418th Friday Blog Roundup
My great-aunt died this week. She was very old, but I wasn’t expecting the call so when it came, I spent a few hours feeling very numb. I still feel numb. It took two hours for the words to sink in before I started crying.
I don’t even know how to write about it.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- For the first time ever… there were none. Can we do better this week?
Okay, now my choices this week.
The Road Less Travelled has a post about why she doesn’t like November. It’s not just the passing of her unfulfilled due date. It’s the greyness, the cold, the rush to Christmas. It is about the way grief has of anchoring you to a time period. She writes, “Sometimes I feel a bit funny, mourning the baby who never was born – the child who never drew a breath, let alone grew up — the future I looked forward to that never came to pass. I know my grief is real and legitimate. But sometimes I feel like I’m still stuck back in 1998… while all around me, more and more of my peers are not just in the thick of parenting, but becoming grandparents.” There’s a beauty amid the melancholy of her annual post.
Glow in the Woods has a post by Still Life with Circles about visiting fortune tellers. It begins: “I root for each fortune teller I meet. Say her name. Lucy. Lucia. Say it. Mention her.” It is about finding those tiny moments of comfort when you’re in mourning, grabbing them from whatever direction they come. And the one she finds at the final psychic is amazing. You will read the end of the post with your breath held.
Kmina’s Blog has a post about her lack of blogging and how it ties into a difficult time she’s having with her son, but it is so much more than that. It is about giving yourself permission to feel what you’re going to feel. For everyone who has sensed that they’re not up to the task of parenting or who feels guilty complaining based on promises you made yourself before you got into the situation, this post is for you. Because it’s actually one of the most brilliant, honest things I’ve read this week (and yes, I know it was from the week before, but I didn’t read it until last Friday afternoon).
Lastly, Aerotropolitan Comitissa has a very funny, heartfelt post about teaching her son patience (and discovers that she has a budding little blogger on her hands). I especially loved this moment: “At this point we have a little musical lesson centered around that well-known prayer – ‘Lord, grant me the serenity…’ I point out to him that this case falls into the ‘things I cannot change’ basket rather than the ‘things I can,’ because he does not yet always have ‘the wisdom to know the difference’.”
The roundup to the Roundup: Saying goodbye to my great-aunt. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between November 9th and November 16th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.