398th Friday Blog Roundup
I am not balancing life well at this moment in time. I started the week off strong, but then work and obligations overtook me. I found myself thrashing about in a sea of words and code, with timesuck maelstroms dragging me under. I would go to bed at 1 am and then wake up at 7 am and try to get more work accomplished and couldn’t get a hold of my life.
This meant that I was incapable of purchasing soap.
Crap, you think as you read that: does that mean Melissa didn’t bathe all week? No, I showered, using Josh’s bar of soap the first day. I was then caught by Josh and it was implied through the way he incredulously intoned: “you used my soap?” that I was not welcome to keep using said soap. I then switched to a travel bar that I unearthed since I couldn’t get my shit together to go to the store. Until one night late in the week when I was out, and I nipped into the drugstore to grab a two-pack of Dove.
The next day, I stayed in my pyjamas until 4 pm — as did the twins — while I finished a project. Exhausted and mentally fried, I climbed in the shower to clear my head before I tackled the next task. And as I soaped up my body, I noted that the soap did not smell like my normal soap. Nor did it feel like my normal soap. This soap had flavour crystals or something that looked like little drops of Certs Retsyn. (How horrified am I to Google that and discover that Retsyn is copper gluconate. I don’t know what the hell that is, but it sounds like metal.) And it was scratching me. My soap was literally scratching me.
After the shower, I fished the box out of the recycling pile. It turns out that I not only forget my pants on long trips, but I can’t purchase soap when I have too many projects going at once. I apparently purchased an exfoliating bar, so I will be spending the next few weeks buffing my skin since I don’t have time again to buy more soap.
But as a side note: do you have your own bar of soap in the shower, or do you share one with your partner? I’d love to know the breakdown of how many people share or hoard their soap. We are soap hoarders here (though I am also a soap stealer when I need to be).
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week as well as the week before. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “Father’s Day” (Our Tiny Angels)
- “Overjoyed” (Finding Our New Normal)
- “And Another One” (For the Love of Baby Liam)
Okay, now my choices this week.
My Lady of the Lantern has a lovely, lilting post about the realities of her life. About the push and pull of life: she wants the cream on bread, she knows she shouldn’t have the cream on bread. She wants to return to work, she doesn’t feel settled returning to work. I loved the simplicity and the rhythm of this post.
No Kidding in NZ has a post about confidence that resonated with me. The post also provides you with a way to look at your own confidence levels. She writes, “And the emotions of pregnancy loss and infertility, failure and self-doubt as a woman, all these emotions pulled my self-confidence down. Initially, I was scared to go out, scared to meet people, in case the tears came, in case the awkward comments and questions were delivered.” I appreciated the rawness of her confidence dissection.
Lastly, last weekend was Father’s Day in the United States and A Little Blog about the Big Infertility has a moving post about Father’s Day, her father, and a song from the Lion King. She writes about her daughter, “Even though V is not biologically related, every one in my family notices she bears a resemblance, physically to my dad. And you may think this is weird, but sometimes she stares off into space and smiles like someone is there, and I wonder if he isn’t watching over us.” The post made me want to reach through the screen and give her a hug.
And a side note because this video is so much fun, from Pretend to Enjoy (a non-IF blogger, as far as I know):
The roundup to the Roundup: Do you share soap, or so you each have your own bar of soap in your house? And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between June 15th and June 22nd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.