486th Friday Blog Roundup
The “Other” category on my iTunes account is back up to over 6 GB. An Applecare technician was able to reduce it to a reasonable amount right before Christmas. Unfortunately, she did this by giving me terrible advice that erased my phone completely, causing me to lose my contacts, calendar, and photos. But… you know… the “Other” category was smaller afterward, so it was an overall win?
And then I synced my phone and it jumped to 2 GB. I synced again and it was over 4 GB. And today, I had to sync my phone, and now it’s over 6 GB.
I’ve tried all the suggestions I could find online: turning off the phone while it’s plugged into iTunes (this is supposed to reboot it?), deleting old messages, deleting the cache in Safari, deleting apps that I added recently.
Before I call Applecare again and risk losing what I’ve been able to reconstruct, does anyone know how to reduce the amount of space taken up by “Other” in the phone? I’m assuming, by this point, that it’s corrupted files because the number jumps with each sync. But how do I get those corrupted files off the phone? Or maybe it isn’t corrupted files. Has anyone else had a problem with the “Other” category on iTunes, and how did you reduce the size of that category?
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “A Bleak Choice” (Abigail Rieley)
Okay, now my choices this week.
I’m going to touch the third rail here and link to two posts that I think are important posts to read. We will never move forward by sweeping our foibles under the rug.
A+ Effort has a post about positive adoption language, and the incident that happened on Facebook this week. She explains, “Bottom line: language matters. We, the infertility community, KNOW THAT. We bristle at ‘just relax’ or ‘it’s God’s will.’ We spend a lot of energy educating those around us that we have a medical problem and that it’s unthinkably rude to suggest maybe we aren’t meant to be parents … The community of adoptive parents* has as strong of an interest in teaching people to use appropriate language about adoption…” It’s a wonderful, respectful, thought-provoking post that points out that talking about difficult subjects doesn’t require perfection, but it does require the listener and the speaker to both be able to communicate openly with one another.
Additionally, From IF to When has decided to move to a new blog space, and also touches on the Facebook incident. Her post shines light on the responsibility of a host. If two guests started shouting at each other in your living room, you would jump into the fight and try to quell the hurt feelings. You would maybe moderate the conversation between the two sides so they could come to a place of peace. You wouldn’t stay in the kitchen, humming to yourself while you refilled the veggie dip bowl. And the same goes for online gatherings. When arguments bubble up, it is the host’s responsibility to address the tension: in another blog post, within the comment section, in individual emails, in a new thread. There are plenty of options, but silence or saying that you don’t have time to monitor comments isn’t one of them when it comes to responsible hosting. Or, silence/lack of monitoring is an option, but then the host needs to deal with the consequences of that silence. In this case, the silence hurt the community, and as I stated above, the only way forward through hurt feelings is forward. Yes, it may be upsetting to dredge up comfortable thoughts, but really, it weakens our community when we can’t speak openly with one another. Ultimately, if people are willing to listen and respond, a lot of good can come from those tough conversations.
And now onto other topics.
A Greater Yes is moving from family building to family living in this post about being almost done (in 2015) with trying to conceive. After being ensconced in this mindset for half of her life, she muses about how difficult it will be to stop thinking in terms of embryos and cycles after 16 years. She writes, “Honestly, I don’t know how to be anyone but this one. Almost my entire adult life has revolved around trying to become a mother. And now to complete our family. Yet I look forward to letting this chapter close and just focus on the children that I do have. No more looking for embryos. No more saving money for treatments. No more comparing medication prices. Just living.” It’s exciting and settling and scary, all at the same time.
Lastly, If You Don’t Stand for Something has a post about emerging from the long winter. It’s been a hard period of time, and all of her energy has been going into getting through it. (Well, and her remaining energy is going to Girl Guides — thank you!) I like this post because it’s a glimpse into someone else’s life, like looking through a window.
The roundup to the Roundup: Save me from the “Other” on my phone. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between March 14th and March 21st) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.