I’ve Officially Turned into My Parents
I still remember the first band I found, entirely on my own. It was the Violent Femmes, and the girl who was too advanced at Hebrew school (didn’t every Hebrew school have a girl who knew just a tad too much for our age?) gave me a cassette tape in 1983. My parents called it noise. I loved it.
I also liked their music: Queen and the Beatles and Men at Work.
But I loved my music. I loved my punk bands. I loved going to Yesterday and Today and getting 7 inches. I loved going to live shows and shoving people in the mosh pit. Ooooh, I just loved my noise, the harder the better. Though I’ve always held a soft spot for alternative rock bands like the Femmes since they were my first.
I told the Wolvog that I wanted to have him listen to Billy Joel. We had been in Allentown, and the kids didn’t erupt into “Allentown,” which creeped us out. This was a huge gap in their musical education. We had to remedy it. The Wolvog sort of shrugged when I told him about Billy Joel, and he told me that he had found a different band he liked on Pandora.
“What’s it called?” I asked.
So I went to tell Josh and before we looked it up, Josh said, “watch it be Christian rock.” Suddenly, it hit me that our kid may not like our taste in music. I mean, sure he might listen to it and like it enough, but he may find another type of music that he likes more. More than punk rock. I started deep breathing when the Internet started spitting back at me song titles such as “Spirit of Life.” There were YouTube videos showing us nature scenes.
And then we hit play.
And discovered that BLACKMILL WAS DUBSTEP.
It was so much worse than we feared.
What next? Would he ask us to take him to clubs? Talk about wobble bass? Have us call him DJ Wol? Start wearing big headphones?
Even worse, when we tried to talk about it with our friends the next day, Josh called them “Blackwater” and I corrected him, saying, “he likes the music from Blackhill.”
To which the Wolvog called out, “it’s BlackMILL.” And then he proceeded to have to correct me on three different occasions when I continued to call the band Blackhill, like an out-of-touch adult.
What was the first band you found separate from your parents?
We actually think it’s pretty cool that he found his own music.