518 Friday Blog Roundup
Happy Halloween! I am going as the TARDIS tonight. I was going to go as a Ravenclaw and wear my new robes, but I haven’t gotten them hemmed. (It has an unusual shape to the bottom seam, and I need to take it to a professional rather than hemming at home.) Not a problem wearing them around the house, as I am wont to do, but I didn’t want to get them dirty outside. I was making a TARDIS shirt for Josh (and ended up making two for the twins and another for my Dad), so I made a fifth one for myself. Simple Halloween costume that can be worn year-round. And yes, I will wear it year-round. Every day is casual Friday at my workplace.
We are passing out Hershey Kisses tonight. It seemed like the most practical candy to distribute because if we have leftovers — and we usually have leftovers — I can use them in baking. See, I’m always think-y.
What is your costume tonight? And what candy are you passing out?
I should probably keep posting reminders through December about the Creme de la Creme. So… here’s your reminder!
The 2014 Creme de la Creme list is open for entries until December 15th. No one will be added after December 15th. Read the post to see how to be a part of the Creme de la Creme, which is open to every member of the ALI (adoption/loss/infertility) community.
Consider that your weekly reminder.
Stop procrastinating. Go make your backups. Don’t have regrets.
Seriously. Stop what you’re doing for a moment. It will take you fifteen minutes, tops. But you will have peace of mind for days and days. It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.
As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “Good in the Middle of Difficult” (Three Geminis and a Sagittarius)
- “Lonely Onlies (Part One)” (Res Cogitatae)
- “Lonely Onlies (Part Two)” (Res Cogitatae)
- “Lonely Onlies (Part Three)” (Res Cogitatae)
- “Amanda Bynes, Robin Williams, and the Spectacle of Mental Illness” (Let’s Queer Things Up!)
- “Floating” (Inconceivable)
- “They Are Not Here” (Infertilityhonesty)
Okay, now my choices this week.
Bio Girl got an odd phone call from her mail order pharmacy about the Lupron she didn’t order that brought out old feelings. She recounts the year being caught between the insurance company and the medication provider which ultimately led to her hysterectomy. So this call came waaaaaaaaaay too late to be helpful, and only served to stir up frustrated feelings about the health care system. A powerful post.
Res Cogitatae is on a roll (see above). She has a post about her final transfer after 6 1/2 years. This is the moment that quieted me: “I went into the room and the nurse left me there for a few minutes after telling me to ‘lie down and get comfortable’. You can’t get comfortable in that room. So I stared at the ceiling and told myself (again) that this was the last time I would have to stare at that ceiling.” It’s a huge moment, that final transfer, and it made me hold my breath for her.
The Maybe Baby(Babies) is asking for advice on a conundrum: an unliked coworker lost his unborn child, and while she knows she is in a unique position to offer comfort having lost her twin daughters, their prior relationship colours the current moment. Should she step forward to comfort when she knows he doesn’t like her? Does any of that matter when someone is in mourning? Give her advice on what you would do.
Lastly, We Say IVF They Say FIV has a post about Facebook reminding her of an acquaintance’s birthday who has since died. Again, the awkward situation brings up a host of feelings since this acquaintance took her life two months earlier. While no amount of friends reaching out can undo the effects of mental illness, she wonders about a person who was connected to 254 people, and how she had no clue what was happening internally when the external looked like a happy place.
The roundup to the Roundup: What are you going as for Halloween, and which candy are you passing out? Your friendly Creme de la Creme reminder. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 24th and 31st) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.