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512th Friday Blog Roundup

I posted about this on Twitter and Facebook because it has been on my mind lately.  Most of the twins’ friends are out of car seats.  My kids are still in boosters and will be for a long time because the recommendation (well, it ranges between recommendation and law depending on where you live) is 4 feet 9 inches or between 80 – 100 pounds.  My kids are nowhere near those stats.

It is — of course — a social minefield with other kids (mostly because kids need to find something to tease every other kid about — if it wasn’t their size, it would be their name or how they walk or what they bring for lunch): being the smallest kids in the class.  They’re not, there are a few kids smaller than they are, but they’re amongst the smallest.

This isn’t really something that concerns me deeply.  As I said, if it wasn’t their size, kids would find something else to tease them about.  I care a lot more about their safety than I do about wrapping them in virtual cotton balls so their feelings never get hurt.

But it made me think about this boy from childhood whom all the other boys called Smurf.  It had clearly bothered him a lot.

I ended up Googling him just to check that he turned out okay.  While it’s hard to really know much from a picture or two, he seems to have a great job and live in a fun place and every photograph shows him with a huge smile.

So I’m going to go with the assumption that all will be fine for the twins too.  Even if they are sort of smurfy right now.


Yes, this is your weekly reminder to back up your blog, social media accounts, and email.

And a specific one if you use Apple products: back up your devices BEFORE you download the new iOS!

Seriously.  Stop what you’re doing for a moment.  It will take you fifteen minutes, tops.  But you will have peace of mind for days and days.  It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.


And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Outlandish Notions has a post about writing under a pseudonym, but moreover, how her pseudonym is as much a part of her as she gave part of herself to become the name.  Two lines drew me in: (1) “There’s no way, I think,  for any single voice to represent all of a person. We cannot translate ourselves onto the screen as whole, complete beings.” and (2) “This space is nominally mine, but without you, it would be bare and sterile.”  Both an important reminder that no one can contain their whole self on the screen as well as the fact that we all play a role in the life of a blog.

Family Rocks: The Life of Peg has a post about perspective; both the good and bad that came from losing her sister.  The post is breathtaking; as in, it literally took my breath away as I read it.  Her world shifted, and she writes of how she used to see things and how she sees them now.  She writes, “I am a different person due to the accident.  Some good.   Some hard to handle.”  I am so glad she wrote this post and helped me understand her world.

Lastly, it was likely to happen if I’m hosting and reading #MicroblogMondays, but I once again have several I’d like to highlight.  Constant in the Darkness has “Understanding” which blew me away.  I had chills down my arms.  Invincible Spring has the sobering “Family of Four” about the invisibility of loss.  And “The Epiphany” by Serenity Now (the last microblog in that space!) gave me a lot to think about.

The roundup to the Roundup: My kids will never be out of their booster seat.  Your weekly backup nudge.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between September 12th and 19th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.


1 Peg { 09.19.14 at 9:30 am }

Thank as always Mel. Your support for my writing means so much.

And my big kids sat in boosters till they were 9 because they felt more comfortable being higher in the seat to see out the window. I eventually had to move Damon out of the booster (he met all the height and weight standards) because I coudn’t fit his brother’s car seat properly next to him and have Damon buckle in without a major wrangling exercise.

thanks again 🙂

2 Pamela { 09.19.14 at 10:50 am }

Can’t agree more on the need to backup and stay on top of the security holes in plugins. Sigh. Keiko totally saved my bacon last week when my blog was compromised.

Thanks for the nod in the roundup on Customers vs. Patients – When Doctors See Markets Not People. I continue to be seriously concerned about the predatory nature of packaging and marketing of fertility treatments as for-profit revenue centers. Will be talking to a NYT consumer health reporter about that later today…

3 gwinne { 09.19.14 at 12:19 pm }

LG is 10.5. And about 60th percentile for height (she’s 4 ft 7.5) and maybe 70 lbs. So I keep her in a booster, though she does not use one in some friend’s cars (peer pressure) and I’m okay with that, too. The shoulder strap hits her in close to the right place, and that’s the actual issue (decapitation is BAD).

4 queenjohnsonclan { 09.19.14 at 6:28 pm }

The law was different when we were still using boosters which was quite a while ago. The twins are tall but lanky and they have had gossip about being too skinny and taller than the other kids. So I think you’re right…Everything’s eventual 🙂

5 Bronwyn { 09.19.14 at 10:59 pm }

Kids and teasing. It’s like they’re pushing buttons at random to see what happens sometimes. For me it was skin colour and name, which luckily didn’t tend to bother me in either case, so the kids got bored and moved on. My sister wasn’t so lucky and the kids picked on her for things that did bother her. Or maybe she was more bothered about being picked on than me and it wouldn’t have mattered what they chose.

Good to think about the positive outcomes at the end of the day.

6 Lexy { 09.20.14 at 5:24 am }

My kid has the opposite problem. He is so large for his age. People do judge him for not being sweet and petite. For our part, we are watching him closely to make sure he doesn’t turn into a bully when he realises he is bigger than all the other kids (though he is such a sweet boy).

7 torthuil { 09.20.14 at 8:18 pm }

I enjoyed A Half Baked Life’s post about the spiderweb!

8 Tiara { 09.21.14 at 8:30 am }

I have the opposite size problem…Elena is a good year ahead in height & weight. Legally she could be in a regular booster/seatbelt but I do not feel she’s ready to be out of the harness style but finding one for her size was very difficult. Companies just assume that by the time the child meets the height/weight restrictions they are ready for the next step. I was able to find one that could accommodate E…for $800!!! I did get lucky though & found it on clearance for half price.

The other frustrating thing I encounter is people’s expectations of E since they assume she’s 4.5…add in her speech delay & they just discount her. I worry for her.

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