Josh recently forwarded me an article about introverts and extroverts and how they respond physically to the world. At first, it was just a “hey, they described you!” sort of thing. But after a day or so, I think he started to realize, “oh… if that describes you, then I now get why you hate X, Y, and Z.”
The HuffPo article does a good job explaining the difference between shyness and introversion — it comes down to how stimulated you get from social interactions. Extroverts want a high level of stimulation; introverts need a low level. It also points out how life outside your home is structured with extroverts in mind: “most of our societal constructs cater to the former — from open office spaces to loud bars to the structure of our educational system.”
The reason I love working from home is that I really don’t thrive in an office space, especially one where I’m going to have to keep interacting with people throughout the day. If you put me in my house with a task, I will get it done efficiently. If you put me in an office space with that same task, I will take twice as long to complete it. I don’t like eating out in crowded restaurants. I would much prefer to watch a movie on our tiny screen at home than in a crowded theater. I’d love to go to ComicCon, but when I hear the number of attendees, it fills me with dread. I always have to sit on an aisle. I love being alone.
I need a lot of alone time.
I liked the article because it does a good job explaining how I could have no anxiety about being a lecturer at the university, addressing 400 students at once, or speaking at BlogHer, but it can take me two or three hours of mental prep time to get myself to go to a small party.
So… yes… so while it isn’t my first choice to go out to the movies, I go because it means a lot to Josh. While I need lots of down time in order to function which cuts into Josh’s activity level, too. But I love being married to an extrovert who leads me to stimulating situations that I would have otherwise never forced myself to experience. And he probably gets some benefit from being married to an introvert. (I think?)
Are you and your partner matched on the introversion/extraversion spectrum? Or are you in an introvert/extrovert relationship?
P.S. While you’re contemplating this, you could also be prepping a post for tomorrow’s #MicroblogMonday.