I have no problem with kids cursing. I don’t think it’s cute nor do I think it’s offensive. Words are just words, and it matters more to me how and where someone uses them. Our kids are allowed to curse in our house when we’re alone (meaning, no one outside our foursome is in the house) as long as they’re not throwing words around in anger at each other or at us.
But FCKH8.com’s new video called F-Bombs for Feminism leaves a really bad taste in my mouth (NSFW):
You know what… it’s the same problem I have with GoldieBlox, which is that it’s adults using kids to present their agenda. Those girls in the GoldieBlox video didn’t make that Rube Goldberg machine, and those girls in the video above aren’t conveying their own thoughts or feelings. They’re speaking the words that grownups want to say, that they can’t get attention anymore for saying, so they’re using kids to spread their message.
And that sort of sucks. I don’t like it when other people speak for me, so why should I ever support people putting words into the mouths of kids?
FCKH8.com lost me when they called them “these adorably articulate little ladies” as if they had all collectively driven themselves to the studio and recorded what had been gnawing at their heart for the last 6 years… you know… back when they were in diapers. The girls aren’t articulate. They’re reciting a script. That an adult wrote.
Kids CAN and SHOULD be taught to care about issues, and they best connect with ideas that they relate to directly because kids are self-centered. Not self-centered pricks, but self-centered because that’s where they are developmentally. A child, for instance, who has GLBT family members or close friends to the family is prime for understanding and speaking out for marriage equality. A child with no connection to that topic is going to have a difficult time relating to it. It’s important to instill openmindedness in a child so when they reach a more empathetic age they can leave their bubble and relate to the rest of the world. But there is a difference between gently opening their eyes to the larger world and shoving them towards ideas.
So I don’t think the video is cute. And I don’t find it shocking in the way that FCKH8.com intended for viewers to find it shocking:
Asking the question, “What’s more offensive? A little girl saying f*ck or the sexist way society treats girls and women” these adorably articulate little ladies in sparkling tiaras turn the “princess in distress” stereotype on its head and contrast the F-word with words and statistics society should find shocking such as “pay inequality” and “rape.”
The shocking part for me is why adults feel it is okay to use children in order to condemn sexism. Hells yeah, I want to combat sexism. But I don’t want to do it like this.