500th Friday Blog Roundup
This is the 500th Roundup.
The 500th Roundup coincides this week with my 8th blogoversary, though we’re still a few weeks out from the 8th anniversary of the Roundup. I started it a few weeks after I started my blog. Part of me didn’t want to write the Roundup for a few weeks so the 500th Roundup could fall on the Roundup’s 8th anniversary. But that seemed like a waste of Fridays.
The 500th Roundup is actually the 400th Roundup since the numbering got botched along the way, but still… 400 times? 400 times I’ve sat down to write this post. 400 times I’ve highlighted a few posts I’ve read that week. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve missed writing the Roundup. That’s a damn good run.
So happy milestone, little Roundup.
And thank you, everyone, for reading the Roundup. For some of you, about 400 times.
I had to get blood drawn this week, so I decided to take the twins with me so they could see that blood draws aren’t scary. And by “not scary,” I meant that I planned to lie to them and tell them that needles don’t bother me. Sorry, kids, if you’re reading this.
So after pattering on for the entire car ride about how this is only going to take 45 seconds and the fact that I can’t drink coffee until after it’s over is more painful than the blood draw itself, we get into the lab and I get a phlebotomist who is not interested in having this blood draw be a positive experience for the kids to witness. I tell her which vein is the easiest to use, but she opts for another one. I ask her for the butterfly needle, and she pulls out the more intimidating-looking standard one. So the kids are getting a little squicked out. (Thank you, Knottedfingers, for the best word!)
And then she can’t get the blood out.
She’s wiggling the needle, trying to coax out blood, and I am grinning wildly at the twins, saying, “see, doesn’t hurt a bit.” And then I start to feel clammy, as if I am going to pass out. And the Wolvog nervous points out that this is taking a lot longer than 45 seconds. He’s been counting for a bit, and really, we’re getting closer to two minutes and there still isn’t any blood.
And then, right as I am about to set my forehead on the table and confess that I am a huge liar, the blood starts flowing. The clammy feeling passes and the phlebotomist finishes up. We leave and walk through the parking lot toward the cup of coffee I stored in the car.
Here is the reality: I’ve convinced myself that needles hurt a lot more than things like a trip to the dentist or a Pap smear or a dozen other appointments where I don’t get worked up beforehand. But that sharp instrument the dentist uses to poke the gums? That actually hurts more than a needle. And a speculum is uncomfortable and in for a lot longer than a needle. I’m not being a total liar when I tell the kids that it won’t hurt at all when they get blood drawn this fall for the first time.
Sometimes I can’t believe that I used to get blood drawn in the morning and give myself an injection in the evening. That I dealt with needles all the time. Maybe I’m just out of practice.
Time for your weekly nag:
This is just your friendly nudge to do your weekly backup. I know, I know, who has the time to create backups on a weekly basis? No one. But you still need to do it and forgo ten minutes of something else, once a week. Right now, before you do anything else, use this post to roll through a quick backup of your email, documents, images, blog, social media accounts, and mobile devices. Reading the Roundup on the go and don’t have the ability to do your backup right now? Email yourself a copy of the Roundup so that the email will serve as a visual reminder to get this task done. Ten minutes of your time once a week may save you a major loss of time and data down the road. Don’t have regrets. So, on your marks, get set, back up!
As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- None. No one found a post last week that moved them or made them think or cracked them up? (Yes, this is a guilt trip, but it is a milestone Roundup.)
Okay, now my choices this week.
If You Don’t Stand for Something has a moving post marking the 5th year of trying to build her family. She writes, “5 years. It should get easier. Or more tolerable. Or you hope that you just become desensitized to it all. Anything to help cope with it. But instead, after five years, I still come home crying and breaking down.” It’s a raw post that lays bare the reality of infertility.
A+ Effort muses about how far they are from adding a second child to their family, reflecting on how her own relationship to her sister informed the dream she had for her family’s formation. There’s a lot that resonated with me from the post, and again, it should be one of those required reading posts for anyone who doles out the solution of “why don’t you just adopt!” as the answer to infertility. I love the mindfulness with which she moves forward in building her family, and while she may think she needs to buck up, I think she has a legitimate reason to vent.
A Little Bit More wonders how others perceive her childlessness and tries to see herself through their eyes, especially after a woman jokes around with her about how terrible children can be. She explains, “She was talking like she wanted me to commiserate with her, but I just kept trying to change the subject. When I left, all I could think about was is that what she thinks of me?” But moreover, she opens up a conversation with her post on how not having kids doesn’t equal not wanting kids. Or hating kids.
Lastly, My Lady of the Lantern has an aching post about the child she is carrying and the child she lost, and how death keeps people eternally one age as the rest of us change. It is a post filled with wishes.
The roundup to the Roundup: It’s a milestone Roundup — 500 (er… 400). I don’t really love needles. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between June 20th and June 27th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.