457th Friday Blog Roundup
Keiko sent me the Mindset List for the class of 2017, the incoming freshman at Beloit College. The point is to give people the students’ frame of reference, building the lens through which they see the world. These kids have never known a world with a living Jerry Garcia. I was in my grandmother’s apartment when I learned that Jerry died. I got on the phone immediately with my boyfriend. Jerry was dead and THESE FRESHMAN WEREN’T EVEN BORN YET.
Their whole lives, the Olympics have been every two years. They’ve never had a four year wait between Olympics. They have always had USB ports on their computers — WE DIDN’T EVEN HAVE COMPUTERS. Most of them have never had chicken pox.
The list made me feel very very old.
I looked at the list of the people who started college in 1998 since it was the first Mindset List they created, but even that one made me feel old. Those kids never had records. They don’t remember the Cold War or the Challenger blowing up.
They think our Star Wars special effects are “pathetic.” Fuck them!
These lists have made me become very ornery, yelling in a cranky manner at the screen about my uphill walk to school both ways. And how we liked it.
The twins and I have started the fifth Harry Potter and joined the Order of the Phoenix. I know I originally said that I would wait until they were much older for Book 5. But I started thinking about how books 1 – 3 go together in terms of scariness. And then there is a steep drop to 4 and 5. And then another steep drop to 6 and 7. So if they could do 4, they could also do 5. Whereas in 6, we start getting into the idea of murder splitting a soul and the concept of what makes a person take another person’s life (and the fact that there are people out there who kill not because they have a problem with the other person but because they enjoy the act of killing). And 6 kicks off that idea that there is nowhere that is completely safe and no one who will always be there to protect you, which I think are very scare thoughts for a child. So… yeah… drawing a hard line for a bit longer with Book 6, but allowing Book 5 to happen now.
I am so happy to be back with Harry, even though we were totally grooving on the Kairos. We’ll come back to you, Murry family.
This is it: LAST TWO DAYS. This is over on Saturday. It’s the last chance to get Measure of Love at $1.99. (Amazon featured it as a monthly deal for the Kindle for the entire month of August.) I would deeply appreciate any help you could give in getting word out about the promotion. Telling a friend, Facebooking it, tweeting it, blogging about it, etc.
If you’ve ever thought to yourself, “I sure would like to do something nice for Melissa,” helping me spread word for these final two days would be it. That would be the nice thing you could do that I would really really appreciate.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “Not Just Baby” (Life as Two)
- “Grief Intelligence: a Primer” (Huffington Post)
- “Should We Stop Blaming Facebook for Our Unhappiness?” (BlogHer) — thank you, Lori!
- “Next Chapter: Surrogacy” (Moonfish and Buttermilk)
- “Dear Friends of Waiting Adoptive Moms: Some Things to Know (also, we’re sorry)” (Wonderment, etc)
- “Knowing Our Limits; Even When it Hurts” (Where the *Bleep* is Our Stork?)
Okay, now my choices this week.
Stupid Broken Eggs has a post about her mother’s recipe for gravy (which we call tomato sauce); how her mother gave her the card with the recipe written out, and the first time she made the recipe back for her mother. She writes, “Will my son or daughter ever come to be? Will I ever get to pass this recipe on to them? Will they ever get to make their version of The Gravy for me?” Since she doesn’t know the answer to that, she has turned the recipe over to the Internet, giving all of us the opportunity to share in her family. I LOVE this post. And yes, I’m going to try my hand at the recipe; sans meat.
Invincible Spring has a post about the panda twins born at the National Zoo. Admittedly, I only heard about the one panda who lived. There was another panda who was born still. She writes, “And when I read that she groomed her dead baby for 17 minutes before relinquishing it to keepers for an autopsy, not only did I cry; I felt I got it, a little.” My heart hurt on her play with the word “endangered” at the end.
Inconception has a post about how she thought about people living child-free after infertility before she made the decision herself, and how she views them now. I love, love, love the end: “The reality of it is, now that I’ve made it, walking away from treatment is one of the bravest decisions I have ever made in my life.”
And lastly, Battlefish cracked me up with her post about bra shopping. As someone who would go to the ends of the earth for a good bra, she’s hit upon one of my favourite topics. I too am guilty of holding onto bras I know I will never wear again. Now I’m just waiting for the update to find out if the bra was any good.
The roundup to the Roundup: The Mindset List made me feel old. Started Harry Potter 5 with the twins. Measure of Love is on sale for only two more days (and I’d love your help continuing to get word out). And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between August 23rd and 30th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.