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468th Friday Blog Roundup

So there was a story on Thursday that Andy Kaufman had faked his death and was alive and well in hiding with a wife and child.  The faked-his-death idea has been around forever, but a 24-year-old woman stepped forward at the Andy Kaufman Awards this week to present herself as Andy’s daughter.

I didn’t really know what to believe when I read it in the morning.  I was trying to imagine how I would feel if my grandfather popped out of the woodwork this week and told me that he was alive and well, living under an assumed name.  I mean, on one hand, I would get to see my grandfather again.  But on the other; to know that I mourned and missed him — and he put me through that?  I don’t know if I could forgive him; if it wouldn’t irreparably change our relationship.  I’d get him back without really getting him back.

Of course, a few hours later, the identity of the girl was unearthed.  She’s an actress, and Andy’s brother recruited her for the role of Andy’s daughter.  It was just a continuation of the hoax.

Which just felt like a big drag, a letdown, a quieting.

How would you feel if you discovered someone faked their death?  Would you be thrilled to have them back in this world or want nothing to do with them after the emotional turmoil?


The 2013 Creme de la Creme is trucking along.  There are currently 62 on the list and about a month to go until the hard deadline (December 15!).  So, are you on the list yet?  Extra love to people who submit early!


And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

No Kidding in NZ has a great and thoughtful response to that longstanding statement that if you don’t have children, you don’t understand.  I’ll admit that I cracked up at the beginning when she said, “I wish I had a dollar every time I heard a parent say ‘no-one tells you how hard it is.’ …  Yes, they do.  (I want to shout).  Everyone tells you how hard it is.”  But she really gets to the heart of why people ask for empathy; and also, how we have a tendency to sometimes push it away before we can receive it.

An Unwanted Path has a wonderful (and admittedly familiar) post about being pregnant after loss.  She writes, “The day of an ultrasound? Oh, I’m okay. Peachy. Everything looks okay today.  It’s the tomorrow you have to look out for.”  I certainly related to it.  I bet a lot of other people will too.

Where Love and Chaos Reign is breaking up with infertility.  The post is tongue-in-cheek, but there is a lot of emotion contained in the kidding.  She writes, “It’s weird to think about what things look like without this relationship in my life. It’s been holding me back for a long time.”  But on December 12th, she is walking away from 10 years of family building.  It’s a wonderful post.

Lastly, Bio Girl has a beautiful post about her late sister’s wedding gift, now hanging in their window.  She is decluttering her house, and she pauses on her sister’s sign which her husband unknowingly placed in the kitchen.  You’ll need to click over to read what the plaque says.  And yes, you will become weepy thinking about the words from seven years ago to today.

The roundup to the Roundup: How would you feel if someone you knew faked their death?  The 2013 Creme de la Creme opened: is your post on the list?  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between November 8th and November 15th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.


1 Sarah { 11.15.13 at 12:25 pm }

Thank you for including my post. xo

2 K { 11.15.13 at 10:01 pm }

Ditto what Sarah said. I couldn’t understand my surge in traffic until I realized you must have linked up to me. <3

3 Geochick { 11.16.13 at 4:54 pm }

If someone showed up who faked their death? I would definitely be angry. Like super angry, and confused, and would need loads more therapy. I have to scour for my post to submit!

4 St. E { 11.17.13 at 11:43 pm }

I would not be shocked if someone dead came back alive. And I would be mad and upset.

On a silent tangent, there is a movie with a peculiar plot that seems to breeze my mind now and then. A wife discovers that her hubby is blowing a small wad of money consistently over something she has no idea of. Rather than confronting him directly, she goes spy, and realizes that the money is going to an orphanage. Why would the husband hide it? Years ago, the woman delivered a baby who she was told was dead at birth. That girl is alive and that is the child at the orphanage that is being cared for by the money sent by the hubby. The daughter that the woman considered dead is actually alive, and drama ensues to bring the child home. A person presumed dead comes alive.

5 a { 11.18.13 at 12:39 pm }

Ha – I have had pretty consistent not-really-dead dreams about my parents. For my dad, I was really confused and angry about where he was for months and why he won’t talk about it all, and it overshadows being glad to have him back because of how out-of-character that is. For my mom, I’ve only had the dream once, and it was more of a “she’s only going to be here for a few minutes” kind of deal and I was more concerned with rounding everyone up to get to see her. Either way, I was happy to see them.

6 dspence { 11.18.13 at 1:05 pm }
7 Shelby { 11.18.13 at 6:16 pm }

It really depends on who, although I think that no matter what I would eventually be angry. But I just caught myself fantasizing what it would be like for that to happen-to learn that someone I had thought to be dead was actually alive (thinking specifically of my Mom). I think I would be so incredibly overwhelmed by just being able to see her again, it would be easy to forget any feelings of betrayal (at least for awhile).

8 loribeth { 12.02.13 at 7:33 pm }

This made me think of stepMIL’s middle son who disappeared about 10 years ago. He used to take off periodically but never for this long. His sister (dh’s stepSIL) has made sporadic attempts to find him, without luck. She is pretty sure he is still alive, but is thinking about having him declared legally dead (for a variety of reasons I won’t get into here). StepMIL might be more forgiving (eventually), but I think stepSIL would be pretty pissed off if he ever did show his face again after so long.

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