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464th Friday Blog Roundup

The 2013 Creme de la Creme list opened for submissions this week and we already have 40 on the list.  Thank you to all who submitted early.  It makes writing the blurbs that much easier.  Off to do a lot of reading this weekend…

And if you haven’t gotten in your post yet, just know that the December 15th hard deadline sneaks up on you. (No one will be added after December 15th.  When the list goes up on January 1st, it’s complete.)  Put a note in your calender to remind yourself to submit so you don’t miss out having your voice included.  I’d love to have everyone on the blogroll (or could be on the blogroll) represented.


I’ve been struggling with my Halloween costume this year.  I am difficult to dress because I will only wear costumes that are warm and comfortable if I have to be outside.  No dresses.  No masks.  No makeup.  No crazy hairstyle.  Usually I just wear a sweater and jeans, and then I tell people that I’m a substitute teacher or a college student.

But this year I came up with something that only requires me to wear a hat.

That’s what the fox says!

Thank you, Ylvis, for my cozy costume.  And for including so many animals in your song.  If I can’t make the fox hat happen, I have many backup plans.

What are you being for Halloween?


And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Road Less Travelled has a thought-provoking post on expectations and how they impact our happiness.  But she also asks the all-important question: if those expectations are ultimately detrimental when they aren’t fulfilled, how do we enter something as hugely emotional as family building without expectations?

And then a different The Road Less Traveled (this time with a single L) has a post about waiting and looking for an answer.  It’s about reaching that point where her infertility just is: “I equate it to a little kid who has asked for a toy for Christmas and 37 Christmases have passed without that toy appearing under the tree.   At first it was frustrating, then it was disappointing, then it was depressing, and now it just is.”  It’s a wonderful piece about reframing how she views the wait.

The Barreness admits that she was thrown off by kind words left because it’s pregnancy loss awareness month, touched that someone else remembered her losses.  She revisits who she was back then and who she is now.  I love the end: “As I see that girl who was, I embrace her and whisper in her ear…  you did not do this to yourself.  This was never your fault.  You were never meant to carry that weight.”

A Good Mother has a post about restarting blogging.  I cracked up over the opening: “I debated deleting the handful of posts preceding this one and starting fresh, but I’m a notorious packrat and the thought of throwing anything away, even data, makes me feel…twitchy. So, I’m going to leave them there and just ignore them.”  But it’s really the meat of the post; what this new blog is about after a long time writing about her journey.  All I can say is welcome back.

Thinking Miracles has a lovely tradition of remembering everyone else’s babies on October 15th too.  She takes the act of remembering — something so inward and personal — and extends it outward like a hug.  I love that she does this.

Lastly, Riding the IVF Roller Coaster has a post about how surfaces may not reveal much about the contents below.  Though her life looks perfect on the outside, she’s falling apart on the inside.  It’s a good reminder that we rarely know how much a person is dealing with that they keep tucked away.

The roundup to the Roundup: The 2013 Creme de la Creme opened: is your post on the list?  What are you going as on Halloween?  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 11th and October 18th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.


1 Kasey { 10.18.13 at 10:16 am }

My Co workers daughter sings this song at the top of her lungs. Obviously I am doing something wrong I can surely come up with a song with better lyrics lol.

2 JustHeather { 10.18.13 at 3:38 pm }

Oh no..this song keeps getting stuck in my head… Partly because it is catchy and partly when we’re going through animals and their sounds with the boy… LOL

For Halloween costumes, for years I was a cat (sewn ears on an elastic headband and a long tail looped through a belt, I can explain more if you want) and then you just wear whatever clothes you want. Lately, as Halloween isn’t so big here, I just wear my devil’s horns hair clips. I love them and get tons of funny stares.

Belle writes about coming to terms with her post partum body. I love it to tears! http://scrambled-eggs.org/2013/10/17/my-postpartum-body/

3 TheMommy { 10.18.13 at 4:19 pm }

Well you made me cry! It’s nice to be back and I have a list of future posts as long as my arm, so hopefully I can make this work. I’m overcoming a huge wave of inertia but I’m determined AND this year is all about setting an example for The Moonpie. We do the things that are hard or scary because they matter.

A few sheets of felt and some glue and you could probably whip up an awesome fox hat.

4 nonsequiturchica { 10.18.13 at 4:20 pm }

Ummmm I have no idea what I just watched but I am seriously confused. I had to google the song and thankfully found out that it was a joke. But ummm wow I’m speechless.

5 Mina { 10.18.13 at 5:58 pm }

The fox song is hilarious! I’m going as Pam from True Blood in a velour suit this Halloween! Glamourous trash. Love it!

Also, fellow Barren Betty and I were feeling a bit down in the dumps over our IF journey so we decided to have some light hearted pumpkin competing fun. We’ve opened it up to the blogging community and would love for you to share it. The prize? Pride and honour of course! The real prize is laughter and joy. We need it. http://barrenbetty.wordpress.com/2013/10/18/pumpkin-competition/

6 Battynurse { 10.18.13 at 6:08 pm }

For Halloween I’m going to be a nurse. I have to work that night. Too bad I can’t dress up the babies.

7 Siochana { 10.19.13 at 12:18 am }

Thank you for sharing these great posts. What stuck with me this week was Sweetest in the Gale’s series of posts about caring for her grandparents’ very sick little dog. Especially this paragraph on mothering from her post “The Daisy Effect”

“Part of being a good mother is caring for your little one tenderly and always with hope and love, even when sickness and death darken the doorway. Mothers are warriors. We sit up at night and face what no one else can bear to face. We shepherd our children faithfully; whether on the path of life and health or on the path of suffering and death, we never leave their side. “

8 Siochana { 10.19.13 at 12:37 am }

Oh, and I’m going to be a salad for Halloween. Haha

9 Heidi { 10.19.13 at 2:05 pm }

You have no idea how honored I was that you stopped by to comment. And even more honored to be included here. You’re amazing.

10 Heidi { 10.19.13 at 2:06 pm }

Oh, and I am going to be Fluttershy from My Little Pony.

11 loribeth { 10.21.13 at 8:23 pm }

I was away this weekend and it was so nice to come home to a bunch of thoughtful comments on my post… and find out it was featured in the roundup. Thanks, Mel! 🙂

12 4evrmama { 10.21.13 at 11:18 pm }

I think I’ve been a hippie for more halloweens than I can remember. Helps that I have very long straight hair…

My favorite costume is the girl from the Blair Witch Project. I wore flannel and jeans, with a coat and grey hat. I even had a video recorder, backpack and a flashlight. WARMEST COSTUME EVER. Of course this year, we’ve decided to go on vacation out in the woods so we could skip the whole “deny your kid candy” thing.

13 Sara { 10.22.13 at 9:06 pm }

I have to click on the Fox video every time I see a link, which is often. For some reason, it makes me laugh hysterically even on viewing #50 or so.

14 St. E { 10.23.13 at 5:43 am }

Early starts are good, right?

I almost added a favourite post but it was on a day later than 18th…so I will have something for the next roundup.

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