445th Friday Blog Roundup
Facebook sent me a note on Thursday congratulating me on hitting 700 likes on Facebook. (I’m well aware that by writing this, most of you will quickly unlike me, sending that number plummeting. But I got to risk it.) That rocked, but I did nothing. I mean, I literally did nothing. Other people clicked a button. Shouldn’t they get the congratulations? Why do we only congratulate the person who got the button clicks? Why don’t I receive a similar note from Facebook saying, “congratulations, Melissa, you’ve now liked x-many things! You rock in your liking. You’re a great liker.”
I do think of myself as a good liker. I’m a passionate liker. The things I like, I like a lot. I care about ice cream flavours and books and people and islands. I like things with my whole heart… no… with my whole BODY. I may only click a button on Facebook to show that like, but what I mean by that click of the button is that I LIKE it. Shrieking it, rolling around with it, hugging it to my body. That’s what my like means.
Where is the congratulations letter for that?
Too Many Fish to Fry has a really cool idea, especially for summer. Trying to reach a goal and have no idea how to make a dream a reality? Join along because there is strength in numbers.
I just discovered Candy Crush. I mean, I heard other people talk about Candy Crush, I saw it pop up in my Facebook feed as other people played it, but I hadn’t actually seen it myself. And then… and then… I downloaded the app. And now… I’m candy crushing. I am crushing my work so I can get back to Candy Crush. Every time I complete 30 minutes of editing, I allow myself one level. Oh my G-d, I love this game so hardcore. Help meeeeeeeeee.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “A Very Special Visit” (Life in the Last Frontier)
- “Hear Me, That’s All I Ask” (No Kidding in NZ)
- “The Important Thing about Yelling” (Hands Free Mama)
- “What Does Society Have in Store for My Mixed Race Daughters” (The Blessed Barrenness)
Okay, now my choices this week.
Pepibebe has a post about being labeled infertile. After worrying that the doctor would put up a fight because the normal number of insemination cycles is 12 and the author has only done 11, she is stunned to get her referral with the label of primary infertility. She has a conversation with her wife on the ride home: “I commented to Toku on the drive home that I wasn’t very happy seeing that written in black and white. She asked what I would have preferred, and I said for him to write ‘Unlucky so far.’ She drily remarked that diagnosis wasn’t very likely to get us any publicly funded IVF.” What can I say? I like her label better too.
Unconceivably Blessed has a post about holidays serving as a reminder of who isn’t here yet. She writes, “It made me realize how many holidays, family functions, vacations, or other occasions I have not fully enjoyed because of where I thought we would be in our family building journey at that time. How many times and ways I have imagined telling my husband or family and friends that we are expecting.” I love the last two paragraphs; that idea of turning off your brain and trying not to see the world this way. It’s difficult.
Lastly, The Bickerstaff Blog has a post about having to give up a dream position due to reality. When the opportunity finally rolls around to grade the AP exam — a longtime goal — she’s unable to take it because she’s finally achieved her other long-standing goal: parenthood. It’s the bittersweetness of living in a world where we’re told we can have it all, and then having reality step in.
The roundup to the Roundup: I’m a great liker. Project Dreamcatcher. I am being candy crushed. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between May 24th and May 31st) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.