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518 Friday Blog Roundup

Happy Halloween!  I am going as the TARDIS tonight.  I was going to go as a Ravenclaw and wear my new robes, but I haven’t gotten them hemmed. (It has an unusual shape to the bottom seam, and I need to take it to a professional rather than hemming at home.) Not a problem wearing them around the house, as I am wont to do, but I didn’t want to get them dirty outside.  I was making a TARDIS shirt for Josh (and ended up making two for the twins and another for my Dad), so I made a fifth one for myself.  Simple Halloween costume that can be worn year-round.  And yes, I will wear it year-round.  Every day is casual Friday at my workplace.

We are passing out Hershey Kisses tonight.  It seemed like the most practical candy to distribute because if we have leftovers — and we usually have leftovers — I can use them in baking.  See, I’m always think-y.

What is your costume tonight?  And what candy are you passing out?


I should probably keep posting reminders through December about the Creme de la Creme.  So… here’s your reminder!

The 2014 Creme de la Creme list is open for entries until December 15th.  No one will be added after December 15th.  Read the post to see how to be a part of the Creme de la Creme, which is open to every member of the ALI (adoption/loss/infertility) community.

Consider that your weekly reminder.


Stop procrastinating.  Go make your backups.  Don’t have regrets.

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.


And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Bio Girl got an odd phone call from her mail order pharmacy about the Lupron she didn’t order that brought out old feelings.  She recounts the year being caught between the insurance company and the medication provider which ultimately led to her hysterectomy.  So this call came waaaaaaaaaay too late to be helpful, and only served to stir up frustrated feelings about the health care system.  A powerful post.

Res Cogitatae is on a roll (see above).  She has a post about her final transfer after 6 1/2 years.  This is the moment that quieted me: “I went into the room and the nurse left me there for a few minutes after telling me to ‘lie down and get comfortable’.  You can’t get comfortable in that room.  So I stared at the ceiling and told myself (again) that this was the last time I would have to stare at that ceiling.”  It’s a huge moment, that final transfer, and it made me hold my breath for her.

The Maybe Baby(Babies) is asking for advice on a conundrum: an unliked coworker lost his unborn child, and while she knows she is in a unique position to offer comfort having lost her twin daughters, their prior relationship colours the current moment.  Should she step forward to comfort when she knows he doesn’t like her?  Does any of that matter when someone is in mourning?  Give her advice on what you would do.

Lastly, We Say IVF They Say FIV has a post about Facebook reminding her of an acquaintance’s birthday who has since died.  Again, the awkward situation brings up a host of feelings since this acquaintance took her life two months earlier.  While no amount of friends reaching out can undo the effects of mental illness, she wonders about a person who was connected to 254 people, and how she had no clue what was happening internally when the external looked like a happy place.

The roundup to the Roundup: What are you going as for Halloween, and which candy are you passing out?  Your friendly Creme de la Creme reminder.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 24th and 31st) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.


1 Justine { 10.31.14 at 9:17 am }

I really want my own HP robes. My son is going as Harry Potter tonight, and I feel just a little bit of envy … 🙂

My husband is in charge of buying candy, and he buys it as if he’s going to eat it all, so he gets a huge assortment: a bag of mixed Twix/3 Muksteers/Milky Way, a bag of Kit Kats, a bag of Snickers, a bag of Reeses Peanut Butter Cups, a bag of mixed Hersheys’ … and the obligatory pretzels. I think he’s a nut. There’s no way we’re going to use all of that candy, even if it’s as busy as it usually is. *sigh*

I will take what we don’t eat (provided he lets me do so) to work. Where I will also eat it, but probably more slowly than I will at home, at night.

2 KeAnne { 10.31.14 at 9:34 am }

Daniel is going to be a witch tonight! He’s going to be soooo cute! And I’d love my own HP robes too. Like Justine, my husband is in charge of candy and yeah, a mixed assortment of stuff he likes, which is good since I don’t eat chocolate and therefore not a lot of candy in general.

3 KeAnne { 10.31.14 at 9:35 am }

Oh, and I’m festive in an orange shirt, long black skirt and orange & black striped socks.

4 lostintranslation { 10.31.14 at 10:49 am }

Thanks for mentioning my post in your roundup!
No Halloween celebrations here in France (although there is a bit more than a few years ago, but still a loooong way to go before it would come anywhere near the US celebrations), which is OK, because my oldest son hates dressing up, so I think it would be more stress than fun for him…

5 Lori Lavender Luz { 10.31.14 at 11:20 am }

Still need to get candy for tonight. But I’m going as Olivia Newton-John in her physical days, so I won’t be eating any.

Post a pic of you as the TARDIS?

Loved this from Tara: http://tarable.blogspot.com/2014/10/microblog-mondays-9-full.html

6 nonsequiturchica { 10.31.14 at 12:21 pm }
7 Mrs T { 10.31.14 at 12:47 pm }

I found this post by No Baby Ruth very moving: http://nobabyruth.wordpress.com/2014/10/27/microblogmonday/

8 Sharon { 10.31.14 at 1:36 pm }

My almost-8-year-old nephew is dressing up as Harry Potter tonight, and I wanted to thank you, Mel, because I have referred my sister to your posts about the books as a resource for how to talk to him about them as he reads them. (She wasn’t sure when he’d be old enough for each book, for example.)

I am not dressing up tonight–I have had a miserable cold all week and even missed a day of work yesterday because of it–and we bought a delicious assortment of chocolate candy at Costco for our trick-or-treaters. 🙂

9 Katie { 10.31.14 at 4:13 pm }

I’m not dressing up (I never do), but K is going as Doc McStuffins. We’ve had to hide the costume for weeks, or risk her going to school every day dressed up as Doc!

10 loribeth { 10.31.14 at 4:54 pm }

I never dress up, but I did get a headband/fascinator last year with a skull & crossbones on it, which I think I will put on again this year to hand out treats. We will be giving out our usual assortment of Smarties (like M&Ms but sweeter chocolate), Coffee Crisp, KitKat & Aero bars. And it’s a good thing we like them, since it’s a cold, rainy day here & I’m thinking we are going to have a lot of leftovers. 🙁

11 Sarah { 10.31.14 at 11:24 pm }

Thanks for including my post! xo I didn’t dress up but I always wish I had. Henry went as Link from Zelda and was adorable 🙂 We passed out Twix and Junior Mints 🙂

12 JustHeather { 11.01.14 at 3:16 pm }

I wore my devil’s horns to work today and the Grumpy Carebear t-shirt I have that says: Just Gimme the Candy. Very apropros for me. 😀 No trick-or-treating done here (boo hoo), so we didn’t buy any candy. I did have enough sweets for the day though. 🙂

I found this link for the week: http://searchingforoursilverlining.blogspot.fi/2014/10/reflections-on-egg-freezing.html

13 Jamie { 11.02.14 at 12:14 am }

This one I liked because the little things add up. It means a lot on a day you are feeling low or like it is all so much.


This one speaks to how quickly time passes while you are waiting, and waiting.


14 Turia { 11.04.14 at 2:14 pm }

Thank you so very much for the shout out! I was away last week and am just catching up on my feedly now.

I didn’t dress up. E. went as a monkey because that was the hand-me-down costume we had in his size and he had been refusing to even consider the idea of trick-0r-treating up until a week or so before. Hurray for hand-me-downs!

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