saucy minx, comes with the vague symptoms of early pregnancy and plenty of twinges (or not). As she points out, what has happened has already happened even if she doesn’t know it yet: “we spend the entire second half of it speculating on an outcome that has already been definitively decided – to implant or not to implant.” Sending lots of good thoughts for that final test.
Searching for Our Silver Lining has a thought-provoking post on how we bandy about the term “bitter.” She explains, “There’s the classic labeling for someone who is intent on making everyone around them utterly miserable. But I’ve also learned that someone can accuse someone else of being ‘bitter’ as a way to distract from the self-loathing they may be feeling.” “Bitter” is to infertility what “bitch” is to women: a word used to diminish another person. Go over and read the whole post.
Mama Bean Parenting has a gorgeous post (thank you, Ellen!) about rolling the dice when she closes her eyes, never knowing if she’ll be thinking about the present that never was or the past that was. A long time ago, she had a very different understanding of pregnancy: “Once upon a time, when childbirth was only TV shows and rose-tinted stories, this dream was mine to craft. I could look forward with an open mind and a hopeful heart about the exciting possibilities of My Turn. Not anymore.” Go read this very powerful post about her un-children.
Lastly, At Least I Still Have Humour realizes she can never say “guess what” again. You’ll have to click over to read the situation (and it will be very very familiar… as anyone who has people around them waiting for news can attest), and also to congratulate her on a job well done with the competition.
The roundup to the Roundup: Goodbye Queen CD. Your friendly Creme de la Creme reminder. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between November 28th and December 5th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.