494th Friday Blog Roundup
My friend (hi, E!) posted about Jessica McClintock shuttering her business, and I was mentally transported back to 1987 when a certain little girl (who would be me) stood before the congregation as a Bat Mitzvah wearing the most exquisite Jessica McClintock dress in the whole world. It had a full pink skirt with a crinoline to make it stick out a bit. (One needed to be careful with said crinoline that it didn’t get tucked into the back of your tights after you went to the bathroom, creating a bubble of mesh across your bum.) And white lace over the pink top. It was the embodiment of innocence. I loved that dress hardcore. I felt like a princess in it. Even though I sat with my legs open on the bimah. Such a lady.
There were other Jessica McClintock dresses, but that one is still my favourite.
I went to a Bar Mitzvah last year and was stunned by the clothes. As Josh commented, there was more material in the sleeves of some of the dresses we wore to Bar Mitzvahs than these kids were wearing over their whole body. I somewhat live in fear of dress clothes when the ChickieNob grows up. It is easy to find modest, everyday clothing in mainstream stores. LL Bean swim suits, for the most part, cover the body. Their t-shirts are not cropped to reveal preteen belly. Gymboree clothes look as if they were made for a child. I feel confident that I have choices when it comes to casual day-to-day stuff.
But dress clothes? That’s a different story. Spaghetti straps for toddlers? Black spandex contraptions for tweens? I haven’t deeply explored the world of dress clothes, but at first glance, I’m fairly nervous about how we’ll get through Bat Mitzvah season with bodies somewhat covered. I’m not asking for a lot. Just kids looking like kids until they’re not kids anymore.
So I’m sad to see Jessica McClintock go. At least, the Jessica McClintock of the 1980s. Those big, puffy marshmallow sleeves! And lace, lace, lace.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “Dear Infertile Friends” (Where the *Bleep* is Our Stork?)
- “A Love Project” (Where the *Bleep* is Our Stork?)
- “Remembering the 1 Samuel 1 Woman this Mother’s Day” (Waiting for Baby Bird)
- “Friendship 101” (No Kidding in NZ)
Okay, now my choices this week.
Constant in the Darkness has an amazing post about the insecurities she feels in the role of adoptive mother. It’s the battle between what she knows rationally, down into her bones, and the irrational thoughts that skim her mind. I love this line: “This all seems crazy to a part of me that is very rational. But it all makes perfect sense to a part of me that is frightened, afraid to let go, afraid to give in, afraid to trust.” And I especially love the place she gets to by the end of the post.
Slaying, Blogging, Whatever has a post that starts out about being a special needs mother, but morphs into a look at motherhood in general. That life doesn’t always go according to plan, and part of the job description is flexing your expectations. Changing the way you do things. Taking a step back to notice the good moments even amid the stressful ones. It was just a great Mother’s Day eve post.
No Kidding in NZ has a moving post, poetically written, waiting for surgery while half a world away, people celebrated Mother’s Day. It’s a brief post — just two paragraphs long — but it packs a punch.
Lastly, Mrs. Spit has a post about feeling like an ugly duckling while comparing herself to another woman. She admits that there is no good answer to someone saying that they feel this way. That telling someone they’re pretty doesn’t help. And yet, we all have that need inside of us to hear that we are pretty. It’s a post that you will think about even after you’ve stepped away from the screen.
The roundup to the Roundup: Goodbye Jessica McClintock. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between May 9th and May 16th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.