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422nd Friday Blog Roundup

This is it, my friends.  The Creme de la Creme list closes to submissions TOMORROW.  As in, the 15th.  At 11 pm EST.  If you want your blog to appear on the 2012 Creme de la Creme list, read the post and fill out the form before tomorrow night.  Or forever hold your peace because there will be no submissions accepted after December 15th this year.


I no longer seem to be getting Facebook message notifications.  Just a heads up.  A friend left a comment that she emailed me the recipe I requested.  I waited for a bit, checking email a few times, but the recipe never came.  I finally went back in Facebook to check there and saw that I had dozens of unread messages that I didn’t know had been sent.  I have notifications checked off for messages, but regardless, they’re not being forwarded to email.  So.

Apologies to everyone who has emailed me there, though to be fair, I have said countless times that if you want to reach me, email me directly rather than going through other social media platforms since I don’t always see those messages.

Is anyone else having trouble with Facebook notifications?  Is there a solution?


And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

Okay, now my choices this week.

Nuts in May has a Christmas post, and she brings clarity to something that it seems a lot of people feel in the winter; namely, that everything feels worse near the holidays.  Things that were bad in September feel terrible now.  Things that were bothering you are now eating away at you.  She describes her ghost child, her first child, but if nothing else, you should read it for lines such as this one: “And you don’t know the meaning of love or family until you’ve given birth, allegedly. Why not flay me and roll me in rimming salt while you’re at it?”

What They Never Tell You has a post about that age-old question: “How Are You?”  It’s an incredibly powerful post, and I think these lines should be required reading for everyone… I was going to say everyone who works in a medical field, but it’s probably better to just make them required reading for the entire world: “I was signing in for my D&C, the words ‘how are you?’ in a chipper voice and a smile didn’t have the effect that they should. I’d reached my limit with those words. I am not okay. I am not fine. I will not be okay today and I will not be okay tomorrow. 5 years from now or even 30 years from now, there will be a place in me that will never be okay.”

An Unwanted Path has a post about feeling off, mostly physically, but also emotionally too.  She explains, “Other than that, I’ve been feeling kind of nostalgic and my thoughts are running in circles. I’d write a post, but my thoughts keep slipping away from me.”  Isn’t that a perfect way to put it?

Lastly, Baby, Borneo, or Bust is also feeling a sense of unease; perhaps as Nuts in May points out above, it’s tied to the time of year.  It’s about looking at a life where you can count all your blessing and still feeling a sense of discomfort over something that you can’t quite name.  It is perhaps a familiar feeling to many parenting after IF: “I know what it means to struggle, to work hard, to try to overcome.  I don’t know how to exist in space where there is room to breathe, to live.  It’s making me antsy.”

The roundup to the Roundup: The 2012 Creme de la Creme list will close for submissions TOMORROW.  Facebook no longer seems to be notifying.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between December 7th and December 14th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.


1 a { 12.14.12 at 9:03 am }

I just updated the FB app on my phone and I’m getting about half the notifications I would normally get. It seems to just get bored with sending notifications sometimes. *Shrug*

I was going to put May’s post in here too. You beat me to it again!

2 Gail { 12.14.12 at 9:52 am }

Facebook is constantly changing. I’ll have no message notifications one week and have a ton the next. When I’m on the mobile site, it will look normal one day and all out of whack another. Sometimes the app works, sometimes not. I figure that I get what I pay for and, since it was free, I can only complain so much. But, I wish they’d just leave it alone.

3 S.IF. { 12.14.12 at 11:04 am }

I haven’t been getting the Facebook notifications either. I swear they just sometimes give up on notifications randomly to keep people coming to the site checking. It’s their own Pavlov’s dogs experiment, where they have discovered if they only give you what you want randomly – you have to keep salivating (coming back) to see if THIS time you’re going to get lucky.

4 a { 12.14.12 at 12:27 pm }

Note: Notifications on my FB page/on the site work fine. The ones on my phone – not working well.

I just found this today:


5 KeAnne { 12.14.12 at 1:57 pm }

I haven’t been getting them either. I loved this post by R. Sativus https://rsativus.wordpress.com/2012/12/13/birth-stories/

6 loribeth { 12.14.12 at 2:13 pm }

A great rebuttal to the “just adopt” comments we all seem to get: http://www.whitneyanderick.com/?p=5321

7 It Is What It Is { 12.14.12 at 9:48 pm }

As to the FB notifications, I get some, but don’t get others. I’ve updated my preferences, checked and rechecked them but now know to physically log-in to FB to check notifications there.

8 St. Elsewhere { 12.15.12 at 12:40 am }

Well, if someone leaves a comment on something I liked, or has commented after me, I always get a notification…for things other than that, I am no longer getting munchies into the mail….and it does not bother me much.

I do, however, manually go through all the side links and Activity Log, in case I missed something.

I have my favourites saved….will put them in later.

9 St. Elsewhere { 12.15.12 at 12:51 am }
10 Mina { 12.16.12 at 9:15 am }

Most of the posts about Newtown made me cry. The tragedy itself made me cry. Reading the thoughts of other people about it gave me a very personal look inside their soul and minds, more than any other occurence distilled into a post. Here are some of such posts:

Also, a very moving post about weaning.

A lot of children got away with more than they usually do this past weekend, and they got held very close and tight and squirmed to just get away and back to the toys or telly or book that waited for them. My heart weeps for those children that do that no more, be they from Newtown or anywhere else.

11 Azara { 12.16.12 at 8:01 pm }

Was so upset by what happened Friday that I completely forgot to submit to Creme de la Creme. Hopefully next year…I look forward to reading the entries.

12 deathstar { 12.17.12 at 2:03 am }

Yeah, meant to submit Creme de la Creme, but ahhhh…. shit happened this weekend, as you well know and …. my heart aches.

13 dspence { 12.20.12 at 11:19 am }


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