Fruit Facebook Status Meme
We’re about two months away from breast cancer awareness month, which means that we’re starting to see those cryptic Facebook messages that ask women to place the name of a fruit as their status (BLUEBERRY=single; PINEAPPLE= it’s complicated; RASPBERRY= I can’t/don’t want to commit; APPLE=engaged; CHERRY=in a relationship; BANANA=married; AVOCADO=I’m the better half; STRAWBERRY=can’t find Mr. Right; LEMON=want to be single; RAISIN=want to get married to my partner) or write I am going to X for Y months or write their bra colour or…
And you’re confused right, which is sort of the point of this post: if you are confused, this isn’t raising awareness.
Awareness is by definition a straightforward disseminating of information in order to make one knowledgeable. One cannot be knowledgeable if no knowledge is being imparted. For instance, if I wanted to ensure that people do a self-breast exam, I would write a post like the one Dameazon wrote a few weeks ago after she was diagnosed with breast cancer. If I wanted to be coy and make people cranky, I would write a random piece of fruit as my Facebook status and get people to Google around and find a post like this which explains to them that their Facebook friend is participating in an offensive Facebook meme. And yes, it is offensive because we’re talking about cancer and cancer isn’t something that benefits from games or coy memes.
And it’s offensive because the note itself excludes men (the point, actually, is to exclude men and drive them wild with curiosity! “Two years ago we had to write the color of our underwear on our wall. Men wondered for days at what was going on with random colors on girls’ walls.”). You know, men, who also develop breast cancer. And because it’s treated as a publicity stunt. (“Last time, the underwear game was mentioned on TV, let’s see if we get there with this one!”). Oh, and because the message always asks you to “send to all your girlie friends,” and by default, anything that calls my adult friends “girlies” is offensive.
By which I mean that I don’t take offense at the people who play, not really thinking about what they’re doing when they cryptically update their status; we all post things that we reflect upon later and realize were pointless. I take offense at the people who create this meme year after year.
But please, don’t post. Don’t write a fruit in your status bar or say where your purse is or the colour of your bra or that you’re moving somewhere or that you’re pregnant. If you truly want to raise awareness for breast cancer this year,
- Post a link to Dameazon’s post and encourage women to do self-breast exams.
- Post a link to Toddler Planet’s post about the lesser known inflammatory breast cancer (Toddler Planet died earlier this year from IBC).
- Post a link to WebMD’s page on breast cancer.
- Post a link to the Mayo Clinic’s page on breast cancer.
- Or feel free to share this post if you want a link to all four sites at once. And let me know in the comment section if there are other great breast cancer awareness posts out there that should be on this list that are written by people who have breast cancer and are using their blogs to educate.
Those posts have the potential to spread awareness. Use your Facebook status wisely.