A Virtual Hug for Blythe Danner
I’m going to start by admitting that I don’t really get celebrity hating, specifically Gwyneth Paltrow. Does she say clueless things? Yes. Is she out-of-touch with how the average person lives? Yes. Is she a product of her upbringing, as most of us are? Absolutely. But she doesn’t really warrant hate. She doesn’t kill people in order to get attention for her agenda*. She doesn’t blame certain groups for the ills of the world or deny the existence of atrocities. She isn’t violent. She doesn’t rape. She doesn’t hit or strangle. She doesn’t abuse her children. All in all, she’s a fairly innocuous person, easily ignorable. I know because I’ve ignored her for years so I’m positive that it’s do-able.
That’s okay. She’s technically ignored me for years too.
Image: WEBN-TV via Flickr
Reading the gleeful deconstruction of Paltrow comments — from her conscious uncoupling to her words about movie star parenting — all I could think of was Blythe Danner. How Blythe Danner was taking the evisceration of her daughter.
Because the truth is, I can handle (within reason; I mean, I’m not a stone statue. I have feelings) anything you throw my way about myself. You can mock me until the cows come home, and most of it will roll off my back. I can keep it in perspective. But mock my kids? I will hold a grudge so long that your great-grandchildren will feel my wrath. Yes, I am blind to seeing foibles in the people I love, and I will defend my inner circle to the ends of the earth. And that also means that my heart goes out to Blythe Danner. Because I’ve got a feeling that Gwyneth can handle her own criticism. But it is very hard to know that there are people out there talking shit about someone you love.
So… Blythe Danner, whom I’ve also managed to ignore for several years now (seriously, it’s not hard. I barely remember some of these celebrities exist until they pop up in a news article), my heart goes out to you. It cannot be easy to have a loved one in the public’s eye and to feel that wave of hate directed at your child.
Back to my GOOP-free existence.
* I’m making a lot of assumptions here, but until I hear otherwise, I’m going to keep assuming Paltrow isn’t mowing down innocent old ladies.