425th Friday Blog Roundup
The Russian adoption ban has obviously gotten a lot of posts in our community in the last few days, but I really want to highlight an op-ed that appeared in the Chicago Tribune this week. Hopefully you’ll be able to read “To Russia, With Love” (because it seems to keep appearing and disappearing behind a paywall). It is not about Americans adopting insomuch as it is about the inverse; that a problem exists that needs addressing and shutting off solutions is not solving the problem.
I started crying near the beginning:
Since the news of the ban on intercountry adoption of Russian orphans by American citizens, there have been many stories about Russian adoptees who grew up to be Eagle Scouts, National Merit Scholars and even a Paralympian. Now that Russian President Vladimir Putin has signed a law banning the adoption of Russian orphans by American families, I’d like to share a different kind of a story, one that I assume is much more common. Mine is a story about lost mittens and sticky kisses and bicycle tires that seem to always need air. Nothing spectacular. Nothing newsworthy. Just the everyday life of an ordinary 5-year-old. But perhaps, given the circumstances of his early life, the life we have together is nothing short of extraordinary.
It’s all any of us want: to raise a child so that another human being can learn how to hug and pet a dog and sing a song and send more love into this world. To replicate not ourselves but our hearts: our goodness (which is not to say that we don’t inadvertently also replicate our badness as humans; we shouldn’t be pollyannaish about this). I know Toby, and she’s a good person. And good people can teach goodness. I am glad she wrote about the ordinary, which, as we know, is sometimes just in its mere existence extraordinary.
The 2012 Creme de la Creme is up. Obviously. Since it’s after January 1st. I really enjoyed writing it this year, and I’m sad that I’m not continuing to update it for a month, but I have to say that it’s a huge weight off my chest to have the whole thing up and done at the beginning of the month. I will definitely do it again like this next year, so look for the list opening in October 2013 if you missed it this time.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “This is…” (Mrs. Spit)
Okay, now my choices this week.
The Road Less Travelled has a moving post from New Year’s Eve. Life is barreling by, moving at warp speed, and then suddenly, a moment is captured in a snapshot. A game of tag around a car, which started out as laughter as she observed turned to tears as she realized “So much that we’ve missed out on.” It’s a moment that takes the reader’s breath away.
Hope Floats Among the Cherry Blossoms has a reflection on her former self during a conversation, the one who was prepared to take the world by storm and was giddily plotting out a new life with her then-husband. It’s a bittersweet reminder of how much we don’t know of what lies ahead at times, but it’s also a measure of her quiet strength. I especially love these lines: “I know I am in a place of transition once again. I just need to be patient. It is okay to grieve what was lost, honor it and put it down again.”
Lastly, FrozenOJ’s Concentrated Life has a post about a failed cycle (as well as looking ahead to the next one) that manages to capture that internal monologue that runs through every treatment cycle. The symptoms that get your hopes up and picking yourself up once they’re dashed, navigating a vacation and treatments (as well as laughing over the idea of relaxing on a vacation when infertility is nipping at your heels), the idea of taking off a cycle and all the problems that brings. The post winds and turns like a conversation inside one’s head.
The roundup to the Roundup: Chicago Tribune op-ed about the closing of Russia’s international adoption program. The Creme de la Creme is up. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between December 28th and January 4th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.